Ok. This is crazy but, here it goes. My sister accused my step-dad of molesting her. Then she went to live with our Daddy. A couple of months later, she and my Dad were fighting over his rules and she accused him of the same thing. This makes guy #3 she has accused.
I can't stand this, My sister is full of crap. She refuses to take a lie detector. She is begging to see a counselor or somebody who will give her medication because "she can't deal with this". And, my mom is doing everything in her power to "help" my sister. I'm so disgusted I can barely talk to my mother and my fiance refuses to have anything to do with them or let our kids go to her house.
I'm at a loss as what to do. I'm getting married in April 2008 and this is ripping my family apart. What should I do? I completely believe in both my dad and my step-dad's innocence.
And, to top it all off, my mom won't give me my wedding dress, which is stored at her house, unless I refused to invite my dad to the wedding
2007-07-01 03:49:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is a saying - You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family.
I'd go to get your wedding dress, inform your mother that it is Your wedding not hers. And you can invite whomever you want. If she wants to still hold out, there is a possibility you may need to be escorted over by the authorities to retrieve your dress.
For your sister...I think she needs time in a professional setting where she can be monitored and able to talk to someone on a regular basis. Whatever is going on inside of her needs to be addressed, very quickly.
I don't want to offend but it also sounds like your mother may need to talk to someone professionally too. She has been an enabler for your sister and her accusations...the cycle must stop.
I wish you well....maybe some time apart from the madness will help. Remember your main focus will be to your family (your finance and children) .
2007-07-01 04:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sandz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself from this sister or your fiance could be her next victim. Dont listen to what your mother says, you invite who you want. As far as your dress goes it is simple, you call the police and tell them your wedding dress is at her house and she refuses to give it to you and you would like an officer to accompany you to retrieve it.
Your sister is headed for jail at this rate because falsly accusing someone of a crime IS a crime. She sounds like she needs serious help from a psychiatrist. But do not expose any children you have to her. Sometimes family HAS to be ripped apart so the innocent people can survive.
2007-07-01 10:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your mom and explain that that is your wedding day and your dream is to have your whole family there. And that you don't want in the middle of this mess. And tell her that you have enough to think about with the wedding alone. Hopefully she will understand that. Are you close with your dad? Do you want him to give you away? You just have to communicate with your mom more...although I am sure you have. And just be bold and say that is going to be my day. This is my last year as your little girl mom. All I can say is keeping talking to her. And tell her you love her and just say please don't let this ruin my happy time right now. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-07-01 10:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by ssn_mielke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister calmly ask her to explain to you everything that "happened".
Tell her nicely that if she is so convinced that they sexually assaulted her that she needs to go do a test. Pray about it.
NEVER go on the MAURY show though. It makes it worse.
This is bad but...
Promise your mother that you wont invite your daddy. Then get your fiance to invite him. Tell your mother that your fiance made a mistake and that he thought that by inviteing your dad it would make you happy.
I'm really sorry about your family and I will pray as well.
2007-07-01 11:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Hellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r between a rock and a hard place, i suggest u go get ur dress, just go to her house and take it, it is ur dress. I understand that u believe ur dad and u r inviting him to the wedding, no question there. But u need ur dress.
2007-07-01 10:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its hard to say if she doesnt take the lie test, she needs to understand that she could be ruiening alot of lives if she is lying...
try sitting her down to have a chat and as for your mother play her at her own game tell her that SHE will not be invited unless she gives it back...
2007-07-01 10:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let your family know that you are getting married and that they are all invited to your Peaceful union and that you want them to put aside their difference until after they leave your wedding. Tell your Mom that she should'nt make you suffer for something that you had nothing to do with.
2007-07-01 10:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your sister needs professional help. allegations of molestion are very serious. please encourage your sister to get help....a therapist can help diffuse some of the tension within the family, particularly if family therapy is part of treatment.
my suggestion to you is to set firm boundaries with your family...let them know that you want to be supportive but that asking you to take sides is unfair and an unhealthy family dynamic. good luck!
2007-07-01 10:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by MaryE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We love our family, but there comes a time when your mom need to take a stand on this.
2007-07-01 11:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you won't invite your dad, get the dress, then tell her that you have changed your mind and that your dad is invited.
2007-07-01 10:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋