I asked my girlfriend to put on a school girl outfit to help our relationship a bit. She totally freaked out and hit me and called me names like freak and pervo. I have made effort for her like cleaning more and coming home early most nights. She seemed happier with my changes but this one thing has had such a extreme reaction that i am thinking that maybe i asked for too much.
I also asked her to pretend that I was an older prefect running the tuck shop and I caught her stealing a pack of Frazzles and she had to let me spank her and molest her with the headteacher as a telling off she wouldn't forget. It was just a bit of fun really. You know to break up the hum drum.
what should I do about her?
2007-07-01 08:19:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU HAVE TOTALLY LOST THE PLOT !! FRAZZLES ??
2007-07-01 08:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by DEBBIE DOES DALLAS !!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i dont think your a pervert, you just wanted to act out a fantasy in a relationship between two adults. I would rather my man want to spice up his life with me than cheat because he is bored. However you need to understand that what turns on one person could repulse another. Her reaction is extreme so i would gently build up a conversation and ask what she felt was so wrong about your fantasy and why she felt so strongly against it, without you getting defensive, you can then share with her why its appealing to you. The schoolgirl fantasy isnt exactly unusual loads of guys admit to it being one of their favorites- look at the back to school parties many bars and clubs host! Loads of guys go to those and they can't all be perverts. Personally i would have asked her to pretend to steal something other than a pack of frazzles though- even the word isnt sexy lol. As a woman, i have no problems with role play, but admit how long i'm in the relationship, and if i trust the person enough has an awfull lot to do with how far im willing to share, and re-enact my lovers fantasys. Perhaps your partner felt threathened that she wasn't enough to satisfy you. Or from her extreme reaction had a bad experience at school with a person in authority, even so she should not have hit you and that is an issue that needs to be addressed. If you love her enough you may have to accept that the schoolgirl thing is never going to happen, but see that as an opportunity to use your imagination and work on a new one, ask her what her fantasys are, perhaps you can both create one together. Failing that she may just be an old fashioned vanilla sex girl- its then your call, to choose whether you can be satisfied with just that, or really need someone more open minded.
2007-07-01 09:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Role playing is a natural way to break up the monotiny of a sexual relationship. I think that you just don't speak "female".
It has to fun for her and if you don't sit down and make sure that you communicate with her that you would just like to have fun and that perhaps "she" can figure out some of the roles that would be fun for her to bring to the table.
If it were not a fun activity then adult costume shops via the internet would not be so extremely popular.
Sometimes if you start with something that would be ROMANTIC...(that's female language and it turns most of us on more than male SEX, check the romance novel sales to legitamitize this statement)
Good luck
2007-07-01 08:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Terri P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a girl and i think dressing up is a great way to put some excitement in the relationship - but the whole school girl thing always had me worried!!
you should have asked for a nurse or french maid or even a naughty nun would've been better, at least they are depicting adults!
2007-07-01 08:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the first one was ok and i think she overreacted but the second one was a little kinky. talk to her honestly and see what she finds so uncomfortable. Then maybe you guys can come up with some things that work for both of you.
2007-07-01 08:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Aurra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you asked her to do this stuff while telling her it would help your relationship you did indeed insult her. your suggesting she's the one that needs to change in order to fix your relationship. there are more tactful ways of getting this done without letting her think she is not good enough without changing herself. instead you might want to say hey honey since we have some freetime lets go shopping together and buy some sexy stuff. your way is telling her that she needs to change in order to please you. have you thought about doing something your self to change the hum drum? why don't you go buy something to wear for her?
2007-07-01 08:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um. I think freak and pervo are the right words. You wanted to be the headmaster and spank and molest her?? You sicko.
2007-07-01 08:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by jo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she's freaked out! explain to her why you feel the need to do this role playing! Good luck!!
2007-07-01 08:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you both just need to sit down and talk about what each of your specific fantasies are and then go from there.
2007-07-01 08:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by navykid1243 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You came on too strong too fast. You should of asked her if she would have been ok with dress up. That you thought it would spice things up. Talk to her and clear things up. Be gentle and honest.
2007-07-01 08:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wwwooowww..ummm. u sound like ur just tryin to spice things up, nothing wrong with that. i would just talk 2 her and tell her things and not spring it up on her. like a warning. try that and if it dont work then maybe ur just too different.
2007-07-01 08:34:09 · answer #11 · answered by becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋