guy 1- loving, caring, nice, supportive, degree, financially stable, stable job, own place, lives near by, 3 yrs older, mature, a man, a real man...a gentle man, loadsa hugs and smiles all over. loving personality and attitude. from the heart...feel secure.
guy 2- loving, caring, nice, emotionally supportive, financially not so much, 2 yrs younger, lives far away, too good looking, nice body, sexually pleasing but has a hurtful, painful past but so have i and it might make it that much harder.degree, creative, humour but i dont knw if its all out of the heart tho, im doubtful or maybe too good to be true, kisses, cuddles, immature at times (is it the 2 yr difference?) maybe or do i just feel secure with older guys.
Now is guy 1 the real man, or guy 2? does guy 2 need time to grow up another 2 yrs to show the real man in him? i'm willing to wait 1 to 2 yrs. I dont knw what i want and who...but which one would most appeal to you. which one do you think is best, dont say i should knw!
2007-07-01 04:14:21 · 32 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just say it...please. i wanna hear it from someone else. am i kidding myself? am i in fatasy land? am i thinking head b4 heart? i should go for heart not head coz head can be deciving. ooooh i sooooo need help :'(
2007-07-01 04:26:08 · update #1
i'm going to break someones heart and i dont wnat to do it...i feel sooooo bad and i'm going to have to hurt someone emotionally and i dont want to but i cant live like this, surely there must be some way out...
2007-07-01 04:32:55 · update #2
guy 2 makes my heart race...and i think of him when i sleep and wake up.
2007-07-01 10:01:12 · update #3
personally id go with guy 1. He sounds much nicer and truer to me. But i do like to go with the safe option. Why don't you listen to your heart? sometimes it may take a while to hear it, but when you do, it will be clear.
2007-07-01 04:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure which to pick, you're picking out shoes. Really, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with should not be the result of an online poll or a flip of a coin. Are we men nothing but a security blanket or a sex toy? If you had really found "Mr. Right" instead of "Mr. Right-Now" you wouldn't have to ask the question. The right person would so move you that you couldn't imagine even being with anyone else. If you choose between these two guys, no matter how "nice" or "secure" they are, you'll put yourself in a position where you'll be "satisfied" but potentially "unfulfilled". Guy Nr. 1 has stability (sensible, comfortable shoes), guy Nr. 2 sets your belly on fire (flourescent pink pumps that make your feet hurt but look off the hook with your new dress). Mr. Right should so consume your thoughts that money, stability, and maturity are no longer questions or concerns. So, if you're not looking for "Mr. Forever", scratch your itch and keep it light until you find Mr. Right.
2007-07-08 16:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you need to take a little longer to make a choice, if you choose 1 and are still wondering about number 2 than you didn't make the right choice and vise-versa. Time will tell which one is the best for you. As for letting one of them know eventually, it is just going to have to be done. People get feelings hurt but time heals all wounds. It is better to hurt someone's feelings now then when you are married and 15 years later you decide you really wanted to be with the other guy more, then everyone gets hurt and no one wins.
2007-07-08 16:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I really feel for you, I've been exactly where you are right now, it's no fun!! I chose guy 1 after years of thinking about it. The doubts you have about guy 2 aren't minor. I realised I'd never truly be able to trust guy 2, but guy 1 is loyal, trustworthy and a real man who looks after me. Husband, rest of your life material. Guy 2 was great fun to be with but I realised i would always be the adult in the relationship despite the fact he's older than me, in the 9 years I've known him he's still not grown up at 30. It's such a hard decision but you don't seem to list doubts about guy 1 other than it may be less exciting than guy 2? Hope it works out for you whatever you choose.
2007-07-01 04:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
U obviously know that 'guy 1' appears to be the better one.
however, immaturity does'nt last, and financial stability and possessions are irrelevant as everyhting can change. Plus, we all have bad pasts, some worse than others granted, but either way we learn to deal with it because we have to.
I dont have the answer but I do have a question:
Who makes your heart race?
Who do you think about from the minute you wake to minute you sleep?
Who shares your dreams, your ideals, etc? because in the long term it counts for a lot
Ok thats three questions, good luck!
2007-07-01 05:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by matt d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By how you described them you're leaning towards guy 1. There's something that is making you uneasy about guy 2 which at some point could materialize. Then again, maybe you're just looking too deep into the situation on guy 2. If you're unsure now feel it out until you do know which one you want. You need to pick who's best for YOU!
2007-07-01 04:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you seem to know what you want and your mind is made up. But i must tell you that going for a guy who your unsure about might just send you down the road of heart break and what if... guy number one is the ideal guy and you seem to want to see guy number two be guy number 1. Dont compare these men, Go with your heart but i have learned never to wait on a man. He might meet someone else along the way and just go for them instead of you. More so he lives far from you. Does he have love for you and is willing to be there for you. ask your self these questions. who will be stable and love you for you more than life itself. Be honest and true but if you have doubts with 2 then go with 1. We tend to want to go for the difficult , its the thrill of the chase in us but after the thrill we tend to regret so take your time and chose wisely.
2007-07-09 04:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by kab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better. Go for the one your heart is set on because even though guy1 is all out, he might not have have all what you need and want in life. And even though guy2 great, the age difference might not be a big issue, but came he be able the support you the way a girl should be treated?
i personally would go for guy 1. Not because he has money but because he sounds like husband material. :)
2007-07-09 02:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy 1
He,s got good qualities,respects you,mature,and he,s about the right age gap for you.
Girls are about 4 years in advance of men so if your 23 and he,s 27 that's about right.
Guy 2 is behind you in age,therefore you are +6 in front of him in maturity and judging by what you said about him it seems that he needs a few more years to grow up a bit.
Go for guy 1.
2007-07-07 12:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by david c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A racing heart does not mean "love" it means he makes you heart race.
Love is deeper than a racing heart.
I suspect you will go with guy# 2 cause I hear it in your description.
But guy#1 is a real winner.
why would you wait for someone to "grow-up" before choosing him? If he has to grow up, then let him grow up and let your life go on with guy#1. He very obviously is already grown up.
2007-07-09 04:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by sasha1641 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to know without knowing the people, really. Go with who you are in love with. Or don't have either, if you aren't sure. Being on your own could be a better option. Think about what you want to do with your life, what you feel deep down, and the answer will come.
2007-07-01 04:25:49 · answer #11 · answered by pickles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋