as i get older, i feel it gets harder to make friends. i think it has to do with the fact that i've somehow become "overly sensitive?" [if that's how you'd call it]. everytime, i meet people (new or acquaintances), i find myself plaqued with thoughts such as: what did she mean by that?, does she have ulterior motives?, is she even listening to what i'm saying?, is she being honest or a *****? is she being herself? what does she think of me? it's crazy! why can't i just relax and focus on getting to know the person. i was never like this - i don't understand why making friends has become a challenge to me. anyone with a similar experience? any advice?
2007-07-01 12:51:19 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am having a hard time making new friends because I am always always working....I finished my BBA 2 years ago and since then....all I have done is focused on my career.....but I don't mind right now....I am sure if I am put into a situation to make new friends I will....met too many people in College...
Just be yourself...and don't set high expectations on anyone...just let things be...and have fun.....thats very important...
Setting expectations on your friendships can easily lead to disappointment if those expectations are not met and you start to question everything.....your still young....just hang out and chill....
2007-07-01 13:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by al 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I somewhat understand your prediciment. Basicly your too smart for your own good. What you need to do is restore your faith in humanity, and stop thinking that every word has an alterior motive.
It may be hard to swallow but not everyone is out to rip you off and punch in your heart, but acting like they are going to will most likely cause them to do that!
Bottomline, everyone deserves a clean slate, dont judge them based on another person. Besides actions speak louder then words anyway, dont hang on their every word!
2007-07-01 20:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been like that forever. I'm shy and my mind runs wild with questions. The hardest thing for me was to concentrate on the conversation and think about it later. After I got use to it, it just comes natural now. It makes it alot easier to talk to people and you feel more comfertable if you don't think about things like that.
I think why you are becomin' more like that is because you are becomin' more self consius about yourself. You are who you are, never let that hide away
2007-07-01 20:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by baby_gray11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋