i hope this never happens to anybody but what would your do if you found out you son was a paedophile?

Question

as nasty as this sounds all child molesters are somebodys son. personally i could forgive my kids almost anything but this.
i know parents are meant to give love uncontionally but i could never get over this. i'd feel such shame and guilt

chloalikev well done for avoiding my question 10/10 for that but i was actually asking what YOU as a parent would do. all you said was they should have been raised right r you telling me no deviant ever came from a good clean cut family? wow seems abit black and white to me.

john m sorry to hear that i have always felt annoyed with the media i dont like the press even before a case gets to court and a person is found innocent or guilty the picture they paint is terrible. this is the reason i havent bought a paper in 5 years ok i read ones i find discarded on buses etc but i wont pay

some answers have really shocked me i'm so sorry to hear what you have had to go through i hope my question hasnt stirred up too many horrible memories.

Answer 1

Terminate him quietly. It provides both justice, and protection for the family reputation.

Answer 2

Well the sexual harassment of a child is disgusting, morally and horrifically on the development of the child. The child would most likely be scarred or hurt in some way throughout their lives, yet at the same time I think the situation of the pedophilia should also be accounted. I think that if it is a case of child abuse that the person should get maybe a 5 years - life + volunteer work + rehabilitation efforts. Child abuse shows that the convict obviously has a mental state that is harmful if reestablished to society, so I think more then anything a focus on rehab and work ( to pay back for what they've done through action rather then time ) is something to be accounted. Sexual harassment of a child is also a problem relating to a mental state... so maybe the same sentence I guess. I don't think that someone's should be taken regardless of the action, they could pay back through volunteer work rather then rotting in soil. Plus although I don't like to say it, these people have problems mentally that lead them to these actions.. So effort should be taken to help them although I think only a sufficiently decent response to this rehab and therapy should allow them to return to society, with some time done. I really think that effort should be taken to rehabilitate these people before we just kill them without the effort.

Answer 3

The same happened to me as ' LITTLE MOMMA' with my uncle and a friend of the family. Apparrently I said it for attention. I have 3 daughters and never ever wanted a Son because I think I would've been constantly watching him. I got pregnant and found out it was a boy. I got over the shock and started to look forward to seeing him. But unfortunately he was born Stillborn at 7 months. I had a daughter 8 months later, the grief was terrible. I am now sterilised. If I had a son and he ever done something like that 1st I would hear the facts and leave him to defend himself if I thought for one minute that he was guilty.

Answer 4

Wow this is a really tough question ,I am a Mother to three little boys but also a Victim of years and years of sexual abuse from a family member who also happened to be a police officer,so i know first hand how it tears you apart and the fear of every man you look at maybe being capable of harming you that way again,

No Matter how much i love my sons after being the victim of this horrendous crime ,I could never forgive them if they became that person that destroyed innocent lives in that way ,Because i know in my heart that there is no cure and they would harm that next child that thought they could get away with.

Answer 5

I see there are two things here, A pedophile and a person who sexually abuses children. A pedophile which by dictionary says "An Adult who is sexually atttracted to children", so being attracted I think is not so sinful as actually abusing children sexually is, so I would wait to get any evidence that he sexually abuses children.

Now once if I get an evidence that he abuses children then what ? I would wait (yes, I will wait!) until some parent of a child abused by him files a lawsuit against him and as and when the law requires, I would provide the evidence that I know and lawfully get him punished. But at any stage I would not take law into my hands.

Answer 6

I have deliberately not read any of the other answers yet as I don't want to be influenced in my response to this unlikely as that is it's still a possibility. We have no kids so it doesn't apply much in that respect but my reply is twofold first I would beat the sod within an inch of his/her life and then I would report his/her butt to everybody possible starting with the cops. None of this wishy washy aww it's an illness crap it's not an illness it's a perversion plain and simple and needs to be dealt with in the harshest possible terms. Remember your question said Paedophile not two kids playing Doctor and nurse that is something else entirely.

Answer 7

I would start by going to the health professionals and get help for those sickening thought running through his head !! I would never give up until I found somebody to help him before something horrible happened ! I would never forgive myself if I didn't!! If he acted upon his thoughts after everything I tried to get him help for I would have to disown him!! Put him in jail and throw away the key !! I would feel such shame and even worse for the victim!!

Answer 8

I have no idea what I'd do. I don't have children myself but have lots of nephews, nieces and god-children. None of us could ever imagine that someone we have seen growing from a baby to an adult could be capable of such evil. I think it might be "love the sinner, hate the sin" for me. No child ever says "when I grow up, I want to be a paedophile". My love for my family and friends is unconditional and if ever such a dreadful thing should happen I hope and pray that I would convey the 'hate the sin.....' thing.

Answer 9

If I knew my Son was a paedophiliac, (not sure if this is how it is spelt), I would disown him immediately, and make sure he received punishment for preying on the vunerable within society. I, personally, would castrate him immediately. Any sexual act is acceptable between two consenting adults, but to commit such an act on the vunerable, ie, any child pf this World is an abomination.

Answer 10

Now you know why so many kids don't speak up!!
I agree with you as a mother i just don't know how i would feel,:O( horrible thing to even imagine! i guess all you can do is teach your kids right from wrong and give them love and support,by all ways and means possible and hope nature takes care of the rest!!
There is really only so much a parent can do.

Answer 11

it would be the worst thing to ever happen to a parent and i feel sooo sorry for the ones who have to walk the streets with this hanging on them. but as a parent.... i would stick by my children no matter what all parents have there suspitions with the behaviour of there kids so it probley wouldnt be a shock at all?!!! but then people can suprise you no matter who they are. if its totally out of charactor, then that person needs some serious help and the parents should feel need to help that person.