I am in love with a man, a man that does not know how to love. And what's worst he doesn't want to admit that he is handling things in a wrong way and he doesn't want me to even try and help him. When I try to talk to him about it he gets upset and definsive. However my boyfriend has admitted that he has never had a real relationship and this is his first time being in love. I believe he has low self esteem no confidence and he is very insercure and at times immature. He becomes upset if my phone rings or if I have guys who are strickly friends. I know he loves me but he just does not know how to show it. He is so scared that I am going to cheat that everything turns into a agruement. (I have never cheated) He doen't know how to love and he doesn't know how to receive it either. I truly feel for him but at the same time I don't want him to pull me down. I could stay with him and set a good example of how love is or just save the headache and leave him alone. I love him what should I do
2007-07-01 14:36:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN AWAY. This person is not capable of a relationship. He is self absorbed, jealous, insecure, and has more than likely cheated on you. Hard to hear, but believe me very true. You deserve better....RUN!!!!
2007-07-09 14:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by TLB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fighting a losing battle if you think you are the solution to his inability to love.
As a retired Counselor, I can tell you it appears your friend has deep problems relating in a loving way. He likely was denied love as a child and simply cannot face it without professional help.
You need to suggest this to him in the strongest terms possible. Do not try to love his problems away or try to "fix" him yourself.
Jim DeSantis
2007-07-01 23:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the guy a chance...let him know how you wish to be treated show him and guide him...my husband was the same way and now we've been together nine years...he is the most wonderful man i know he just needed to be taught how to treat a woman and love her...he was willing to learn and if he is you just might end up with the best man ever!!!
2007-07-09 20:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiencing the same here, Unable to unconditionally give or recieve love in any capacity.
I on the other hand am open and understanding but not holding my breath on this one...
Movin onward and upward,,
2007-07-09 19:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by peach31522 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mz if you still love him give a chance and show him what true love is like and i am sure you wont regret it because i can see you care for him alot to so give him a second chance it might worth your while
2007-07-09 20:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can he love you if he doesn't know how? I would just let him go until he learned how to love you. I am sure that he knows how to love it is in ones nature to love. He just knows that he can treat you badly and you will let him as you continue making excuses for him. Count your losses now and chalk it up as a lesson learned well..It is not our jobs to sit around and hope that one day maybe they will learn..
2007-07-09 20:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he has to trust you!
i mean im in a relationship, and this is the first time that i was ever in love, and it is scary!, it scares the **** out of me!
i got jeluose REALLY eassy, and i still kind of do.
but, i thought to my self? isnt trust one of the most important things in a relationship? and being jelouse isnt going to help.
and so i started to trust her, i mean it was hard! but i am getting threw it, so you need to push your boyfriend to trust you. i hope i helped =/
2007-07-01 21:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by pat k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its obvious that he loves you and that you love him but if your thinking about leaving then it obvious that the love is fading
but if you truly love him then stick by his side and show him how to love and give a good example-wish you all the luck
-hope it works out
2007-07-09 19:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by hawii_girl25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to go to professional councelling with you. If he refuses, I'd let him go. He's a strange one, and you sound very unhappy. Why give love to someone who can't or won't return it?
2007-07-01 21:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on you will never be happy if he does not return the love
2007-07-09 15:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Georgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋