Ok, so when I get older, I would like to get married. But I DEFINITELY DO NOT want kids. I put the emphasis on do not. I have never pictured my life with kids involved. So when I get married, I will be using sex for pleasure, NOT reproduction. And I read on some website (don't remember which one) that it was a sin to have sex for just pleasure because it said that God created sex only to reproduce. So I just wanted to clarify and make sure if it was true or not. I hope it isn't lol!! Thank you!!
2007-07-01 12:04:10 · 38 answers · asked by jojofangrl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Pleasurable sex within a marriage is not a sin.
2007-07-01 12:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by D W 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
IF (and I emphasis IF) you can quote a scripture that spells out that sex within marriage is a sin, please quote it here.
I put forth that sex within marriage IS NOT a sin. Read the Song of Solomon, there are some definite pleasure associated with the marital act.
It is sex OUTSIDE of marriage-whether for pleasure or reproduction-that is a sin.
I believe other posters are correct when they state that the Roman Catholic Church teaches that the first sin was sex--which if you read the Bible you will understand that sex WAS NOT the first sin.
2007-07-02 05:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Carol D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want children, it is not a sin to have sex in marriage. If you do get pregnant, then you will have a problem, because your world will be turned upside-down.
So you will be using sex for pleasure? I'm afraid if that is your attitude, you may find that sex can become empty and meaningless. If sex is loving, then 'using' is not part of it. 'Using' implies selfishness, and one then would question if marriage is really your thing. If it is to with love, then that is different.
You don't picture yourself having children, but until you meet and fall in love with the person you wish to marry, it is not wise to rule anything in or out.
As you get older, you will find that trying to map your life out can often lead to heartbreak, so don't be too inflexible, or you might never find true happiness.
2007-07-01 12:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Non-reproductive heterosexual relations in a marriage are not considered sin because the act between a man and a woman still honors its intended form and strengthens the love bond, but realize if God wants you to have a child, you will become pregnant.
2007-07-01 12:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it a sin to sit on a mountain top and watch the sunset for no other reason than to enjoy the beauty of it all? Why would God give us such wonderful gifts if He didn't want us to enjoy them?
God is like a Father. What parent gives a gift to their child and then says, "Don't enjoy it!" There is no sin in enjoying or delighting in God's gifts.
One of the things I appreciate about my Lord Jesus is that He enjoyed life and the people around them. He did not sin or do anything sinful, but He enjoyed every bit of life so much so that He was accused of sin.
People who live in bondage to God's law feel that we must suffer in order to make progress. This is not the case. There is much enjoyment in love. If you couldn't enjoy your husband to the greatest depth of having sex, why marry? Love your husband and enjoy Him.
The only sin you need to worry about is putting your husband in God's place. Jesus comes first in all things. Be open to every possibility that He has for your life, and then you will find a most blessed peaceful and joyous life. God is good after all. He loves it when people delight in His ways and enjoy His gifts. Why else would He give us delightful food, beautiful sunsets, music, wonderful friends, and loving families?
2007-07-02 10:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by beenblake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my problem with the whole idea of only having sex for the purpose of procreation: Not every intercourse results in pregnancy. In medical fact, even if timed correctly, the highest chance one has of conception on any single session of intercourse is a rough 25%. And even if you conceive, many fertilized eggs never quite make it to the embryo stage before menstration flushes them out of the mother's body. This is proveable stuff here, and doesn't jive with the fundies who just can't tolerate you ever doing anything that feels good.
You've got biology on your side. Why not sweep the dogma under the rug and dim the lights?
2007-07-01 12:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by writersblock73 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not a sin. I cannot wait myself to be married and have that pleasure myself, as often as possible.
You might change you mind about kids. But I am pretty confident you will enjoy married sex.
2007-07-01 12:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Nina, BaC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it is not a sin. Pleasurable sex within marriage is gods gift to us. It is not a sin. What we have made sex is a sin. Premarital sex, adulterous sex, and unnatural sex is a sin. But sex between a husband and wife is not a sin.
2007-07-01 12:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by cfdfirecaptain35 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. God wants a man and woman to find pleasure in each other. It isn't a sin between man and wife.
2007-07-01 12:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO!
But SEX..... Outside of Marriage .... IS!
(1Corinthians 6:18) Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits fornication sins against his own body.
BUT.....IN MARRIAGE.......!
(Hebrews 13:4) Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
GOD.... allows THE PLEASURE OF SEX.... in the Marriage!
WHOEVER.... gave you the Idea... that Sex was Only For.... CHILDREN..... WAS SORELY.... WRONG!
Thanks, RR
2007-07-01 12:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋