do i need him? surely its not too much to ask to change socks. have a shower? i think its his way of showing that i dont matter. well. i do . sorry its not a real question. its a moan
2007-07-01 11:58:59 · 33 answers · asked by kati 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
no ive not had too much to drink.
the snorer may have.
its rattling the windows now
2007-07-01 12:07:16 · update #1
mike c piss off... i pay my own bills
2007-07-01 12:12:33 · update #2
I can sympathise with you. I have one in my bed every night. I ask myself the same question. Wouldn't it be nice if we were allowed to change our men every two years or so - like trading in an old car, for a newer model, with a 'new car' scent!!!
2007-07-01 12:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not absolutely sure where to begin......but I do know that
anyone feeling this much frustration needs someone to talk
to---
That could be why you wrote on this yahoo question board.
I'm glad you did something, rather than just feel that internal
churning and growing angst and anger.
I do not want to read anything into what you did share......
However, if you have this much resentment and you mentioned
that perhaps the person on your couch had something to
drink (too much? too often?).....
Al-anon might be a good beginning for you to talk to others
with some of the same issues, frustrations and concerns.
If drinking is not a problem, your relationship still comes
across as one.
Get therapy. Get counseling. It is worth it to have someone
listen to you and help you develop a plan for your own life
that will bring you hope and happiness and not sorrow
and pain.
Whoever the one on the couch is, he can take care of his
needs, too. I am not saying to be meanspirited toward him....
but you have every right to take care of your own self,
spiritually, emotionally and physically. It sounds like you
are sad, mad, suffering and feeling somewhat stuck.
There are answers out there, but you must find the courage
and willingness to seek those answers.....I can tell you
it is worth it.....I have seen this kind of situation so many
heartaching, heartbreaking times.
You deserve better than this, and so does he....he just
doesn't realize it either. If you improve your life, his choice
is going to be to improve his as well or you will most likely
move on to a better lifestyle....but those choices will be
made when the time comes........
PLEASE take care of you!
If you are afraid to reach out, know that is anormal feeling. Still do it. Go to a minister, a priest, a rabbi.....or call your
local mental health center for a counselor (this does not
mean you are mentally ill, it means you need someone
to talk to before you develop a severe depression)---
or, and I pray this is not the case, if he is abusing you
in any physical way, call your local domestic violence
shelter. There is so much help, so many caring women
and men who want to help you......Or if you have insurance,
you can look in the yellow pages of your phone book and
call a licensed social worker, psychologist, or psychiatrist
and make an appointment. Any of them will work with you
to find what is keeping you there when you are miserably
unhappy.....and help you make a plan for how to find happiness in your life.
Life is short; sometimes tragically so....please make your
life as loving and happy as you can.
Don't continue living in so much anger and pain.
I wish you all the best,
Doris
WithWingsofAngels@comcast.net
2007-07-01 12:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Doris L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what,i think you are all the same based on the description you have levied on him.If you were really uncomfortable as he lays beside you,we would not have been told coz action would have been applied to regain your space by yourself as soon as the fat snoring un shaven smelly footed slob lying on the sofa next to you began seeing you.I bet this slob is not new.So what are you trying to say?
Finally you have got no question.Take him to the shower thats why the two of you are together
2007-07-01 12:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I expect he's pissed?
Point out to him that, it takes 5 mins to shower, and less to shave.
I cannot stand to be unshaven , and like I said 5 minutes to shower.
Fresh socks, every day and twice if I'm going out in the evening, I have to shave again if I'm going out.
Sounds to me that he doesn't appreciate you as much as you think.
Or he would be at his best behaviour, and presenting himself at his best.
If he is going out on his own, getting pissed and then just crashing, you deserve better, elbow him and get a better man!
2007-07-01 12:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means you are lying on the sofa too! :-)
Go out yourself. Why are you in the house?
My advice is go out and do something nice for yourself. Go work out, by something that makes you feel good, take up a class, something that makes you EXCITED!.
I think one of the worst things we do to ourselves and partners is give up learning, give up being excited about something. Go get excited about something!
happy trails,
little fox
live your life to the fullest ....
2007-07-01 12:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him?
Do you think he can and will change?
Are you looking for a way to get rid of him?
Only you know the answers and how you feel.
2007-07-01 12:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why too. Life is too short to spend it with someone who doesnt think you matter. Kick his sorry butt to the curb.
2007-07-01 12:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sophiesmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point you said yes! I think it's time for you to say NO! Be strong everyone deserves better that that!
2007-07-01 12:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by dw03038 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have one too?! fabreezing the socks whilst still on the feet works! Hav a star to cheer u up!
2007-07-01 12:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Rach 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well, shame on you for allowing this man to maintain a level of grotesqueness!! you are in charge or the cleanliness arena, and if that means laying out his clean clothes and razor in the bathroom, then do it!! he's YOUR man. what are you doing for him to be the best he can???? complaining wont help, but altering slightly your attitude might. do what you can to help the situation. if he still wont change, then he is nasty and not worth your worry. but, if he does conform, imagine the possibilities.......men need women for a reason!!!!!!!(not just in the sack)
2007-07-01 12:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by hey friend 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋