My mom passed away a year and a half ago after battling a sickness. However, my dad still hasnt gotten her a grave stone or even ordered one yet. My siblings and I have repeatedly reminded him and given him suggestions about what to get and yet he still puts it off. My dad started dating a couple months after her death and married about a year after her death. I understand that he has a new wife and family but is it rude to keep requesting the grave stone?
2007-07-01 14:40:02 · 11 answers · asked by melinda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can choose one for him and have the family to gather the money to buy it. Maybe once he sees the family buying it, he may chip in or just buy it. Therefore, pick a nice head stones and make arrangements to buy it. Please allow me to offer my condolence to you and your family.
God Bless
2007-07-01 14:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sound like my uncle all the way. My aunt passed away a couple years ago and he met someone and remarried not long after that. Then he buys his new wife a new car but where is my aunts headstone? No where thats where. His son said something to him about it over and over but he never did anything finally his son had to yell at him and then he did it. Its not wrong to push the issue with him at all he may be married again but that does not mean a thing he needs to respect your mother and you kids and put a head stone up. Tell him it hurts your feeling maybe all of you can talk to him togthere and just keep saying something every day to him. Im very very sorry for your loss and I hope this helps.
2007-07-01 21:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by Amy D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
id definetly be like dad we need to talk. i know how hard it is about mom, and with (new wifes name) in the picture... but me and (siblings names) really would like to have a grave stone for mom....
maybe he needs to talk really good to someone about it.
and if that doesnt work, i say all your kids save up and have your aunts uncles grandma and grandpas even help..
and give it to dad for mom as a gift from all of you.
2007-07-01 22:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd take the situation into my own hands and honor my mother with a fitting marker....now that your Dads re-married its not likely he wants to spend time nor money for it now.
2007-07-01 22:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Why don't you and your siblings save up and buy the tombstone. It's not wrong to push it, but it seems to me that it means more to you and your siblings than it does your father.
2007-07-01 21:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by SpursFan123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're right to press the subject,new wife or not. he should do this out of respect for you and your siblings. is he having financial problems? if so, maybe you could all pitch in. headstones can be costly.
2007-07-01 22:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he still is having a hard time adjusting. perhaps putting up the tombstone would cause him anguish. perhaps you and your sibbling should go ahead and do it as it would take the emotional pressure off the dad.
2007-07-01 21:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its rude for you to keep asking him you probably want a peace of mind but maybe he hasn't ordered one because he doesn't want to accept that she has past on maybe you should try to talk to another family member like uncles or aunts to help you guys come up with a way to have him do it... or maybe just order it and tell him how much its going to be god bless...
2007-07-01 21:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Smile 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps he cant bring himself to pick one out. Why dont all of you kids get together, pool your money and get one for her grave.
2007-07-01 21:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no is not .keep pushing harder till he get it .is the last thing that he can do.
2007-07-01 21:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Gigi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋