i personally believe that i am too young to get married, i'm 18years old, and constantly felt pressured into doing things i never really felt like doing.
I dont really see the benefit or advantage of getting married. its like all i ever felt was pain in my all f'ing existence i call the "fabolous life" so why commit myself to 40 (or however long) years to one person, who probably will only s.hit on me even more than the people i thought loved me, did.
i dont know, i just dont.
2007-07-01 10:50:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice?Dont get married too young.You will be a different person in your twenties and thirties from what you are now thats for sure.I got married age 22 and although I am still married after 20 years I wouldnt recommend getting hitched that soon.I wish I had waited a bit and travelled and stuff.Once youre married life changes quite a bit so be sure youre ready for that commitment.
2007-07-01 10:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Modbird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See, the trouble with the "Well, a brother and sister living co-dependently could enjoy the same benefits" implies that no two straight people have *ever* abused the marriage system when they weren't in a romantic relationship. But a sibling couple doing so would still be legally "married"; they would not then, in turn, be allowed to marry anyone they were actually romantically interested in without dissolving that partnership, with all the legal problems a divorce can cause. I mean, I suppose if a brother/sister pair (or brother/brother or sister/sister, were gay marriage legal) wanted to enter into a lifelong, non-romantic legal partnership, sure, they could conceivably demand they be granted marriage rights. But such partnerships would be rather few and far between, as I think the social stigma of demanding you be allowed to marry your sister would probably suppress that group. A more pertinent question would be on how to handle the number of participants in a marriage. If marriage is opened up from where it is now, then there's the question about whether polyamorous unions should be legally recognized. And if we then expanded marriage to allow, say, 4 members, then what about polygamists who feel socially ostracized because they have a 5-way relationship? Polygamists and brothers wanting to marry their sisters, however, constitute a tiny, tiny fraction of American society. Homosexuals, while still a minority, number far greater. Opening up marriage to same-sex couples, I believe, is a way to grant these romantic pairings the same legal rights that are currently enjoyed via similar partnerships, while minimizing the change to the overall system. Sure, the "slippery slope" argument can still be applied, but just because opening up marriage to homosexuals might open up a bigger can of worms doesn't mean it isn't a good and right thing to do.
2016-05-20 22:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by cristal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'm in the same boat that you're in. I don't care for marriage and would prefer never to go through with it, but I think a lot of it also has to do with my personal experiences with others' marriages. My folks had a divorce after 20+ yrs of marital hell, and seem so much happier since they did it 7 yrs ago, and I've known a lot of people who've had the same kind of problem, but there are a few that are happily wedded and have been for years. I've been with the same guy for nearly 3 yrs now, but there's no telling where we'll be 20 years from now, let alone another year. He knows how I feel about marriage, and we've nearly broken up a couple of times b/c of the issue, but I can't go against with what my heart is telling me. In time, who knows--I may change my mind, but right now, marriage is definitely NOT for me. You're right--you're too young yet to be certain, and you've probably been burned by certain personal experiences like me, but if ever the right person should come along, you just may change your mind. Just remember--you can feel the way you want now, but as they say, "Never say never."
2007-07-01 11:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 18 is too young to get married but I thought I would never get married. I am 24 and in the greatest relationship ever in my life. We are not married but one day we will be. I think that when you find the right person you just know. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have lived together for 3 and during that time he has shown me what it is to really love. He has never treated me like "s***" and has supported me through the worst of times. When someone has shown you this you just know. Wait for the right one!!!!!
2007-07-01 10:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you think your too young and dont see the point of marriage then of course you shouldnt even entertain the idea.
I felt the same until I was in my mid twenties but have now been happily married for three years. Marriage can be a wonderful thing....but only if your sure you want it!
Get out there, have some fun playing the field, deal with your pain and then see where life takes you!
2007-07-01 10:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by helens 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To start with, I think 18 is way to young to get married. You're just a kid... and I hope that whoever is pressuring you would stop that.
As for marriage, I think for some parts, our idea of being in a relationship or being married depends one what we see around us. .. if your parents have a great marriage, then your concept of being married is a good one, but if they have a bad marriage then your concept of being married and committing to someone for the next 40 year is a frightful one.
I think, marriage can be whatever you wanted to be. If you want to have a good marriage and a good life then you will fight for that….
hope that helps,
Good luck
2007-07-01 11:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by just_D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 18 you are too young to get married if you've got any anxieties about it, or with you attitude that you seem to have.
I have been happily married for over 23 years.
My wife is not only my partner, but is also my best friend and the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I completely trust her and would trust my life to her.
I think that you are thinking about the whole marriage thing in the wrong way, and should take some time out to reconsider your ideas.
2007-07-01 11:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody's pressuring should ever convince you to do something unwilling. I believe marriage is beautiful, however, I have (and i'm sure you have as well) seen amazing relationships turn bitter and it's so unfortunate. There may or may not be someone out there for you, but unless that person exemplifies perfection in your eyes and brings you the most joy you've ever known, it's not worth it.
2007-07-01 10:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by TxDancerLyssaShea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like someone is trying to marry you off, traditional marrige, I mean. Marriage can be a wonderful meeting of two minds or the bigget disaster on Gods earth. Best not to go there in your present frame of mind
2007-07-01 10:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by EchoTango 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice out look
You seem to follow what people tell u to do
you don't have to get married
and most aren't until they are in their 30's now
but most do it out of love
some day you may find some one you think is great, be it a guy or girl who is to judge.
but don't close your eyes to the world before it is put in front of you.
2007-07-01 10:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by G O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋