what do you tell your 6yr old son when he asks what is sex ?

Question

In my eyes he is still a baby and should still be innocent and I think that is too harsh of a thing for a child to know about but his little friends seem to know about this subject and now he is asking questions

Answer 1

Dr. Laura said that her kids knew at that age. It is better to know correctly than be confused by all the facts given by friends. Just answer the questions that are asked directly.

Answer 2

Tell him it's when a man puts his penis in a woman's vagina and moves it around so she can have a baby. That's what my 9 year-old told my 5 year-old--I heard about it after the fact. They both have been fine about it ever since (now 21 and 25).

I had explained that each parent has a part of the baby and when the parts come together just right a baby will grow inside the mother. That worked out okay, except when they'd ask if something in the past had happened while they were still in two parts.

Answer 3

i'm not sure what you really mean about sex being "too harsh of a thing for a child to know about." Kids who grow up on farms generally learn about sex at a young age from being with the animals and understanding the process of how life begins and ends and progresses. Kids today in our society have no exposure to that and so they need to ask quesitons. I totally agree that it's nice to think of them as innocent for as long as possible but, I'm not sure what answering their curiousities about sex really does to have a negative effect on their innocence. One thing I know from my kdis is that they
really don't hear what they are not able to at least comprehend on some level. It just goes over their heads. Don't shy away from your children's questions about anytiing. Firstly and very importantly, you want to encourage your children to ask YOU the questions and not look to other sources that may not be trustworthy. If kids have questions and they want answers, they will not just abandon the question if you don't answer it. They will ask someone else and lots of times that's their friends. You want them to trust that you will give them truthful and real information. The thing I always ask my kids fiorst when they come to me with a question is, "Where did you hear about it?" You want to know what they are really asking before you figure out what to say. And you want to know who told them so you can clarify the info if you need to. If thye heard about it from a kid on the school bus, it's going to mean someting very different than if they saw it on TV or learned about it in school, for instance. Also you are really better off just answering their basic question and not going into a whole explanation of anything. They are looking for the short and simple answer. Each time they ask something else, you can add more details based in their further questioning. I don't mean you should avoid telling them things but, don't offer information until they ask for it. It's a good idea to think of how you will say things so that you are comfortable with the words and the topic before they start asking. There's a really good book called, "It's So Amazing." The second one (for older kids) is called "It's Perfectly Normal." Both are excellent. You might want to get the first one just so you can have the resource for yourself and share it with your child when you choose to.

Answer 4

Well... after you get over the shock, let him guide the discussion. Ask him what he thinks it is, where he heard of it. I would be honest with my answers based on his responses to my questions. I would also start explaining now about abstinence, and that you should wait until you are an adult to participate in something that can really change your life. BE HONEST and don't give the wrong answers to protect them, it will come back later to bite you in the butt, because later on in life they will be confused and it could have an adverse affect on his sexual life.

Answer 5

If he's old enough to ask, he's old enough to be told the truth, regardless of your image of him. But do be sure you know what he's asking. Ask him questions of your own to clarify what it is he want to know and tell him just what he's asking about, no more.

Don't be like the father whose little tyke asked where he came from, and after father took a deep breath and ran through the entire birds and bees speech, the little boy said, "Oh. I just wondered because Timmy said he came from Cleveland."

Answer 6

Telling them about sex is the easy part.

It's telling them about war that is the tough one.

Two people really love each other, want to be very close. That's about it. You can use anatomical terms on a regular basis then it won't seem so awkward when the sex talk comes up. Mention the parts when necessary, the scientific names of them, not nicknames. That way you'll already be used to saying them.

Answer 7

Ha ha ha, I agree with the first responder.
My parents actually did this to me.

My mom said that there are two types of sex: male sex and female sex.
Since I could read by then she showed me some form where you had to indicate your sex.

This was good enough for me :-) !!!|
Made perfect sense!

My fiancé's parents actually did not explain anything to their children. On a family vacation to Disney, they took their boys to a theater, where they showed an education movie about reproduction.
My fiance thought it was effective explanation for him.

Answer 8

the truth it is never to early to get them to understand it now and it should come from mommy how babies r made wait to have sex till ur married u no stuff like dat
and it is e z to get him to no now at a young age then at the age when it will be uncomfortable for him

Answer 9

I have a 6 year old, too, and what we told her is it's the same as calling someone a boy or girl or man or woman. They probably aren't talking about "having" sex, but the word itself.

Answer 10

Start out simple. Tell him that is what mommies and daddies do together when they want to make eachother feel good. Tell him some non graphic details if he persists. Like they touch eachother and it feels nice. If he is really insistent tell him about privte parts,but use the real names like penis and vagina.