my husband just left for the navy a week ago... they mess wit his head so bad that is he is the hospital... he dose not want to go back to the base... i need to get him out ASAP... how do i do that??? if i do, and the doctor dose not let him go he has to go back, and the doctor let him leave it might take up to a month or even more.. CAN SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!!!!
2007-07-01 14:26:26 · 21 answers · asked by lindaho06 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I totally understand where you are coming from and wish that I had some advice for you, I just wanted to respond in a positive way since everyone else is acting like you and your husband are being weak. The Navy is not for everyone, and I understand that your husband wants and needs to get out. Too bad the Navy isn't a little more understanding about these types of things.
2007-07-01 14:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Golfer MS 2 · 2⤊ 7⤋
This all part of training. They will mess with your head, your emotions and your spirit. They will break you with all they got.
The US Military is something you don't get involved with.
If it has only been a week, then he still has a long way to go.
Nobody said it would be easy, but he is going to have to suck it up and do what he said he would do. SERVE his duty.
He is going to have to learn how to block out what he sees and hears. Do you want a weak man? Neither does the Navy. The Navy can't take the chance of having a soldier going crazy during a war and putting all others at risk.
So the best thing you can do as a wife is be the stronger person and advise your husband to full fill what he committed to. He needs you to be strong for him. He needs you to say, it will be OK, and I will be here for you. That is your duty of a Navy wife. Love him, be strong for him and wait for him.
Take care and God Bless the both during this time.
2007-07-01 15:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jennbugged 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know my husband had a bad time learning military discipline in the beginning.Smarted off to a chief ONCE on an ROTC cruise.
His father was crying like a baby in the begining.
(according to his mother and sister) WWII
My son called crying and saying he hated it at his military school as a plebe.(crying like his heart was broken,
But all 3 are proud that they made it and were proud they served.It is not easy. If it was they wouldn't have boot camp. My son just finished basic as part of his cadet program, after 8 months as a cadet ,he had most of it down and he loves it! The only bad part came when the drill sargent was mad about something and threatened to kick him out as unfit. He was really upset because he was worried he would loose his scholarship.
They are tested mentally and physically they don't want them freaking out under pressure in battle situations. They do it to everyone. Watch an officer and a gentleman.My son says it is very accurate.
Good luck
oh yeah, remember this and tell him if you can that the chiefs or drill instructors job is to help the navy by helping him succeed.Life in the navy is not like this all the time. It gets a lot better.
2007-07-01 15:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by FOA 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first week of training is so intense, many recruits have the same reaction. I know you're worried... but the Navy doesn't want people who are unfit for military service to be in the military... not any more than the people want to be in.
The thing is, though, that quitting something he could actually do would have a much worse impact on him, long term. If he is truly unfit for military service, they will determine that and they will send him home when it's time. But, if they evaluate him and find he just needs to find his internal strength, they will push him to re-enter training and stand by his commitment to serve. You see? They're treating him like a man... You need to treat him that way, too... not like he's your child and wants to come home sick from school.
Right now you need to do two things... And I know how hard this is for you.. but you really need to pay attention, because I know what I'm talking about. You need to let the Navy handle this. Your husband does not need or want his wife to bail him out of his commitment to the military. No matter what he says right now, that's the worst thing you could do for his sense of pride.
Second, you need to be his cheerleader. Tell him how proud you are of him, how much you know that he can be successful in whatever he does, including basic training. He does not need to hear how much you miss him or want him to come home... he knows that... he needs to hear that you believe in him... that he can do this.
2007-07-01 17:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Amy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost 100% positive there is nothing you can do, no wait I AM 100% positive. It is his name on his contract, and it is his duty to keep his end of the deal. I'm due to leave for basic in about a month so I know I'm not the voice of experience here, but everyone I have talked to said it's easy. The first few weeks are the worst... a lot of hurry up and wait, and of course you can't do anything right according to your RDC's but that is because it's their job to toughen you up.
Trust me they aren't brain-washing your husband or putting him through some kind of torture, they're teaching him responsibility and leadership as well as the Navy core values: Honor, Courage, and Commitment. Plus he'll be an expert at making beds and shining shoes after this is over ;) Let him finish, he needs to just tough it out. You become a better person for pushing forward when things get tough.
So my advice to you is to support him, not in quitting, but in finishing what he started. He may not be happy with it right now but he will thank you later. Good Luck either way...
-Adam
2007-07-01 15:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Adam W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you enlist in any armed services it is difficult the first few weeks. You just have to pull through it and soldier on.
If your husband was not meant to be in the Navy, the people that are looking out for his well being will make that determination. You cannot do anything about it but to do your best to support him.
Good luck
2007-07-01 14:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Paula B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 21:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by kennebeck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only going to be as hard as the two of you make it. Tell him to buck it up and get through it !! The Navy will take care of every ailment he may have. Physical, mental, stress induced and other wise. You have got to use tough Love here. Encourage Completely, Remind him of his Oath, and not to be so quick to quit. Calm down and stop stressing yourself and him too. Best of luck,,,,,,,what will be will be !!
2007-07-01 16:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he's not himself its usual for a man or women in the military. my cousin came back from Iraq and he used to joke all the time and goof off. when his term of service was up he was way more serious. he still jokes sometimes but there will be times where he will just sit there with a blank stare. if its worse then that tell the military and if they wont let him out then have him finish his term
2007-07-01 14:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The Navy will determine whether he is suitable for service or not.
You can't get him out. It's his contract. He has a good fight on his hands.
He's only been there a week and wants out? Everyone panics their first couple weeks of boot camp. You just learn to stick it out and eventually you find out that you are a much better person for honoring your contract.
Good luck
2007-07-01 14:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Milmom 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋