Are there any non-religious reasons not to have premarital sex? Can sex ruin a relationship? How does a relationship change after sex?
2007-07-01 10:15:05 · 30 answers · asked by jblack988 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Other than the obvious STD/pregnancy. Is there any reason not to have sex safe before marriage if you are not religious.
2007-07-01 10:17:48 · update #1
there is no reason not to have sex before marriage, as long as both partners are fully aware of what they're doing and do it of their free will (and probably over a certain age).
as to STD and all that... you can have protected sex, safe sex etc.
2007-07-01 10:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by joe the man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are some very important non-superstitious reasons to not have premarital sex. Risk of STDs. Risk of pregnancy before one is financially and emotionally prepared to become a parent. This can have repercussions that go far beyond just the two who had sex. It can affect whole families and even generations.
Can sex ruin a relationship? Yes, it has been known to happen. Just enjoying each other's company can give way to worry about getting pregnant. Sometimes one or both feels regretful that they didn't wait and they feel ashamed. If others find out, your reputation can suffer. Girls can be looked upon as "loose" or "easy," and even boys can lose the respect of those who once looked up to them. Sharing your body with another is a big step and should not be taken lightly.
2007-07-01 10:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be religious to have morals. Everyone has a sense of right and wrong; although not everyone agrees with what is right or wrong. Even within a religion people have different ideas. Go to any church and one person may think pre-marital sex is wrong in all cases. Another may think its ok if the couple is older and has been dating a while or if they are engaged.
Most people (whether religious or atheist) realize that sex is not supposed to be entered into unless there is some thought given to the consequences. Not just the STD/baby thing, but the fact that intimacy between two people changes the relationship. Just like becoming friends adds the element of trust between you and your friend.....having sex adds an even stronger need for trust - among other things.
2007-07-01 10:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are no moral reasons not to have premarital sex and love every second of it. Sex is always best when there are real feelings, of course.
If you don't want to lose friend you will not change a friendship into a sexual relationship because after that it is hard to stay just friends.
If you are in-like and want more, sex is a great way to get to now each other quickly. Still, use caution and always use protection.
Don't ever use sex as a means to an end. Sex is an extension of love and intimacy. Sex for the sake of sex, or to be popular is hurtful to you, emotionally.
After you find a love in your life making them your lover will be wonderful for you both. Making love is the most intimate act between two people and I highly recommend it.
2007-07-01 10:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a massive emotional and spiritual (spiritualism is NOT neccessarily connected religion) commitment...its a gift not to be taken or given lightly.
It is the most intimate form of communication between two people who truly love one another and are committed to each other.
It is wise to wait untill you and your partner understand each others emotional makeup and have good open lines of communication established and are committed.
I waited just under a year into the relationship before I would have sex with my now fiance.
But thats just me...I know many Christians and atheists alike who take sex way more lightly than I do. And I grew up as a Christian and oddly enough, saw sex as more meaningful and special when I became an atheist.
Regards
The Peaceful Atheist
2007-07-01 10:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Premarital sex is a great way to limit a marital relationship. The thing is, you both know that your committment to each other is vulnerable, since you pursued at least one relationship without regard for your own future integrity. Can you ever really trust that such a thing won't happen again?
Contrary to most people's beliefs, God loves sex. But for it to reach its highest form, it must be embedded in a full and trusting relationship. Premarital sex plays havoc on the trust part of the equation, which is WHY God frowns on it.
2007-07-01 10:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I personally (as someone without a father) feel no one should have sex if they couldn't handle being a parent, period.
Other than that, some people do get very attached after sex. I don't see anything wrong with sex as long as it's with someone you care about. It's just too dangerous these days to have sex just for fun. It should be within the realms of some sort of commited relationship in my opinion.
2007-07-01 10:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should only have sex if you feel you're ready for it. I waited until I was 18 before I had sex, and the only person I've had sex with is my fiance. I think you should really get to know someone before you have sex. A relationship based just on sex is no relationship at all.
2007-07-01 10:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that sex can have a profound effect on a person, especially someone very young or immature. It is not something to be taken lightly. As someone who has serious self esteem issues, I was badly hurt by some men in my past. I am not against premarital sex at all, I just think it shouldn't be entered into without some thought.
2007-07-01 10:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by in a handbasket 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sex can be a very emotional state especially for a girl and her first time. I know a dude that will sleep with virgins and the very next day or week dump them and the look on their faces and the hurt that you can feel just by looking at their faces is beyond words. It can hurt someone emotionally, and that is why I would not recomend it unless you truly mean to make a life long comitment.
2007-07-01 10:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋