My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 months. Most of that time he has been away at university but now he is back home, it's still difficult to see him regularly since he wont tell his parents about us. I dont understand why he wont! He said he will when he goes back to uni but that means wasteing all that time wecould have together!
His mum is pretty bossy and controlling from what I've heard of her and I know guys find it more difficult to lie to their mums than girls do to make life easier, why doesnt he tell her? I have no problem in meeting his parents. I vaguely know them from church and apparently she doesnt like my family even though shes never properly met me!
But he is 19 and he should be able to go out with whoever he wants and he should be mature enough to tell them! He says he doesnt want to "wreck the family stability"!
He's going to tell them so why not now? It'll makethings so much easier fo everyone!
How can i persuade him to make him tell them about us?
2007-07-01 05:35:27 · 19 answers · asked by Sophie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes not telling you everything. There might be more to the story. As far as I am concerned if he loves you and such there shouldnt be any reason. Why should some one that age still be afraid of his mother? Something doesnt sound right.
2007-07-01 05:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by ~§uηƒℓσబєr§~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all he is 19 and an adult he should act like a man and tell them anyway. Secondly, you said his mom was pretty bossy and controlling? You are too if you want to find a way to make him do what you want.
2007-07-01 05:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard for me to understand why you would continue to pursue someone who, obviously, doesn't consider you important to his life.
You might want to question his reasons for dating you at all, if he is so averse to having his parents know about it.
Keep in mind the old saying, "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree." If his parents are unreasonable and judgmental, you may expect that he will be the same as he grows older.
I have been in a similar position, and decided to move on to someone whose family had enough respect for him to not interfere with his personal choices. They also liked me.
2007-07-01 05:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mattie D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey dear, just three months?.... what do u expect?.. u cant know anyone through and through even if u live with em for three decades, and u r saying 3 months. have mercy, dont think that deep of any relation until u have spent at least 3 yrs with him. u expect too much, stop that forever... u cant expect anything from any relationship.. u have to give in to relation not take out.. only by giving a lot, u may recieve something back, if thats ur attitude to just take out without giving in anything... ur doomed to failure in every relationship in life.!! remember, love is like a hug from a child, u have to deserve it, u cant take it...... godluck..!!! u r going to need it!
2007-07-01 05:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by friendsseason9 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, you should not want to persuade him to tell his parents. Because discussing such matter with his parents may seem difficult to him. But you should ask him how he feels about all this and the reason why he is delaying about spilling the beans to his mom. Good luck and take caree!!
=) trishh
2007-07-01 05:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't want to sound negative but maybe he isn't taking the relationship as seriously as you are. Or maybe his parents, especially his mum, has heard rumors about your family (which may not be true) and has passed judgement with out knowing yall very well. I was lucky that my husband didn't need his parents approval to be with me. I actually met them the night before our wedding since they live a few states away from us.
2007-07-01 05:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by sapphirevabch 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-07-01 05:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Arene 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sopie, My love you should not have to make him if he is not man enough to do it then in my opinion he is not man enough to be receiving your love ! I am 47 and disabled so I sit, watch and think about life and love. You only have 3 monhs invested so you could go out and find a man worthy of your love !
2007-07-01 05:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After only 3 months, give him space. He is probably protecting you more than you realize. If his family is what you describe, it would be better to meet them after you 2 are together longer. Why test your relationship so early? Have fun and enjoy yourself.
2007-07-01 05:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Florida Gal 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you have found you a real "mommys boy" and his mom is controlling him.....totally. Evidently his mom has really downed your family and he is afraid to tell her he likes you.
My suggestion is.......dump him and run. IF he is this way now.....he will stay that way til death do part him and his mommy. Good luck. Pops
2007-07-01 05:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋