i'm in love with my best guy friend & we've been friends forever but i would go to the ends of the earth & back for this guy. i love him so much but don't have the courage to tell him. i want to because i want to be with him so bad! he's nice & funny & we hang out all the time but the only problem i have with im is that he has a gf! but she doesn't deserve him one bit! what the saddest part is, is that i think about him constantly, & i flirt with hm shamelessly, sometimes even in front of his gf's face. i just want to go out with him so much but can't do it! help me please!
2007-07-01 15:51:55 · 19 answers · asked by lOvE LiFe & LoVe Me!!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will have to swallow your pride and only stay friends with him. You should never try to get someone else who is already attached. Do not tell him as it may ruin the friendship you have. Whether you think she deserves him or not, you need to stay away from him.
You don't want to be the cause of them breaking up. They say the way you get them is the way you lose them.
If He breaks up with her on HIS OWN accord, then you can tell him.
2007-07-01 15:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are flirting shamelessly with him all the time and he has a girlfriend, then he just isn't into you. You need a bf of your own! Spend less time with this guy, cause you can't get over him if you are staring into his big blue/brown eyes all the time. May I suggest that you tell him (one time only, no need to stalk him) that you are in love with him and if he ever breaks up with his gf and wants to date you then great, but until then you can't hang out with him anymore because you have feelings for him. If he never calls, then the two of you were never meant to be. If he begs you to not end the friendship, then be strong and say no. You can't get over him if you are with him all the time. Once you get a bf of your own then you will forget about this guy. (Unless he is "The One") It seems like his gf may be a bit intimidated by you if she is not saying anything to you for flirting with her bf, but for future reference, most girls hate it and may pull your hair out by the roots if you flirt with their guy right in front of them. Unless you know karate, then you should stop this. It's not very nice.
2007-07-01 23:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm going through the same thing, except the guy who i like doesn't have a girlfriend. what i would do in this situation is to wait until they break up, which will probably be soon because you guys flirt all the time & one day he'll finally realize she doesn't deserve him. after they've broken up, then either tell him how you feel, or if you're too shy to do that, then ask him to hang out & flirt with him all the time, soon hopefully, he'll get the message. for now, i think you should just wait it out & keep doing what you're doing... flirt with him like you always have been. & also, try finding other guys to flirt with in the meantime... just to "pass the time" while you're waiting for them to break up. & if your guy friend decides that he's never going to break up with his girlfriend, then at least you'll have other options ;] good luck!!
2007-07-01 23:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm, this puts you in a horrible situation, and i'm sorry for that! you may not want to hear it, but if he's your best friend, you should want to see him happy, right? even, even if that means being with another girl. I think that if you're in love with him, this much, you should tell him, let him know somehow, but if he doesn't feel the same way, telling him would help you get over it... you don't want to be the "other girl" you know what i mean? i think the best advice for you is to just... make sure he's happy with his girl right now, if he's not, maybe you have justification for loving him, otherwise, just want happiness for him.
2007-07-01 23:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him...seriously just be there for him and eventually he will see who was there for him all along..it might be a while but it will be well worth the wait. In the mean time try doing some exploring. After he breaks up with his gf...they you will know what to do.
2007-07-01 22:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do don't go out with him because your relationship will never be the same as when you are friends and he probably knows every bad thing about you since you are best friends and he will hold them against you as a gf but not as a friend
2007-07-01 22:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by kingjombeejoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just go out on a limb and just tell him. Let him know what your feeling. You never know, he might just feel the same way about you. It's better to go out there and just do it, then not do it and wonder what would have happened if you did. Even if it doesn't turn out like you wanted it to, at least you'll know that you tried :)
2007-07-01 22:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Julia P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i was going to tell you that life is short and you have to live it up and take risks and do whats best for you, until i read that the guy has a girlfriend. my advice? get over him. you cant have him so why keep trying? you are just torturing yourself over a relationship that's impossible to maintain... and in that time you are also wasting the chance to meet and like different guys. it will take time and work but you've got to tell youreslf to get over this guy. trust me!!!
2007-07-01 22:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by sophia bush 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there!!! try to talk to this guy. heart to heart and let him know what exactly and how you feel for him. who knows he might feel the same way for you also. we are only human. we commit mistakes in life. if he likes you to be his partner then grab the chance. if he says no then so be it.it's not the right time for you guys.. just tell him know what u feel for him. anyways, he is not yet married. be yourself take a chance. do what you can.. stay happy for life!!! chill
2007-07-01 23:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by claire a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweethart I am going through the same thing, except the guy I like is my friend and I like him, but he doesn't have a girlfriend. I need advice too so don't feel like you are the only one in the broken heart book.
2007-07-01 23:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋