I am not really comfortable with someone I do not know watching my children. I let my mom and My friend Becki watch my children. Normally I do not even let The father of my son watch him. Yes we are together and engaged but sometimes men are just not good with babies. I am extreamly nervous . Am I just being overprotective. and I also breastfeed him at night when he wakes up. How do I politely tell them I would rather him stay with me?
2007-07-01 12:52:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you are being overprotective. If you let your friend surely you can let your man's parents. They obviously know what they are doing. It is normal for a mother to be overprotective but I say let him stay the night with them. They raised at least one son good or you wouldnt be with him.
2007-07-01 13:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being overprotective and it is an insult that you won't allow your child's father to watch his own son. That is wrong but that was not your question.
Grandparents (especially ones who care) are a blessing. If they are visiting wouldn't they be in your home anyway? Just hand off the baby and stay close if you are that concerned. But yes you are being overprotective and maybe a little insensitive.
2007-07-04 02:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mom of an 18 month old and when she was that young, I wouldn't have. I breastfed her, and it would have been too difficult for both of us.
I would politely explain that it would be very difficult to have him away at night because of the breastfeeding.
We invited the grandparents to stay at our home if they would like, when they were in town, so that they would be able to spend time with the baby.
2007-07-01 20:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Holly B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey iv'e been there this must be your first ,trust them they love this baby as much as you do and would most likley be not put down the entire night but cuddled in grandma and grandpas arms so pump so extra milk and try to go have an evening of fum with your man babies need contact from others than moms and i also think you should put some trust in his daddy it's his baby to and men will suprise you with how good they can really be with there babies if given the chance
2007-07-01 21:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by auntie s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go over for a visit but, i would not let them watch him alone if you do not trust any one and you make the mistake of letting them watch him and something happens then you will not forgive your self. im not a parent or anything but, i do have a little brother who is three and i don't trust any one with him. The Grandparents should understand how you feel and they should understand when you don't want him to stay with them. Good- luck
2007-07-01 19:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
relax, they raised a great kid of their own, right? they can handle the baby just fine.
but since you are breastfeeding, it might upset the infant to be away from you too long, unless he's used to formula also. You can compromise and let them keep him "alone" for a few hours but explain that he needs you during the night, and a botttle just won't do. Tell them next time, after the baby's weaned, they can keep him longer.
2007-07-01 19:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A better arrangement would be for you to try to make room for them to stay with you so that they could visit the baby and you would be available for nursing him. If that's not possible, perhaps he could visit with them during the day and come home to you at night.
2007-07-01 19:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should let your baby stay with his grandparents because 4 months is an extremely young age and babies need certain attention that only their mother can give them.
yes, i am only 12 years old, but I know EVERYTHING about babies because my mom just had one and she is now 1 year old and she is still very delicate and only wants my mother.
2007-07-01 20:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by ** eMmA ** 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain that you are still breast feeding, and therefore it is necessary for you to have him with you. You can have them over for a while, so that they may see and play with the baby. In that way you can quietly supervise them, without appearing to do so.
2007-07-01 19:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your the mother other then father dont doubt it if you make the wrong choice something happens to the baby it will be on your conscience,your the mother your only one who gets to make the call
2007-07-01 20:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by riyar 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋