IN bed he squeezes me and it hurts and when he wraps he legs around me, i almost break. When he tickles me its really hard and during sex he almost throws me around everywhere and pulls on my **** like hes trying to tear them off. The other day he was giving someone directions and swung his hand and hit me in my face. It was an accident but he made my lip bleed and didnt even say "Baby im so sorry" or Hold me or something. He just continued to give the guy directions. He later said, that im a tuff cookie and im not. I actually cried (tears in my eyes) because it hurt.
Also he learned about this beaver chop thing and did it to me and that hurt alot. "For the sake of our relationship I need help. I almost want to move out and say no to any relationship for a while. were supposed to get married but im losing attraction for him because he doesnt treat me how he should. Im not some kunfu toy that can deal with that. Im a woman and I need to be treated like that.
2007-07-01 06:56:02 · 32 answers · asked by agentsmiles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He grew up with all boys and they skrew around all the time. I have never been like that with a guy and do not want to- he is too strong.
Also, in the mornings he wakes up and im still sleeping- it may be 8am but its sunday and he wants it and I dont. I get up brush my teeth, wash my face and then give him the attention he needs. But I'd rather tell him to let me sleep but I dont know how to address all the problems without making it seem like its everything about him
I really think he has an issue with how to be a boyfriend. I dont know how he's going to be a husband??
2007-07-01 07:00:12 · update #1
First of all you have to come to the realization that your boyfriend is a jackass. Secondly, kick him real hard in the nuts and let him see how tough his cookies really are. Your boyfriend doesn't respect you and he has a real problem. He is actually getting his kicks by causing you harm. I hate to say this but things will probably get worse before they get better. You are absolutely right. You are not a kungu fu toy. Your so called boyfriend is just that a boy. What you need to do is find you a man who is going to treat you with the love and respect you deserve. Your current boyfriend still has a lot of growing up to do. So now you are faced with two choices, you can stay with him and take a few karate or kick boxing lessons or find you a mature guy who will treat you like a lady. If you stay you better practice your patented "NUT CHOP" Kee--Yah!!!! Peace and God bless.
2007-07-01 07:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the worst thing you can do is stay in a relationship that is harmful to you. Since you haven't made a commitment to marriage you really need to figure out if you can live like this for the rest of your life. Females always think that guys will change and that what ever their problems were it will go away. Some men do change, but MOST don't. If you discuss this with him seriously and he asks if he doesn't care about what you have to say or don't change then you need to put your foot down and leave. Most importantly, don't go back..
2007-07-01 07:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by panther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the description of what he is doing give me great sympathy for you so if he can't understand that then you need not get married to the guy. I don't even know you and I am in pain. Sex has to be a two way street. If all he is thinking about is himself, then imagine what other issues may come a long with that. He may feel that way about bigger decision. You have to speak up for yourself and tell him that if he wants to marry, you all have to find a common ground. As far as hitting you in the face, that was plan rude of him esp. if you were bleeding. What is he going to say when you are in labor with his child, "you are a tough cookie, you don't need to hold my hand?" you deserve so much more than that and you need to realize that once you walk down that isle you are pledging your life to this person. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life in misery?
2007-07-01 07:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by from_me_to_you 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Holy crap. That does not sound like someone who you should marry. Making love is supposed to be just that. "Making Love", not let's do things to hurt my girlfriend and see how far I can push it. It's an intimate thing that two people share, not a W.W.E. wrestling match. You NEED to explain this to him and if he doesn't understand or refuses to, then as much as it might hurt., you should probably move on. Nobody deserves that. Or kick him in the crotch and see if he likes it. Either way, you need to resolve it soon. Good Luck
2007-07-01 07:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really cared about you he wouldn't treat you like that. And if you guys are talking about getting married you should be able to tell him how you feel. Also tell him if he can't respect your wishes you are leaving because your not going to put up with his behavior anymore.
2007-07-01 07:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by KEE-KEE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all babe, what is a "Beaver chop thing"?? Second of all, if you really feel this way, let him know. Chances are to him if you don't complain to him about it, your all right with it. If he does not understand whats going on, leave him. No female deserves to be treated like that, Good luck.
2007-07-01 07:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For your own safety, get out of that relationship NOW! He is an abuser and you're letting him get away with it. You deserve so much better than that. My sister went through an abusive relationship many years ago. It took her three years to get up the nerve to leave him. They had just had a son together and I think she was either afraid he would have hurt their son, or else she didn't want their son to be exposed to that kind of relationship. Please leave now. Stay with family or friends. If that's not possible, please check your city for a local women's shelter. Best wishes and good luck!
2007-07-01 07:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Missy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move out. This is just the beginning. He is controlling and a bully. Neither will change and he will only be rougher with you after you are married to him. He will remind you that you are his wife and HAVE to do what he says. Get out now. Find yourself a nice guy that will treat you with the respect you deserve.
2007-07-01 07:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a self-centered, Type A, Controlling ******, who only worries about #1... BEFORE you get married talk to him about it, see if he changes, and if those changes are genuine.. But my guess is for your sake its best to pack your bags and move on... You don't want to live the rest of your life hurting, and wishing things could be different..
2007-07-01 07:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Black Sheep 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a big problem when a person doesnt honor you and respect your wishes. Yet till I came to truth I was somewhat the same as him-this is the toughest question I have prayed to answer
you are on the fence not willing to let go or to go back or ahead.
may I offer a prayer that helped me= "Jesus if I am not willing to do your perfect will, change my will so I will be willing to do it." in your name Jesus amen
this is what helped me, and got me to believe Hebrews 13 "In marriage the bed is undefiled but the others will be judged."
Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship hath light with darkness and righteousness with unrighteousness.
my help came from above and comforted me through to today=this is what got me from religion to Jesus and simple truth happily=this is how I as a Jew came to know Jesus personally
"Unto us a child is born, a son is given, and he will be the mighty God, and the prince of peace." Isaiah 9:6
the answer is still in the salvation of the soul-till then we are on the outside looking in. Revelation 22 "Do not add to my word or take from it or you will get plagues, and never find salvation."
this is how I got salvation-believing the Word of God="I love you, and ask you to repent of your sins (even one lie) quickly. Behold I stand at your heart door and knock if you hear my words and ask me in, I will come in and be your friend." Revelation 1:1=Jesus words spoken from heaven & 3:19&20
so i prayed "Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen."
Now Jesus is my Messiah, best friend, and savior, he comforts and keeps me, and His word has become the love letter of my life in Spirit and in truth.
Praying the best for you too, David
2007-07-01 07:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋