I'm 17 and for two months, and not even two months, like one and 18 days I'm gonna be working. In total I'll earn about $1,000 after taxes. And it's just for the summer, when I go back to school, it's over. Now this woman wants me to save $500 dollars so when I go back to school I can use the money for lunch. What the hell! Then I'll have like $500 to spend and probably even less when you count other things like getting my liscence, which I will have to pay for and my phone. So it'll be less than that to start with. My mom is being so selfish! She's acting like this because she isn't getting overtime from work and she has mortgage and bills to pay, but she's not dead broke! Why can't she just let me enjoy my damn money and get what I want and save some for other things I want. It's not right. It's like I'll be working to eat! And that doesn't make any damn sense because it's not a steady job. It's just a few bucks to have and enjoy. Why is she doing this? Why must she be such an a s s?
2007-07-01 09:51:01 · 15 answers · asked by Blaire 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In fact, why are parents such a s s h o l e s in the first place? She's like I need to teach you a lesson about saving, but it's not like I get money like that to spend in the first place, so why the hell can't I just enjoy my own damn money. I know all that crap about saving and s h i t, I don't need to be taught what I already know. And now she's not gonna give me the money I need for transport tomorrow. My job is gonna provide us with transportation, but that's not until later in the week so I need my mother to help me out until my job comes through. But after we had this stupid arguement about saving my money to eat( it's not like I'm gonna spend all of it, just some to get what I want) she's like she's not gonna give it. So I won't be able to get to work tomorrow, my boss is strict and I might lose my job before I even get to start it! I don't understand this crap! I'm a good kid, do my work, and get good grades. Why can't she just let me relax for a change dammit!
2007-07-01 09:58:07 · update #1
This woman is not broke, she has $31,00 in her account. I saw it myself, and she's and LPN about to be an RN. No, she's not broke, just selfish!.
2007-07-01 10:03:38 · update #2
Adults..stay out of this! I need teens, like myself to give their opinions, obviously the older generation cannot understand. I am not selfish, I would like to have fun with the little money I earn this summer. That is not an outrageous request.
2007-07-01 10:12:03 · update #3
Keep i mind, this is a lady who will pick a fight with me about the way I combed my hair, just so she can watch Bernie Mac. This is who I'm dealing with here. And has anyone forgotten she has more then ten times the small amount I will be making in her bank account. Keep that in mind, ya'll just know that.
2007-07-01 10:24:00 · update #4
she is just trying to help you for the future (i know that's not what you wanted to hear) but it's the truth!! why not keep the job while you go back to school anyway?? my dad used to give me money & when he died when i was 17, i had to get a full-time job, finish high school & be on my own, so consider yourself lucky to have a mom that is still around to be an a$s to you!!
i think she should offer to give you some lunch money or at least buy some food for you to make lunches because i think you're being responsible about having a summer job and paying for your own phone and license, but i don't think she's intending to just be a *****.. is she a single mom?? it sounds like it because you say she has to pay bills and mortgage and things are slow for her at work right now.. you should be a little more considerate of her and try to realize just how expensive everything really costs these days.. and to have a somewhat ungrateful teenager saying my mom is being such an a$shole probably makes her feel really sh!tty.. i mean, you are old enough to work now and start paying your own way..
what i'm trying to say is that i can honestly see your side here AND your mom's side.. and i think you both need to bend a little bit.. she needs to not just cut you off completely and say "spend your own money" and you need to realize how expensive it is for her to keep up a mortgage and try to give you everything you need and want.. trust me.. i'm 21 and we just got our first house and are trying to buy everything to put in it, pay for it, pay for the bills, pay for the car, etc. etc. and it is HARD!! i can't even imagine trying to do all this with a kid to take care of too!! i know, i know.. you didn't ask to be born or anything.. but please.. just TRY to see it from her point of view.. and consider keeping the job!! there's nothing nicer than being independent, and keeping a job up is the first step!!
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Just because your mom has $31,000 in her account doesn't mean sh!t.. does she have a mortgage to pay?? credit cards?? car loans?? then she doesn't "have" $31,000.. because even if she used that money to pay off bills, she'd probably STILL be in the hole!!!! but i can't get completely mad at her here, because she is the one that raised you to be this way.... but you seriously need a reality check.. with the details you added, you really come off sounding ungrateful!! just because your mom has money doesn't mean anything.. maybe she has been saving that money to send you to college or something.. you never know!! don't be ungrateful and spoiled!! and i agree with everyone else that says "adults work to eat" yeah.. they do.. and it's true - you probably think you are all grown up and should be able to do what you want to do.. are you giving your mom that attitude?? if so, i think she's justified in what she's asking of you....
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i'm 21.. so i am only 4 years older than you.. i am in your "generation".... you should value the adults advice on here because they are trying to tell you where your mom is coming from!!!! what do you want?? some teens to get on here and back you up and tell you what a ***** your mom is???? if that's what you want, you need to talk to your friends about it because all you are going to get on yahoo answers is a bunch of jaded old adults that don't care about your little problem because we all live in the real world and understand where your mom is coming from.. you should really print this question out and save it.. come back and look at it in 5 or 10 years and then you'll realize how retarded you sound!!!!
2007-07-01 10:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by idgaf 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She's just trying to teach you about responsibility. I feel where your coming from and 1,000 dollars ain't nothing for real and thats really what she's trying to tell you. You have to set your priorities apart for things that are not that important. Try looking for a part time job when school starts like fast food or something so u CAN have a steady job. That way if you try and save a part of your check every pay and do what u gotta do what with the rest you'll be amazed with what you'll have. I've done it and its very beneficial. I worked at Mcdonald's getting paid at least $300 every two weeks. I saved $100 and budgeted the $200 or more throughout the two weeks. In 4 months I had enough money to go to driving school get my license and buy a car all on my own. Independence is such a great feeling.
So don't think your mom is being selfish, she is actually trying to teach u how to do for yourself, because that is what she really needs from u right now although I'm quite sure she wouldn't mind helping you whenever u need her.
2007-07-01 10:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Layka L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need help run to the nearest Church and go there every Sunday.
Sounds like you have very very little respect for you parents or none at all. Which is very sad.
At the end of the day which do you value more "money" or "family".
Sometimes a person has to lose something or someone to realize how important that person or that something was. Don't let that happen to you. Take a small break away from the home if you can stay the weekend at a friend or family member house to get a new perspective on things.
good luck
2007-07-01 10:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Star Dust 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is called personal responsibility, you sound like you need to learn it!
Your mom probably has that money because she is smart and doesn't blow it on stupid stuff. She pays herself FIRST and looks out for her own future. From your whinny attitude, you are not going to be there for her when she is old, and she is preparing for that.
Money doesn't grow on trees, children need to learn that, if you have no bills and no cost i don't see that saving 50% of what you earn is a problem.
I think that when your 18 you should be paying rent and utilities and for all your own stuff. After all you will be saying things, like it is my life, i can make my own decisions. Well, making your own decisions has a price, it is called personal responsibility, that is financial and otherwise.
So the short is grow up, quit whinning, life is not fair.
Oh, i know this will not be the "best answer" as far as you are concerned, because it doesn't agree with what YOU WANT. but it is the best thing for you.
2007-07-01 10:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by mhp_wizo_93_418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is trying to help you grow up. It's a little late to be starting, but better late than never. In your question, you referred to the person who gave you life as an a s s & this woman. What else do you call her? By the way-you said it would be like you were working to eat. That's what it is. You work, so you can eat and can have a place to live and clothes to wear.That's what your mother has been giving you for almost 18 years. Hello-it's your turn to help.
2007-07-01 10:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by techtwosue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so if you don't have the money for lunch later how do you plan to eat?
mooch off friends or ask mom, the one you don't like sooo much, for money?
if you can save money you should.
and btw you are almost a grown up- after 18yo your mom could toss your *** out (legaly) and then what?
stop belly aching that your mom is so mean to you and just do what she asks of you.
what ever is left over after the school year, if any, will be money back in your pocket for the next summer. and next summer find a better paying job!
2007-07-01 10:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I kind of agree, your mom should still give you lunch money. But if money is low in your house and your mom is having financial trouble, the most responsible thing to do would be to help out and just pay for your lunch. Family members help each other out, and it wouldn't hurt to be appreciative for all the good things that she does for you. If your mom is having trouble with money, my advice is to just pay. You may have less to spend, but at least you will be doing the right thing and helping the family. I hope this helps! =)
2007-07-01 10:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL. I agree, your mom should give you lunch money for school. You are still a minor, there is no reason you should have to pay for your own school lunches.
The only exception I can think of is if your mom is desperately low on money. Then I could understand the request and so should you.
2007-07-01 09:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by happy kat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gee grown ups do work to eat. At 17 you are nearly a grown up (probably think you are grown up) so its obvious that you are kind of immature. Grow up. Save some money -your Mom is telling you that she isnt going to be able to afford as much as you are used to. And you will have senior pictures and prom and such also.
2007-07-01 09:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your mom's an "a s s." It sounds like she needs financial help. Unless you balance her checkbook, I doubt you really have a real understanding of your mom's financial decisions.
Besides, in a few months you'll be 18...an "adult," and your mother won't owe you a thing. Then you'll see that adults HAVE to work to eat. It's not a strange concept. I do it myself.
2007-07-01 10:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋