ok, this is embarrasing and tricky for me and I know a lot of people are going to flame me. I love casual sex. let me explain: I date some guy and after a few dates we have sex. when the relationship goes steady, my sex drive dies down, I want to break it off and I suffer from guilt and dreams of having sex with someone else. when I break the relationship, my sex drive is up again (even if it is with the same man, since I am relieved that we are not a 'couple' and this is just for fun). to be honest, I'd like to experience a situation where I could date more than one man. my most satisfying sexual experiences, where when I knew there were no strings attached whatsoever and I was able to totally relax. I don't want to cheat or hurt anybody, so I am suffering inside and trying to find a good mate hoping this trend would go away. problem is... when sex doesn't work anymore, nothing else does, no matter how great the guy or how much I try to suppress my inclination. so I get depressed.
2007-07-01 04:01:00 · 14 answers · asked by sarah kay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simple really.. ur just not ready to settle down yet! Dont stress over it!
When u find someone u REALLy wanna be with full time & make a committment.... ur sex drive will be fine.. or at least u wont care if it takes a dip!
I say: so long as u are not putting urself at risk & are being discreet (dont want to get a name for urself) go for it.. enjoy.. we are only young once!
I married my first sexual partner.. & that was a mistake. But, I made up for it until I met my new partner!
Good luck
2007-07-01 04:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Carol x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens because you are starting a relatoinship based on sex drive not on having feelings for one another, maybe not even attraction. This is because it is human nature to "WANT WHAT YOU CAN"T GET" idk know how to solve this and most people don't. But you seem to still be young so play the field if you want don't try and start a project have fun. Settle don with a meaningful relationship later or you might even find one along the way
2007-07-01 04:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by steve 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problem is that you need to be more comfortable with your own sexuality. Were the one -night stands the best because you were a little wilder knowing it was one? I think your relationship issue with a low sex drive is because you began to worry what they would think of you on a personal level. If they liked you the first time . . . there was a reason why. Once you get your freak on - keep it on! ;) Feel free to e-mail me if you need more.
2007-07-01 04:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by lanay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your sex drive and your emotions are disconnected. What else is going on here? What were your early experiences with men, father figures, etc.? It sounds like you're avoiding intimacy. In other words, you're only happy when a relationship doesn't pose an emotional threat.
2007-07-01 04:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want something you can't have, and that is a common human condition. Most guys suffer from it, we desperately want to find girls to have sex with, and then as soon as she really wants it, we decide someone else is more of a challenge. It follows human emotions, but it can leave our romantic relationships a total mess.
2007-07-01 04:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i chanced in this question slightly difficult - in my journey, some adult adult males sense it relatively is their perfect to "take" what they want from women and that i've got been talked approximately as undesirable issues for no longer giving intercourse to a guy and his acquaintances. i comprehend it relatively is an severe occasion, it relatively is thankfully some distance in the back of me now, yet my element is that there may well be substantial rigidity on women to look and act a definite thank you to attain status. I now fee myself lots greater and comprehend that what I actual have and who i'm is particular and worth of being taken care of properly - I no longer sense like a prize or possession with my self-properly worth tied into somebody elses view of me being ideal.
2016-10-03 08:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will seriously get into trouble one day if you continue this though. yes it may seem satisfacting to have so many sex partners as you have attention from so many men and feel good consistently. but dont you feel guilty? after all, you are going to settle down one day and start a family. i am sure your husband would not want to know about this.
get serious about life and stop the partying.
2007-07-01 04:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by apple-licious 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its tru..the problem is when ur for fun, u dont get tht close emotionally and the only thing u2 wil b asking for wil b sex & only sex..when the driv ends, theres nothing left..when u need more than sex..u just cant..thts the fact..
2007-07-01 04:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by HereToAnswer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make it clear to the next guy that its only sex - no strings attatched. I don't think you'll have any problems finding takers.
2007-07-01 04:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's really simple.Don't date anybody steadily and have being a ho e!
2007-07-01 04:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋