What would you do if you're asked out on a date but you cannot afford to pay for anything?

Question

Should I cancel/ reschedule for another time or just tell him that it would all have to be his treat??

I need answers asap please!!

Answer 1

you should thank God you're a woman, so it doesn't matter
:-)

Answer 2

I have definitely been in this situation, so go with what you feel most comfortable with.

You could reschedule, but definitely reschedule! You don't want to give the guy the impression that you don't respect him or his time. So, find something in your area that you know he and you would enjoy for another date (i.e. - so this great movie (not chick flick) is coming out this weekend, or there is a free concert this friday night in the park (depending on your location), or whatever is in your area to do that may be of interest at a future date, etc. Then, you don't have talk finances right off the bat!

If this is not an option (you live a small town with nothing to do), then...

If you know him and like him, invite him over and cook for him or watch a movie, etc. And, you can sort of hint at the real reason for doing this (i.e.- hey, I don't get paid until Friday, but I really wanted hang out. Plus, I make a mean manicotti...)

Find something cheap to do. I have found that some of my favorite dates have not been the dinner and a movie thing. If he is sort of outdoorsy, go to the park and play catch (if you don't know how, then get to ask him pointers. Guys that are athletic usually like to show this off to you). So, grab a wiffle ball bat/football/frisbee and go. It is free and you could learn something. Or, show him that you like this stuff too. If he is not really that type, then get creative. I once had a water ballooon fight as a first date. Obviously, this is not applicable to most "dating" situations, but it was definitely a different, memorable experience!

Go for low maintenance....meaning, see if you can bum $20 bucks from your sibling and just go to places that would cater to that. Go get coffee and pie at a diner. Since the overall tab is pretty wallet friendly, he will probably just get the check, but you can still afford to pay your part, if he doesn't! Or, since it is summer, you could also just suggest getting ice cream. (Also, this may work in combination with something else free like the park or a museum). Go do something physical and then grab ice cream.

Anyway, this is not an exhaustive list and it may not be at all what you are looking for, but I hope that it may give you some ideas. Good luck with your date.

Answer 3

Be honest. Just say to him, "Look, I'd really like to go out with you, but money is a little tight this week, can we reschedule?" If he originally intended to pay for everything, he'll be impressed by your gesture and tell you not to worry because he wants to treat you this time. If he agrees that the date should wait until you have money, then you know he is a little tight when it comes to spending money and you may want to reconsider dating him at all. I'm not saying the man always has to pay for a date, but if he asked you out and it's your first date with him, it's only natural for the man to pay. Good luck!

Answer 4

Being a girl, you have an advantage here, because it's not super untraditional for you not to pay. Bu, I will tell you something that will fix your problem here and now: kind of reluctantly tell him that you are really short on money right now. The "hero/nurterer" instinct of a guy will kick in in about 1 second. I would also love a girl with the humility to admit something like that to me. BE CAREFUL!: Let him know that this is not an excuse to try and get out of it! He may think that. The best way: tell him you want to make a deal with him. You are gonna cover the next date, wherever you go! That tells him you like him enough for a second date.

(And if you really want to see if he's a rare gem, he'll do what I would do if I made that deal with you, our 2nd date would be at someplace that just happened to be totally free! Awwww ;- )

Answer 5

Well,I think you should just tell ur date that you r low on cash and you really cant afford to pay for much or well anything at all. He is the guy so I am sure he will understand and be fine with it! I hope you have fun on your date and if he doesnt say it is alright then you know he is wanting you to pay a little so just reshedule, I hope this helped. Good Luck!

Answer 6

the tradition is the one doing the asking pays. Make it clear that if they are asking it is their treat, you cannot afford to split the bill right now.

Borrow some money from a trusted family memeber, just in case the date goes bad you'll have money for a ride home, etc.
be careful, and good luck.

In my case, i'd just ask them to come over and watch a DVD or something and make popcorn. I'd never go anywhere without enough money, in case something happened.

Answer 7

Honesty is the best policy...but if you think it might be a bit expensive for him, then reschedule...just tell him somethings come up...but you definatley want to arrange another date and suggest a day...that way he knows you aren't just fobbing him off.

Answer 8

If you are asked out by a guy, he should be paying - you shouldn't have to tell him you have no money to pay. In a perfect world, every guy would pay if he asked a girl out for a first date.

Answer 9

yes. reschedule because if you cancel u will have to come up with a good reason why. if u reschedule then all u have to say is i already had plans i forgot 'bout. good luck!

Answer 10

Do something that does not require money. Maybe suggest going to a park for a walk. Be honest with the person and just tell them, right now I am a little low on cash, but would still like to see you. You never know, they may say its on me.

Answer 11

Just tell him the truth...you really can't afford to go out but you'll take a rain check. If he offers to pay for everything and you really want to go then don't order the most expensive things.