suppose you fall in love with a girl, and everything's going great, until about six months into it, when a huge financial tragedy strikes. this will cause you to be absolutely dead broke for the next five years. since she has kids, you know that she needs someone who can be a good provider for her and for them. you also know that she loves you to the point that she'll never leave you or give up on you, no matter what happens. do you leave her for her own sake, as to not drag her and her kids through your problems, and encourage her to find someone better, or is there another way? is it selfish to stay with her?
2007-07-01 05:22:13 · 20 answers · asked by That Guy Drew 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
God is bigger than your finances, Drew. Take a look at Mat 6:33. That verse turned my life completely around six years ago. My financial situation sucked and it was getting worse because I was trying to fix it instead of seeking the Lord. I made that change, and my financial situation changed right along with is.
God has made us a lot of promises, but those promises have conditions. Take a look at III John 2, Psalm 1, Mal 3:8-12, Ps 66:18, Luke 6:38, Prov 28:13 & Prov 3
2007-07-02 03:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Caveman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lady loves you.Or you going to throw that away because of money? You will break her heart.you can work this out,nothing can be that bad.Get a loan consoldate your financial problems,get a second job==anything.You will be hurting both of you and the kids. Being a good provider is not the whole thing,there is a bunch of love in there.Having a person that will never give up on you and will never leave you,is a hell of a lot better than things.Grab her and hold on to her.Ever thing else will out.
2007-07-09 04:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to leave her if you love each other. What you need to do is fix the situation. You do not have to be broke for the next 5 years. Don't become a victim of your circumstances. There is a movie you need to see, you may have heard of it. It is called "the Secret". Oprah had it on her show and there are previews for it all over the internet. PLEASE watch it, I swear if you do even half of the things they mention in the movie, it will make a huge difference in your life. Good luck in your relationship and your finances.
2007-07-09 12:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by Awesome Writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is that you must be a real man in order to think abtou her best interests. Not wanting to put her through burdens shows that you really love her.
However, what she wont get in financial burdens, she'll get in heartbreak.
My advice would be to just talk it out. and tell her that you want nothing but her happiness..and if that takes her moving on with someone else, than thats it.
If not, working through the finicial problems togther can only make you two stronger.
God Bless you.
2007-07-09 12:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Erin E. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting through the tough times is what a committed relationship is all about. If every time you come across a rough patch, and you ditch those around you who love you....then throughout life you will find yourself quite lonely. If you both truly love each other, then you will communicate these feelings and come to a mutual agreement.
2007-07-01 12:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Florida Gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hhm yes there must be a better way. you two are in love so go sit down with her and discuss this with her. let her know you dont want to ruin your relationship over money. usually that is the reason many marriages dont last. yet, if your sure you can hang with the money mess, and she has to decide too, then let you two both be in the decision making process.
she needs to know sooner or later. you, please dont be so hard on yourself. who knows, you two may be together after the five years and stronger from it. support ... it isnt just a word or a feeling anymore is it? and money is just a load of cotton. hehehe a joke.
2007-07-08 21:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask her this question? If she is willing to live with a lower lifestyle then by all means, the love provided and joy of living in such a household will do more for the children than any amount of $$$.
2007-07-01 12:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by vidiotonline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she knows about the financial difficulties and is willing to stay with you through it all then I wouldn't worry about it. Leaving her would be devastating to both of you. There's nothing wrong with needing someone else.
2007-07-01 12:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll be dead broke, or both of you?
If you've got a woman that loves you that much, stay with her. If she wants to leave you, then let her.
Unless you're married - then it's forever.
Why would you be broke for five years? What's that about?
2007-07-01 12:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Explain all these things to her before you pack up and leave. You never know, she might offer an alternative way of dealing with your financial problem.
2007-07-01 12:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋