ive been with my gf for 7 months now, im 17 and shes 16. thingsve bin fine between us all this time, weve had our problems and weve managed to work around and work them out, family being our most recent one. its just these last few days she hasnt been talking much with me, everytime i say i love you to her, she doesnt say anything like that back to me nowadayz, i dont get it and its made me feel upset the last few days, ive tried confronting her about it by saying she hasnt been talking with me much and shes said shes been tired and hasnt been feeling it, and i dont know if this is with me or not :(. its not normal to all of a sudden stop talking to me compared to how she used to, ive had a few problems with one of best m8z not liking me and shes told me shes not upset with me for having a go at her m8, ive done nothing to wrong to her to make her feel upset or hurt once!! i dont understand :( i told her il stick by her no mtter what coz i love her alot. i feel pushed away :( advce plz
2007-07-01 10:07:39 · 5 answers · asked by lovestruck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive never let nefin happen to upset her, i dnt knw why itz become like this. nothings triggered her to act like this i dont understand :(. advice would b appreciated plzz.
2007-07-01 10:09:06 · update #1
Just tell her how you feel. Then tell her if she needs space for a while you will still be there. Let her know she can tell you anything. Don't let her push you away. Just work with her.
2007-07-01 10:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lovestruck...good moniker and also a good indication of what's going on. Listen, you're 17, she's 16. It may seem like this is "the girl" for you...but the reality is that love is fickle at 16/17. In fact, it's always fickle, but you both are growing in ways that are diffcult to compare at any other age. She is probably bored with the relationship and doesn't know how to express herself, especially with you questioning her about it. She's probably confused and may even feel a little trapped. She doesn't want to end it, perhaps, but she's not sure she wants it to continue either. Give her space, let her know that it's okay if she doesn't feel the same way anymore, that you're not upset or jealous, you just want her to be happy. Stop saying "I love you" all the time. She knows it, but may not feel that way anymore and every time you say it, it makes her feel more uncomfortable. If you need a reason for why she doesn't feel the same way anymore, then you're possessive and controlling and don't really love her...because if you did, you'd respect the fact that you may not be the one she wants in her life anymore...if you really cared for her, you'd want her to be with whomever made her feel right with herself...then move on with your own life. Think about it.
2007-07-09 00:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could just be that time of the month. Or maybe things are getting boring. I mean you went through a lot and now the waters have calmed and she is a drama lover and she wants the drama back!! well I say you start doing more things with her and joke with her so that she can stay mad at you.
2007-07-06 19:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by The thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give her space. She may have a lot on her mind right now. You already did your part when you told her how you felt, so the rest is up to her.
2007-07-09 14:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by nevaeh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you, but she might have someone else in mind. Finds it easier to behave the way she is rather than tell you flat out. Good Luck
2007-07-09 13:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋