my bf spanks me all the time. when i'm a bad girl he will spank me until he thinks i have got the point (which he usually thinks takes about an hour for me to get) but my birthday is tomorrow and i really don't want him to spank me on that day but he insist that if he i do anything wrong( which i always do even if i don't know i am) he will twice as hard and i don't want him to tomorrow cuz we will be in front of my friends how can i make him stop for one day?
2007-07-01 15:00:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I seriously hope you are kidding about this. I really, really hope you are kidding. No one, and I mean NO ONE, has the right to lay a HAND on you in some form of punishment that is not RAISING YOU. Your boyfriend isn't your mother or father. He's got no right to lay a hand on you. That is abuse. There's no other way to put it. You do not have to obey your boyfriend. Get rid of that guy!!
2007-07-01 15:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
From what you say it sounds as if you quite enjoy being spanked, but just don't want to be spanked in front of your friends? Is that it? If so, propose a bargain - he can give you an extra-special birthday spanking after your friends have gone if he'll promise not to do it while they're around.
2007-07-02 06:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is forcing a sub/dom relationship on you when you have not consented to it.
This is not consentual, he is an abuser. End of story.
Sub/dom relationships are about loving correction NOT one person spanking the other out of anger.
Leave the relationship. It is not healthy. Simply tell one of your best friends what is going on- she will defend you (better yet, if your best friend is male).
You could also be ready to slap him in the face. That does constitute abuse but honey- do what you have to do to defend yourself. Do not under any circumstances give in to what he wants unless you want it too.
2007-07-02 01:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by Abra 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am going out on a limb here and think you rather enjoy being spanked. However if he is your boyfriend and you tell him not to spank you in front of your freinds, then he should do that. Not spank you in front of your friends.
2007-07-02 08:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by mikeae 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Is this something sexual? Either way, you would need to vocally tell him to stop because you don't like it and find it embarassing. If he has a problem with ceasing this behavior I'd possibly look at getting out of that relationship because it could turn into something very abusive and violent.
2007-07-01 15:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Loose the looser, and if you hear yourself defending him, or hemming and hawing over all his qualities, get yourself to a relationship councilor right away. In fact, get to a councilor tomorrow, and start learning why you have been participating in this relationship at all.
2007-07-01 15:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by crittersitterjenna 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its your birthday
just say what you want , then he has to do it too
stop spanking you, or whatever you want
2007-07-01 15:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him nicely to wait til you two are alone and that you will make it extra special for him if he does.
2007-07-04 05:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Chef dad 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For real...I'd say get another bf!
2007-07-01 15:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by Grace A 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMG tell him to stop and that he's being to rough!
2007-07-01 15:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by rubydoobydoo 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋