But why Lord?

Question

Why did I come to live on earth with such discomfort?

Yes Lord, I do not work, I have never worked, because you inserted my soul into a defective body and expected me to be happy, which I have been struggling to be.

Oh yeah, Lord, I have two ears like anyone else, but why can't I hear out of them? What use are they on my body?

And dear Lord, I have two feet that can't carry me well. I wonder to myself if you are seeing what is happening to me.

Yes Lord, my 15 year old cousin has a baby and is leaving comfortably, while I am 25 and have never had sex due to discrimination.

What is going on with me, Lord? What have I done to deserve this?

Correction: Living comfortably.

Answer 1

It is people like you who are inspiring to me.

If we are nice to someone who is nice to us, there really is no merit in our being nice to them. It hasn't helped to shape our character. Our real character and real strength is built in the difficult moments of life, when we are weakest - when we are suffering.

You are a strong person. You are a strong person because you suffer greatly. If a person is born healthy, lives in privilege, "has it all" so to speak, and never suffers, it is very deceptive to look at them and think they are better off than we are. But look at the very people we think "have it all," namely, celebrities. Many of them, while portraying a facade of happiness in the limelight, really are depressed, unhappy, spoiled and unstable individuals focused on all the "wrong" things. I am not trying to judge them, but I am trying to make a point.

With all of your suffering, you have learned more and probably have a stronger character than they ever will. You are a stronger person than most because you suffer.

It is easy to get wrapped up in ourselves and forget about others and their needs, but when you are living with suffering daily, you are constantly reminded that the world suffers and every good thing that happens is a gift and any one of those healthy people that you see "living comfortably" could end up in an accident, etc. that would change their lives forever.

You haven't done anything to "deserve" suffering nor did anyone else do anything to "deserve" any privilege that comes their way.

Would you not say that you have more empathy and compassion for others who are in need and even a more realistic look at life than most?

I am constantly in admiration of the people I have met or have heard stories that have gone through enormous trials and still have the courage to keep going. It gives me a reality check and makes me grateful for all of the graces that I have been given. And when I am suffering, those people give me the strength and courage to realize I can get through my trials as well.

Without even realizing it, you may be helping the world in ways you never thought possible.

Answer 2

God doesn't do this. Life is imperfect. Before you say I can't understand, you don't know about me. What I do know is that you can blame God, because God is big enough to take all your anger, even if God did not cause it.

Your ears don't work. And if you did not have them, would you not be even more different?

Do you think a 15 year old with a baby will have an easy time? Do you think that baby will have an easy time?

Lots of handicapped people have sex. It is less likely that is discrmination than the fact that you see yourself as unlovable and unworthy of sex or love.

You may not be able to change some things in your life, but you can change how you think about them. I am not saying the stupid "think positive" garbage.

You are alive. You can eat and drink. You can see. You are not mentally impaired. You can type. You have access to a computer. Shall I go on? Sometimes it is better to be crippled in the body than crippled in the soul. You can't choose the first, you can choose the latter.

Look for a therapist that teaches congnitive therapy. It can make a world of difference.

Answer 3

As hard as it is to accept, we all have to play the hand we were dealt. Some have disease of their bodies to contend with, others have disease of their souls. Few are not afflicted with some burden that they must deal with.

As bad as your are there are some much worse. As good as you are there are some much better.
Accept your situation and do the best you can to find as much fulfillment as possible. The alternative is to feel sorry for yourself and never find fulfillment on any level.

If you can communicate on the Internet you are way ahead of may other people. Use it to increase your knowledge. Use the free time you have to learn and to think. Your body may be defective but your mind works.

I recommend developing that which you can. Give your mind a work out. Bulk up your synapses. You can accomplish great things right from your computer terminal.

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Answer 4

Wow! I was so moved by your entry. My son is only 3 now, but could likely write the same words by the time he reaches your age. Your body may be defective, but based on the words you've written here, your soul is beautiful. You were created with a plan and a purpose. God sees you, loves you, carrys you. I pray you find the hope to hold you as you discover HIS plan for you.

Answer 5

You don't seem in the right frame of mind to accept the "true" answer to your questions, because you seem "hell-bent" on blaming God, feeling self-pity, and looking for easy answers when there are none.

But reserve this for when you are through with your wallowing, and read on...

Have you ever read the book of Job?? If not, read it, preferrably with a "Bible Study" guide nearby to assist in understanding it.

The book of Job deals with the issue of not understanding why God allows certain things to occur. God had allowed Satan to do everything he wanted to Job except kill him. What was Job’s reaction? “Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him” (Job 13:15). “The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised” (Job 1:21). Job didn’t understand why God had allowed the things He did, but he knew that God was good and therefore continued to trust in Him. Ultimately, that should be our reaction as well. God is good, just, loving, and merciful. Often things happen to us that we simply cannot understand. However, instead of doubting God's goodness, our reaction should be to trust Him. "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6).

We simply have to trust that He is loving, good, and merciful – just like Job did – even when the evidence seems to indicate the opposite. Sickness and disease are the result of sin. God provided the “cure” for sin in sending Jesus Christ to die for us (Romans 5:8). Once we are in heaven, we will be free from sickness, disease, and death. Until that day, we will have to deal with sin, its effects, and its consequences. We can praise God, though, that He can and will use birth defects and other tragedies for our good and His glory. John 9:2-3 declares, "His disciples asked Him, 'Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?' 'Neither this man nor his parents sinned,' said Jesus, 'but this happened so that the work of God might be displayed in his life.'

(with the assist of "gotquestions.org"... thx)

Answer 6

God pushes us to our limits, and then... past our limits. And then farther, and farther still. And somehow, there's some rightness hidden behind all the wrongness.

We can't question it, because what's the alternative? Breaking? Giving up? Losing ourselves?

Yes, we can do all of these, and still God will push us, like we're clay in his hands or something. We can't escape the fate he gives us.

Then, all we can do is carry our undeserved burden as honorably as we can... ...and trust that it's temporary...

Answer 7

I am sorry to see you suffering like this.

Did you ever think about getting hypnotic life regression? That will answer your question(s). You need to see a good clinical hypnotherapist for that.

To speak in general terms (not you in particular) - and that includes all of us - nobody gets anything that is not deserved in one way or another. It is called Karma.

Answer 8

I suggest you read or in some way access the Biography and Autobiography of Helen Keller and some of her writing. (B1886-D1968) It may inspire you.

Answer 9

Not my words for your answer but Gods.

Job asked the very same question, Why me?

God answered Why not you?

Answer 10

Many Christians come to a point where they will ask God this question, "God! Why me? Why am i going through this suffering?"

"Are You not there?"

When our friends turn against us, when we have messed up big time, when our loved ones pass away, when we lose our possessions, when we suffer physical, emotional or sexual abuse, when we are going through immense stress and depression, we ask God, "why Lord? why me??"

"why? why? why me?"



There are times when every breath seems so painful. There are moments when we do not want to face tomorrow. There are periods of our lives when we just want to "escape it all"

It is good, and sometimes beneficial for Christians to question "why". Questioning challenges us to find out the truth, and to explore all possibilities of the situation that we are in. Contray to belief, we should question often, as christians.

But I caution that Christians should never question if God is there, for it is written, "..He will never leave me, nor forsake me..."

One thing is certain: that is God will never leave us.

However, we might lose the ability to "feel" or "detect" God's presence in our lives when we go through tough times.

It might be the sin we are in, it might be the distraction that we are so lost in, that cause us not to "feel" His presence.

It is as if God has "turned His face" away from us.

But still God will never leave us, even though He cannot stand to "look" at our sins, and distractions.

And if we will still ask why would certain things happen to us. Then i would say one thing to you, my dear brother/sister, "If God only allows bad things to happen to non-christians, then is the God that we believe in fair?"

God allows bad things to happen to christians and non-christians. The difference is, God has given us so freely, His power, His love, His assurance, His hope, in other words, HIS PRESENCE, to overcome and to conquer all things in Christ.

Romans Chapter 8 verse 37 says, "Nay (No), in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us."

We have the power to conquer all the "WHY ME" situations through Him who loves us so deeply.

And again the Bible says in Romans8:38, "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[m] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."

Corrinne May's song, "Everything in its time" says, "There are a thousand reasons why I should give up, but I am stubborn in the things i belief [that is the faith in God]."

Nothing, NOT EVEN the "WHY-IS-THIS-HAPPENING-TO-ME" situation will be able to seperate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus.

Read Romans8:38 again and again when you are facing tough times and hard situations. If you are able to grasp the essence of this verse, you will come to understand and believe that NOTHING will be able to snatch you away from God's love.

So, when you are running and you fall, when you keep walking and you cannot seem to find the finishing line, when you stop and see a tall wall in front of you, when you see your enemies challenging you, when you feel you are so lost, when you want to give it all up, remember that "we are more than Conquerors through Him who loved us" and gave His life for us.

Do conquerors quit?