But he replied,"im not ready, neither here nor there, maybe we can become gd friends some day..." Why did he say that? More details can be found @ bottledthots.blogspot.com if you are really so sincere in helping...thx. Ü
2007-07-01 05:37:34 · 9 answers · asked by lurvespiglet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But he replied,"I'm not ready, neither here nor there, maybe we can become gd friends some day..." Why did he say that?
New added details:
Some have mistaken that the gal did not do her part by showing signs that she's ready. She has hugged him, kissed him. And the day when he actually say that they may end up being friends, is the day after she confessed her feelings to him. Its obviously for the last 3mths, she had her heart won over, but he just did not want to "officialise" it..Non of his friends knew about this relationship.BTW, why she didn't thot he's a player is, he's very sincere in doing everything for her. From cooking for her to being a very sensitive companion to pleasing all her friends. What exactly is wrong...
2007-07-08 23:18:27 · update #1
If two people can not commit after 6 months, especially the girl, then something is lacking. Six months is a long ttimee for anyone to make up their minds about how they feel regarding a relationship, whether it be friends or more serious. I think that the guy was patient long enough, and felt that maybe he was the one doing most of the giving. Communication is very important in any relationship. I think the guy was cavalier in saying "im not ready, and maybe someday we can become good friends, because he is unsure how totally committed this girl would be. If this your situation, I would try and continue being his friend, and show him that you are serious about how you feel. He also may be having second thoughts
2007-07-09 05:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man you describe was enjoying the natural progression of things, spending time with this woman, doing sweet and fun things with her.
After 3 months he was not prepared for a line to be drawn in the sand "we are exclusive" "we are a couple" "we are together". It was like seeing a stop sign out of the dark and he reacted by putting on the brakes.
I do not know why people insist on putting definitions and labels on things that do not need labeling. If two people enjoy each other's company and are spending time together and having nothing but good things to say about each other - why does this have to carry the label "long term relationship"?
The man is living 'in the moment' and is not planning out every day of his future. By saying "...maybe we can become..." he is placing distance between himself and the woman and not wanting to be too harsh. But it is definite. He is ending the relationship where it stands. Without wanting to be harsh or make her think there is some personality flaw he can't handle, he is letting her know the relationship is over, not to call him with questions about it, maybe at some point in the future they can reunite and spend time together - but he is clear he wants it to be as friends so no pressure can build.
I am no expert, this is simply my reaction, as a man.
2007-07-09 05:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of Karma. If you really are sincere in finding out what went wrong, then listen: Men don't want women to be too easy, but any woman who is really interested in a guy yet keeps him hanging for 6 months...well, she doesn't deserve him and he deserves better. What kind of mind game were you playing? Next time take a few weeks to determine if you want to take a chance with him, then let him know you're ready...but for goodness sakes! don't wait 6 months and then complain because he changed his mind@!
2007-07-08 16:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thrill of the chase! Plus, hes only been "chasing" after her for 6 months anyway, so I can only assume that after the chase was over, they maybe went out a time or two...so whats lost here? And why would she waste that much time on "being chased"? Apparantly, theres not much of an attraction on either one of their parts.
2007-07-08 16:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he liked the way things were before. Guys don't wait 6 mts. to tell you they want more. He got board, which he would do to other girls. When you want to get to know someone, you stick around until Therese nothing left. That's when everyone gets board. So , move on soon, and get to know a guy that is interested in you right away.
2007-07-09 05:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be good friends inorder to develop a relationship. tht sound like what he wants to do. Im not quite sure why he was chasing the girl. maybe to get her attention, but not to develop a romantic relationship. My first thought was he liked the chase but that's all he wanted.
2007-07-09 04:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my own experience of this, my advice is that he wanted to remain friends. sometimes, the friendship means more to a guy than a relationship. he was more than likely afraid of commitment in a relationship with you. thats y he chose to be friends, rather than start an official relationship with you.
sometimes, its best to wait for the male to come out and say they love and r in love with u first. at least it would save us girls from feeling like complete fools!
2007-07-09 04:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess that is the downside of being hard to get. Eventually everybody just gets tired of 'chasing.'
2007-07-06 09:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not ready to make a commitment
2007-07-01 05:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by wonderin2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋