im really nervous (boyfriend trouble)?

Question

well, im 16 yrs old, and my boyfriend is 17.
when i was 15 i told myself that i wont have sex till i turn 16, so now im 16 and i feel like im really ready. im using birth control pills and condoms, believe me im being very responsible.
but the thing is, everytime i decide to go for it i get really nervous, like a 6 year old about to get a flu shot... my boyfriend doesnt know i wanna have sex but hes never pressured me and weve been together for a long time. i want him to be my first and i really want to be with him, i know im ready, but why do i keep feeling this way.

PS: im a virgin

and also please dont try to talk me out of it or critisize me about how young i am because im not changing my mind, dont tell me to wait, or to focus on school or anything, please just help me not feel nervous.

Answer 1

If you are nervous, you might ask yourself why? It's not our morality that is speaking to you, it is your own fears, and they should be listened to. Whatever happens, the best of luck to you, and I hope it helps you enjoy your life to the fullest.

Answer 2

everyone is nervous the first time but dont worry about it when the time is right it will happen have you and your boyfriend talked about sex are sure he is ready?? just wondering i will not judge you i was 14 and it was all wrong i was drinking and the guy was alot older and married horrible i was young and stupid but my first good experience i was 16 and i loved that boy and i always will and i was very nervous but i think i may have had to do with the fact i loved him so much and we were taking are relationship to the next level well just make sure to keep taking you pills and use the condom be safe if you are goona do it and i hope the best for you and just remember your relationship may change after well this sounds like your first love you will never forget this boy trust me he will always be in your heart

Answer 3

You already said you don't want to hear the truth. But, I am going to tell you anyway. You are NERVOUS because you ARE NOT READY. This is your bodies natural response when you don't truly believe it's the right thing for you to do.

You should be nervous.
-- What happens if you get pregnant? Birth Control is not 100% reliable. Condoms are less than 90% reliable.
-- How will you feel if someone walks in on the two of you? Can you handle that?
-- How will you feel if he (or someone you tell) tells friends or parents? Can you handle it?

Answer 4

before everything, Do you believe him? Are the concerns you're having making you think of he will supply way and do some thing incorrect? long distance relationships are actually not basic for each individual no count what age and you men are youthful. what form of individual is he? in case you dont believe him through failings he does then you shouldnt be with him. while you're apprehensive approximately him purely on account which you're making your self complication for not something then purely carry close in there and believe him. Do you men many times talk regularly occurring? Does he make the attempt to call you in basic terms as plenty? Does he inform you the failings he does during the day without you asking him? He doesnt would desire to tell you each component yet while he doesnt inform you lots approximately those issues and is secretive or in case you have caught him in lies or in circumstances that sound like its not including up then those are warning signs he would desire to not be suitable for you. in spite of each thing this nonetheless in case you nonetheless sense like he's a sturdy guy then take my suggestion from until eventually now and believe him and supply him the prospect. in case you dont then you will purely push him away besides, and you dont choose for to try this :) stable success!

Answer 5

If you're nervous about it then chances are you aren't ready for sex. Feelings of nervousness are signs that you may regret your decision later on. I lost my virginity at age 19 to my fiance and am glad I waited until I was older because the people I dated when I was 16 were not right for me. I'm not saying he isn't right for you but if he is, why not wait to have sex with him? Please give this a lot of thought. Good luck.

Answer 6

If you keep feeling like this its probably your subconsious telling you you are not ready.If i were you I'd talk to him about it and work it out together, Dont do it if you are getting that feeling every time. Its better to work out your issues first so you dont do something you might regret.Im not saying dont do it but think it over for a week and try to see what you really want

Answer 7

Everyone is going to be nervous, i mean it is just a part of life. What you want to do first is talk to your boyfriend first and make sure that he is ready and wants to. You two need to have a talk and let him know that it is your first time. You're going to be nervous, there is really no way around that.

Answer 8

hahahaha.. a typical liberated girl.
having a specific year for that first time.ahehehehe

Not to get nervous you say?
I think i can help you out.
There is two possible options you can choose:

1.) Tell your boyfriend that you want to have sex with him coz you really love him and want to show how special he is to you.
If i was him. i know what to do. And if i see you getting nervous, ill hug you and tell you how much i love you. And kiss you till you dont we realized were doing it already.^-^
That is if im your bf. and if your bf is a real guy.

2.) You will do it on your own. I mean the best way not to get nervous is to drink and get drunk. But dont let your boyfriend get drunk coz it dangerous if your both drunk having sex.


well i hope i helped you out somehow.
Just always be careful.

Godbless.^-^

Answer 9

OK I won't talk u out of it...
Pressure you have put on the topic. Breath relax when it happens it will happen . Planing for it won't work cause you get to worked up. That moment when he kisses you and you just let it happen naturally. Be safe ... have fun don't think about it.

Answer 10

Are you sure you're ready? If you're truly ready you wouldn't be on here asking for ways to be ready. Being responsible not only means birth control, did you know how it would affect you mentally/emotionally?