After planning a wedding, my RSVP date came and went and I still had 25 outstanding invites. The guests had about 5-6 weeks to reply with a pre-stamped and addressed envelope. I understand that we are all busy people, it gets lost in the shuffle, and it isn't exactly high priority, but I am interested to see what some other reasons might be! Do you think it is rude?
2007-07-01 07:32:11 · 10 answers · asked by kelly m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am so guilty of this. In my own frame of mind, I am thinking it is really not necessary. If I am very familiar with the bride or groom, I usually give a verbal confirmation. If I am not familiar with the bride or groom, I usually try not commit until the last minute. I try not to confirm unless I know I want to or can attend. Oftentimes, I end up forgetting about the deadline.
Thanks for the question. You gave me something to think about.
2007-07-05 04:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by Denise 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's really rude and I always RSVP right away... I'm sick and tired of planning events and never knowing if people are coming!
You know what else ticks me off along these lines? Twice a year, at Christmastime and around my daughter's birthday (in June) I send cards out to friends and family with a picture included, to keep in touch, because I am busy and they are busy, and it's nice to hear from people every now and then and see how they're doing. The past year or two, I have stopped sending to people I haven't heard from in the past year and a half. My opinion is that if someone can't make time in a year and a half to call me, send me an email, or write a letter (or send a cookie cutter christmas card!) then clearly it is not important to them to hear from me.
Can you believe that there are people (pretty much mostly my relatives on my mother's side) who have the audacity to be surprised that I no longer correspond with them. I respond to letters I receive promptly - in less than a week - and I return phone calls and emails within a day or two. I am not hard to stay in touch with. But for some reason I get this "We should get together! Let's stay in touch!" reaction from people who do not respond to me for years on end.
I say good riddance - I for one am sick and tired of people who think they are too busy to take three minutes a year to talk to me. Clearly, anyone who cares about anyone at all would do this, especially when the other person initiates the conversation.
(Sorry about the rant -- but I thought you'd get this!)
2007-07-01 09:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just plain rude, and I don't care about "how busy people are"... When you compare "day-to-day busy" versus how busy you are when you're trying to plan a wedding/reception, there's no comparison! If I could find time to send the invitation with a SASE, they can find time to check a box and pop it in the mail. I had about 15 folks not return the RSVP, so I sent them reminder postcards.. resulted in a few checks being sent (I guess because I guilted them!) but who cares - it paid for a cruise to the Bahamas!
2007-07-01 07:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People that do this are very rude and inconsiderate. It is one of the most important days of your life and they did not have the decency to respond in a timely fashion. I would be hurt. They are obviously not worth the money that you would have to spend on meals, etc. Personally, I wouldn't even remind them but after the wedding let them know what they did was impolite and they have no couth.
I am sure your wedding will still be wonderful! Congrats and just have fun on your special day!!!!!
2007-07-01 07:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it is very rude, people do not understand the importance of RSVP's.
I'd be calling people up the next day inquiring about their RSVP and if they can go or not.
2007-07-01 07:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ignore them with an uninvited RSVP .Now they no longer are invited.
2007-07-01 07:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like you said people are busy. I always try to immediately return it.
2007-07-01 07:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by She-Ra 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have received a good lesson of a life, having invited casual people not respecting you. They have not estimated your hospitality, forget them and find new, present friends
2007-07-01 07:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Alexandr S 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Unthinking rudeness.
2007-07-01 07:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Exactly what is the percentage of ADD or ADHD people in society... beeeecause, theres your answer.
2007-07-01 08:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋