He came up t me about an hour ago and asked me If he can be treated like a baby including wearing diapers. I have know idea in what I'm going to do. Why would he want that? I thought I spent enough time with him as a baby, but another reason he might want this is because his father left when he was born. Does anyone have any idea what I should do?
2007-07-01 11:58:33 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Time for both of you to see the shrink, and FAST
2007-07-01 16:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
There are many possibilities here. He could just be messing with you. He could have security issues. He could even have a fetish developing. But what comes to my mind first is that he has been "the man of the house" for all of his 15 years. You may or may not have actually used those words, but I'd bet others have. And I'd bet he feels a lot of pressure to be a man. Being the helpless, dependent "baby" would be one way to temporarily remove that pressure. Some way or other he needs the pressure taken off so that he can just be the 15 year old kid that he is. He seems to be pretty open to you about his feelings, even if he doesn't quite understand them. Maybe the two of you could just sit down and discuss all of his feelings openly, candidly, and without any drama whatsoever. If that doesn't clear the air, then some counseling sessions might be helpful. They may uncover nothing particularly bad, but best to know and deal with things now rather than later. By the way, I've seen some wonderful, hard working, good hearted men do some fairly bizarre things for reasons only known to them, if even to them. It doesn't make them bad. Just makes them a bit different from the norm. This doesn't sound like the end of the world. Good luck to you...and to your son.
2007-07-01 12:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Has there been another major change in his life (IE: remarriage, new sibling, or recent death)? If the answer is 'yes' he may feel the need for more attention from you. Have a honest discussion with your son and ask him what is going on. Maybe a neighbor kid has been teasing him for some reason or he's afraid that you'll leave him too. Then when you make an appointment with a psychiatrist you can point him/her in the right direction. It's important to keep the lines of communication open. Good luck.
2007-07-01 12:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by theonlyanswer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He may be just wanting a feeling of warmth and contentment, a sort of a disconnect from the real world. Is he stressed-out or have difficulty at school?
Like the other posters suggested, I would ask him in a non-threatening setting why he wants this (and where he got the idea) and how it would make him feel if his wish were granted. I'd take him to the doctor only as a last resort...the farther away from doctors you can stay, the healthier you'll be.
2007-07-01 12:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by steve.c_50 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He sounds stressed. Is he having a hard time at school? Talk to him and ask him why he wants to be a baby again. Keep at him, but don't nag, sometimes a person needs to be asked more than once before they will reveal their inner thoughts. Check with his school and find out if there are any problems there, also ask his best friend.
It could allso partly be related to puberty. Kids don't know how to take all the hormone changes.
2007-07-01 12:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was probably just messing with ya..... I have a 15 yr old son, and He doesn't even like the fact that i was his boxers lol He sees them as private stuff lol
2007-07-01 12:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him!
But, he is old enough to get a job and and earn the money to pay for them himself. You shouldn't have to buy them for him, it's his thing to do so it's his thing to pay for.
Good luck.
2007-07-02 14:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't joking, then he needs to see a phychiatrist. Even if he is joking, it's a very weird joke.
2007-07-01 12:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's watched too much jerry springer! Take him to a doctor as it is definately not normal and I dont think it's because of his dad leaving either. It may be that he has security, self esteem issues so will need a good counsellor to help.
2007-07-01 12:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by platinum angel 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Get the boy to a therapist. hes obviously having trouble in something and hes responding by wanting to be a baby again. he needs help.
2007-07-01 12:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋