My dog has recently died at the vet's and I didn't get a chance to say "bye" and now I feel really bad. What can I do to say one final word to her? eg. praying, candles...
2007-07-01 16:06:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
get photos of her, light some candles in remembrance, get her fav toys and her collar, take them to her special spot, if you can (don't light candles on a flammable dog bed!). Concentrate on her, envision her being next to you, focus on feeling her and calling her spirit to you (believe me, she is nearby you right now anyway). Let her know what you need to tell her by saying it out loud or silently (like a prayer). Know that even though she isn't with you physically anymore, you will carry her unconditional love for you in your heart always!
I am so sorry for your loss, I hope this helps. Here is a link to a poem that I found very comforting when I lost my dog to cancer last year:
http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.html
2007-07-01 16:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My heartfelt condolences. All of us who have lost beloved furry kids will know what you feel. I understand particularly the bit of not being able to say good bye. It has always been very important to me that I was there when my dogs were euthanased due to terminal illness. We paid the vet bills (including euthanasia) in advance and made an appointment.
Then we'd both (hubby and I) take a day off work and lie on the bed with the doggy or play and love and kiss and stroke him. And then we would start our final journey together. In the vet's car park, I would sit in the back of my station waggon (estate car) with the door up, and my dogs head in my lap or my arms. We 'd sit there for a few minutes, kiss and cuddle and say our good byes, then hubby would go into the vet's and ask them to come out. The needle would slip into the vein whilst I was holding doggy and talking to him, till he closed his eyes. Then I'd kiss him again and say good bye, and both Hubby and I would cry for the next few days.
With my favourite horse I did not get that chance. She died overnight in the paddock, aged 23 years, but fit as a fiddle. I had a grave dug out for her by a back hoe, and then asked the man to give me a break of about an hour, during which I just sat on top of the hill and talked to her. The flies were a pest, so I covered her in a thin layer of sand and earth with my bare hands and then we both had peace together. I just talked and absorbed her "presence".
What I would do in your case, I would ask the vet, if you could be left alone in the room in which your doggy died. Explain to the vet that you are having trouble coming to a closure, and that you recognise now that it was wrong not to have a personal good bye. Then just sit in the room, look at the table, imagine her there, talk to her and cry for her. It will surely help.
2007-07-01 17:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Semolina's Pointer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-20 23:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the same thing. I made a large collage that I put up in my room as a poster - it has pictures of my dog as a puppy, me playing with the dog, some quotes about dogs/pets, etc. It takes up less room than a scrapbook, but is also a great way to remember your dog.
2007-07-01 16:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably trying to say the same thing to you from doggy heaven.You know she would not have left your side on her own the same as she knew you loved her.I know how you must feel tho because my horse had to be put down earlier in the year and given the choice I couldn't bear to be around at the final moment.Pick a little spot as a monument to her memory and put on it photos of her,a little vase for flowers,a little candle.That's what I did for my poor horse.It is very comforting,because if his spirit is still around he will see that I saved a place for him because I loved him dearly.I also talk to the photos.It helps.
2007-07-01 16:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by carolhubac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok look I lost my grandpa (awesome man) my aunt and my best friend since preschools ginny pig all in the same summer so I know how ya really feel. if you have some of her or his fur, or ashes keep those with you. also, pray to them in heaven everyday. It'll make the pain go away. Also if ur not religious just ask igod.com for help =I
2007-07-01 16:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry ur dog died!but heres a suggestion to say "goodbye"to ur faithful companion.if u have sum stuff of ur dogs,like toys,his/her bed,etc,maybe u can have a little shrine for him/her.Maybe get a shelf,put belongings of ur dog on it,and light 5 or 6 or 7 candels all around the stuff(just make sure u dont put ur house on fire!!)and pray.I hope that helps u,remember,a dog can NEVER replace another.
2007-07-01 16:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry about this... but dont worry its just part of the circle of life! Just pray your goodbye... and look forward to seeing your dog in heaven later on!!!
2007-07-01 16:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss. Make a scrap book of pictures of her so you can always remember her. Then you don't need to say goodbye. When you want to think of her, open the scrap book and think of all the fun you two had.
2007-07-01 16:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she have a special place in the yard or house? I'd take some of her toys and go sit there, pour your heart out, don't be afraid to cry, remember she is no longer hurting.
2007-07-01 16:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Karen W 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋