hey, my dog was put to sleep two days ago. Me and my family are gonna start to look for a new dog in about 6 months or so! I'm 13, its kinda hard. One side of me cant wait for the new dog and the other side gives me a sick feeling when i think of replacing connor. what can i do to eez the pain when i get a new dog, oh yeah and dont say "dont get a new dog" or "wait longer then that" because i really do want a new dog, i just wanna know how to eez the pain for myslef and my little 11 year old brother. mostly him tho. he took it worse because he's younger and grew more attatched, but hes the same with me and he really wants a new dog but feels sick when he thinks of replacing him. What should i do and think to help myself. Please tell me answers that dont have to do with not getting a dog! thanks!
2007-07-01 08:39:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
Let me tell you something,
When I was 13 my puppy fell in the pool, slipped under the pool cover, and drowned. It was the most tramautic experience of my life, especially since I found her when I went to go swimming and rolled up the pool cover. She was bloated and wasn't the puppy I could remember.
For 2 years I refused to swim in the pool, or even consider a new puppy, but about 6 months ago I decided that it wasn't easing the pain refusing loving another puppy. I found a puppy that I wanted to care for, and I bought it with my own money. Since then I've taken every precaution I can to prevent anything from happening to my puppy; I go outside with her every time she's out, I put up a fence around my pool with my own money, and I even bought "Saftey Turtles" for their collars, and if they get wet, an alarm goes off in the house. She's fallen in the pool twice and we've run out and grabbed her without any issues at all.
When I got my new puppy, it really relieved the pain, but I'll never forget Lilly, and I certainly didn't replace her. I'd wait it out a few weeks and see how you feel; eventually you're going to want someone else.
One thing I just have to say is that when I got my new puppy, I made sure that I bonded more with her. I got her more treats, I sleep with her curled up to my body every night under the blanket, and I certainly hang out with her as much as possible. I even ditch school or call in sick to work just to go to the vet with her; even for just a minor toe nail clipping.
I hope this helps, and trust me, I know how you feel.
My little sister was there too, but she never saw Lilly after she...passed. My little sister cried too, but I had to be strong and tell her it was Okay. In reality, it's not okay. Bad stuff happens a lot, and I just am going to make sure it never happens again-
2007-07-01 08:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mike J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard when you lose your dog. They are like part of the family, and you miss them so much. Everybody is different when it comes to dealing with this kind of loss. There's nothing wrong with you for being excited about getting a new dog, it's just that unfortunately, you're getting a new dog because your old one passed away. Try not to think of the new dog as Conner's "replacement". You can always make a place in your heart and memories just for Connor, and the new dog will be special, too, but won't take Connor's place.
It's really hard when you are grieving, because there isn't much you can do to make the pain stop. You just have to let it out. Cry if it makes you feel better, or spend some time talking about your dog with other people. You can also try to write, paint, or do other things that usually make you feel better. In time, it won't hurt so bad, and your family will be ready for another dog.
2007-07-01 08:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say I'm sorry for the loss of Connor.
but honey you won't actually be replacing Connor. You will just be getting a new puppy.
As I'm sure you already know there is no puppy that can replace Connor. Remember the good times you had with Connor and cry and grieve it's only natural.
If you haven't have a time that the family can talk and remember Connor,cry together this may help you all.
A new puppy I have found help to kind of take your mind off of Connor not that you will forget him but it will kind of fill that empty spot by having something new to train and spend time with.
Everything will work out as long as you and your brother realize the new pup is not there to replace Connor but just that a new puppy to raise and love. It's kind of like with you when your brother was born it wasn't to replace you but just another child to love. Try to think of it that way.
I have had this happen a few times and I'll be honest I waited only 2 months but that each person and family is different.
Good Luck and do take the time to grieve.
2007-07-01 09:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kit_kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing to do is talk about your loss and cry. If we don't express grief, it stays bottled up inside and eats away at us. You and your little brother need each other right now so I hope you will support one another as you go through the grieving process. It is never easy to lose a furry friend. I am so sorry to hear that you lost Connor.
Have you ever heard of the Rainbow Bridge? It is a wonderful place over the rainbow where all of our pets go to wait for us. They are never sick or in pain. They are all happy and well and one day we when we are very old and cross the bridge, there they will be with eyes shining and tails wagging just waiting for their special human. I am a firm believer in the Rainbow Bridge and I know someday I will once again see all of my dear, furry friends. I hope the poem brings you and your brother some peace.
Here is a link to the story: http://www.cameochihuahuas.net/General_menu/Rainbow_bridge1.html
2007-07-01 08:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!i'm 14 and loved my dog he died a few months ago and I did not want to replace him and i was scared i would not love a dog again.you are not trying to replace connor you are just looking for that bonding k-9 connection again that you and your family had!you will get another dog and love him just as much as connor and he will never be like connor no dog will every dog is different if you want to talk you can talk to me just think you get to raise a dog to be the very best it can be and he or she is going to love you and your family!!!now I have my new dog and he is nothing like hershey but I still love him and he makes me so happy!but I know I will never forget hershey!and you and your family will never forget connor, the dog you get next will be the dog you want and need!to eez the pain I would just think that it was his time to go and I need to remember all the good times he had with you,he loved you and your family and did not die alone and his memorys will live on in your heart!
2007-07-01 08:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by 5v62020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We love dogs unconditionally. We only love our parents and our own children unconditionally. Our hearts love our dogs just like they were our child. My first dog Scotty I got .when I was 9. I had him until I was 17. Scotty has been gone for 42 years and sometimes I still cry over what I lost. I have had many dogs in my life and all have broken my heart when they died. I will have dogs in my life for the remaining years I live. To me the pain and sorrow of the day they leave this world is well worth it because while they are here they bring so much joy, love and memories. Dogs try hard to give us enough love and great memories while they are here to sustain us through our grief It takes time to heal your heart from the loss. I think time only scars over the pain. The scar tissue can be ripped open at any time and felt again and again. Doesn't matter if it's been 2 years or 42. Think of your dog in this light. Only one dog in ten find a forever home. Your dog was extremely lucky because he had you and your family. The quality of his life that he shared with you was 100% better than the other nine dogs that didn't get a home and someone to care and love them. These unfortunate dogs found themselves in a shelter and many were killed there. I think it would do you a world of good for you to honor your dogs memory by giving your time, love and energy to less fortunate dogs at your local shelter. volunteer to train, brush, feed or walk a few of the dogs that haven't found a home. It will heal your heart a little and make you into a better person. It will enrich the dogs lives, too. Please think about it. I'm sorry about your dog. One day you will be grateful for the time you spent with your precious dog and the memories you'll treasure for the rest of your life. Your dog used to follow you around the house and now he watches you from above. He still loves you and always will.
2016-05-20 03:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling Another dog will never replace your Connor..You will always have memories of Connor.
I have a had several dogs in my life. And each one is special to me.
If you find that only waiting a month to get a new dog so be it. If you find that six months is not long enough so be it.
You will know in your heart when it is the right time for you to let a new dog in your life.
2007-07-01 08:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings for your lost pet is natural, don't worry about it too much as the sick feeling you and your 11 year old brother gets thinking about replacing Connor.
Don't rush into getting another dog until you are certain that you and your brother have got over the death of your last pet, that will happen in due course.
2007-07-01 08:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by sidestepper11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to put my 10 year old dog down in Jan. She was the love of my life. I swore there would be no more dogs for me. Well guess what , in march, we adopted a new puppy. She in now way replaced my Sadie she is totally different, but what she did do is teach me to love again and help mend my very broken heart.
2007-07-01 08:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by JANET O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have love for connor. When you get a new dog, you will learn to love him in the same way but he will NEVER replace connor b/c he will be in your heart forever. PLus connor wants you to be happy@!!!!
2007-07-01 08:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋