2007-07-01 09:16:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no the girl will always have her doubts and she should why would someone want to get hurt twice
get me once shame on you
get me twice shame on me
2007-07-01 09:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I would not return to a man who had emotionally and/or physically abused me simply on the strength of his promises. I would have to see the change in him and have concrete evidence that he was in therapy.
People CAN and do change, depending on how much you have invested in a relationship will determine how simple a choice it is for you to make.
Another factor to consider would be the circumstances that lead to the abuse, mental health illnesses for example can often go undiagnosed until the situation reaches a crisis.
Whatever she decides it would be good for her to seek counseling to help get her head around what has happened and build up her self-esteem again, get to a place where she can objective about the issues before she even considers stepping back in the door.
2007-07-01 16:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Safest thing to do is stay away.
But . . . if she is determined to go back, she must insist that her abuser gets counseling first. And he needs to get counseling for a long while, before she returns. She needs to be able to see changes in him and his life, before she even considers returning.
But . . . I still think the safest thing to do is stay away. Do not return to the relationship.
2007-07-01 16:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO....!!!!!! Take it from one who spent litterly yrs. of "false promises". Please, for your sake, if you're out of that relationship, STAY OUT OF IT...I'm SURE you want it to be true, want to believe it's true, but it's NOT. Unless you KNOW for sure the person has had extensive professional help, you've talked w/the professional help, DO NOT do it. It honestly gets worse. By you going back, is only going to condone what you've already been thru & you don't want to go thru it again. PLEASE move on & honestly, if you can break all ties w/this person, you'll be doing both of you a favor!
2007-07-01 16:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO -- those promises are usually broken...
she should only go back after he's proven that he's changed, and that he's truly humbled and fully motivated to being a good boyfriend/husband.
2007-07-01 16:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, he should go for help first. Work on his issues first before he even considers trying to start or continue any relationship.
2007-07-01 16:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by littletricky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE! if he doesnt have God in his life he hasnt changed! i dont care what they say they never change on their own. you thumbs me down? i tell you what, then be my guest find you an abusive person then tell me if you should stay or go back. i have yet to see one thats abusive and change cuz they want you back! please! you dont know much do you? ever seen the movie "the burning bed"?
2007-07-01 16:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by warrior*in*the*making 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO! not unless you see a change; and if you go back to him and it starts again leave them for good; you gave him a second chance and he blew it.
2007-07-01 16:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they never change-it just gets worse and worse until someone is dead and often its the woman.
2007-07-01 16:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...she needs to move on before the abuse escalates to another level.
2007-07-01 16:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by tmj4477 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋