I still need to night-nappy my daughter in thick terries for bed and as soon asI take the nappies out and say 'time for your nappy change' she goes all upset and embarassed. What can I say as an alternative ?
2007-07-01 04:46:41 · 17 answers · asked by Sophia12345 S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
there's so much more to this, you've been asking questions in this vein for nearly a month.
you divorced and around that time your little girl (6 years) reverted to baby behaviour. She wears nappies and likes to, she wets in them and you need to change her regularly. She isn't embarrassed by wearing them but is embarrassed that you mention them.
Seems strange.
You need to find out what the problem is - by speaking to her. She needs you to be really gentle with her. She probably cannot make sense of the divorce - have you spoken to her about that? She might be doing this as an attention seeking thing?
She has to stop wearing nappies in the daytime, this is just not correct.
What happens in your house at night time is between you.
If she really wants to wear nappies to bed, let her - but I'd try and understand why and phase it out.
Maybe she's afriad of wetting her bed? I'd try and help her overcome this problem - there's usually a reason for this.
She should be doing little girls things - take her to the shops, buy her some pretty ribbons, paint her fingernails and buy her some nightdresses, new duvet set. You could set her bedroom up into a lovely place for her - she can help choose colour etc - make it a whole big change she is fully involved in.
Can she have friends for sleep overs? Start bringing friends by for tea and playtime.
2007-07-02 01:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by juology 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sophia
How about changing your routine very slightly, if your daughter doesn't like change, maybe just give it a go. Shes not happy the other way anyway.
Before you do the next step, hide the nappy next to wear you change her (maybe even change where you change her)
Maybe watch TV together then say shall we run your bath? Spend time talking to her in the bath, laugh and joke and then at drying time suddenly say at the time when shes just about to have her nappy on say, 'hey, Ive got a really funny story', and be really excited as if this is the best thing. Don't even mention the nappy, then when your just getting to the good bit change her. If she starts getting upset, say hang on this is the good bit listen.... If she listens and is good for you maybe be overly praising, kisses and cuddles until it becomes the norm.
I would try and give you a story but i don't know how old she is. Praise for me has worked in many situations, older or younger.
Anyway, good luck xx
2007-07-01 22:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read some of your other questions and I think you have a bigger problem here. She is 6 years old? She insists on wearing nappies? She sneaks and put them on herself during the day? I don't think finding a word that will make her feel better about wearing them is your biggest concern. I'm curious, have you had another child recently? Did she have a illness that required her to wear them again, and she just wont give them up now? Was she ever fully potty trained? Have you gone back to work recently? Something is going on here and it's not just a nappy issue.
I'd like more information on your situation so that I may better understand whats really happening with her.
2007-07-01 09:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by trailer life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waking through the night is a habit rather than a need for a drink. Make sure she doesnt have a drink beyond 6pm and have the same routine everynight. My little boy had a fear of the dark and would not sleep in his own bed so I made sure his bedroom was a nice place to be in - bought him the bedding he wanted and he chose a nightlight. You could also then start a reward chart and every little step she does she can get a star then let her know that if she gets so many stars she can pick a suprise (go to cinema, swimming, to the park etc) and keep that going until she sleeps through all night Be persistant but not make such a big deal out of it - I found that the more I got annoyed with my son the more he would do the opposite Lots of praise and love ! she will get there.
2016-05-20 01:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even mention the Nappy's, all you need to do is tell her it is time to get her ready for bed. Also you should hug her and tell her there is absolutely nothing for her to be embarrassed about because she needs to wear nappies to bed. I admire that you are willing to let her wear nappies to bed rather then try to change her and make her use the toilet at night. No child should be tried to be changed and forced to use the bathroom at night. It gives them a feeling they are not good enough how they are.
2007-07-01 06:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she is only in nappies for going to bed?
If so, try saying, 'ok, time to get ready for bed', or 'time to get our bedclothes on' and incorporate the nappy into literally just part of the bedtime routine without actually mentioning the word 'nappy'.
How old is your daughter? the key is not to make a big thing out of it yourself, and your daughter will (eventually) follow your example. It just needs to be normality for her, and its also normal for her to feel embarrassed, as she wants to be a big girl.
Also - putting nappies on and taking them off should strictly be in private ie away from all other family members, and under no circumstances should be mentioned to other mums! Mums may talk to partners in front of your daughters friends, who will then pick up on it, and maybe tease her a little if they are no longer in nappies themselves.
2007-07-01 05:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2017-03-02 02:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Wallace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my little boy was the same so i took to making up little songs like.....
I went to the shop to buy a big smelly belly to go in your tummy (sad i know) and then make a game of it...
Also only at Bathtime/bedtime we gave him a nickname, when we said it - he used to love having his nappy changed...we used to say "arise for sir smellsalot stinkybot - he needs a bum change" and then make a game out of it!!!
it helped us...
2007-07-01 05:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her its time to change your clothes and then pull down her diaper and then change her. Might want to distract her with some songs so she does not fell so alone and embarrased . I rember changing my boy at 2 i told him time , come lets take them offf and he began crying like mad ! Then i calmed him by telling him a story about .... cant rember. While listening i managed to change him . Then after i chnged him i placed on my shoulder and patted his buttocks ! And praised him for being good
2007-07-01 22:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok do you mean you change her diaper, or what ever you use as a diaper?
y not just say "let's get you cleaned up" and change her?
and how old is the kid that's she embarassed and upset?
2007-07-01 07:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋