help me make sense of this situation please- real help needed.?

Question

so heres the deal, there's this guy who i feel strongly attracted to though i'm not even sure why- i know this sounds corny especialy for those of you all who dont believe in the whole lve/luct at first sight thing but i literally felt the whole fluttery thing when i first saw him- and now he's my friend and i'm not sure if he's interested in me- he initially would flirt with me but since i tor he was a player then i shunned it off , but now i realized through his actions etc he really isnt a player..but i still dont know how and if he feels anything for me. The complicated part is i'm not sure myself what this is- sometimes i like him sometimes i dont, but still i cant get him off my mind and though he drives me crazy when i cant figure him out i still wanna talk to him. What do i do? His best friend is a good friend of mine who aparently likes me as well so i'm not sure how to play this... mature suggestions only please... in ur opinions- do u tink i like him? :) tnx

Answer 1

The answer is simple: print out what you've asked here and simply show it to him. Say, "I was going to ask other people for advice, but I decided I would rather just hear it from you." I'd delete the part about his best friend though...it might be a bit awkward :)

If he's the guy you think he is, and if he even remotely likes you, he'll see that you are the real deal and cared enough about him to ask strangers for advice...he'll melt like ice cream on a hot summer's day.

Answer 2

I know exactly what youre talking about when you say you felt the whole butterfly, fluttery things in your stomach. I have felt that twice in my life, and I am 30 yrs old.
The first time I felt that way was when I was 11 and in 5th grade. It was with a boy names Michael. I ended up dating Michael all through high-school. We broke up our senior year (totally my fault), married different people and ended up divorcing them. We ran into each other a few years ago and the sparks were still there. We tried to make it work, but due to our conflicting schedules ( we are both Army ) we just couldnt do it.
The next time I felt that way was last Memorial Day weekend at a party. I learned my lesson from the first time, so this time I latched on to him and we are still together.
My advice to you is, the feeling is obviously there, so take it slow and see where this friendship ends up. You probably cant comprehend the strong feeling you feel, thats why you are so confused. Give it time, life has a funny way of working out the way it should.
My man and I go through the confusion thing too, (its not always a walk in the park) so youre not alone.
Good Luck!!!