Ok i have a cousin whos parents have been married 15 years now ! Shes 16 ! Ok heres the catch her mom is very social and shes not neither is her dad ! Her mom hardly stays at home and when she does shes all sad,grumpy and depressed ! Nobody says anything to her cus shes sensative any tips on how she and her dad can make her mom stay at home very cleverly monuver it without making her realize or something like that ?!?!?!?!
2007-07-01 03:46:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They love her and want to spend time with her but shes busy with her friends or her brothers family u noe cant stay at home !
How to make her stay at home !
Jokes aside this is serious !
2007-07-01 03:48:01 · update #1
Answers are not doing for her she wants results cus she fed up !
2007-07-01 04:28:03 · update #2
They love her, but they want to make her stay at home, where she is unhappy? That sounds very loving, indeed, maneuvering her into a situation where she's unhappy. If that's the situation, then there's a serious, serious problem.
Not being social doesn't mean your cousin and uncle have to be housebound. Because, to put it bluntly, that is far unhealthier than having a social life. If they want family time, why don't they all go out to dinner together, just the three of them? Your uncle and cousin don't have to be social with anyone but your aunt. Or maybe just arrange a family dinner at home that your uncle and cousin can cook for your aunt.
Just to keep in mind, there's a big difference between not liking to socialize with strangers and preferring to hide away in your house and trying to trick your wife/mother into spending time with you.
No tricks should ever be necessary. They should just say, 'hey, why don't we all have dinner on wednesday night?' or 'hey, let's rent a movie and make popcorn on saturday.'
2007-07-01 03:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is so tough because you can't cage a butterfly. There are things though they can do as a family outside of the home that doesn't take interacting with other people. Pack a picnic and go to the park for a day. Take some kites or puzzles. But, keeping someone home is depressing when there is a world going on outside. They need to find a comfortable meeting ground and choose to work together on this. But, no they shouldn't expect her to stay just because they don't want to go out. What if she was forcing her daughter to go to these social events? The street should go both ways.
2007-07-01 10:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's bored. If all they want to do is be home?! I think that compromise would be the best solution. Try to go to some social events she does and then in exchange she could spend some evenings or days home doing things with just the 3 of them?! This situation is touchy. Probably should see a fam counselor and everyone needs to have a voice in so it can get worked out. Your cousin should not worry too much. But should definitely talk to both parents...prolly together..sit them down and ask questions. Good Luck.
2007-07-01 11:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by ssn_mielke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mom is more than likely not going to change, so bring the party to her house. She gets to be social and the daughter and father can participate as well. If it gets to overwhelming for the father and daughter, they can retreat to their rooms. It is kinda sad that the mom doesn't want to spend time with her family. Maybe the daughter should talk to mom and tell her how she is feeling.
2007-07-01 10:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by ontrack522 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should set up boundries she should be at home raising the kids and be a big happy family. First try talking to her about her priorties. If that doesnt work get other family members to talk to her or even one of closest friends. And if that fails go see a counsellor.
2007-07-01 12:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by home town hero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try playing games like cards or board games with her. That might help if she is entertained while being at home.
2007-07-01 10:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by angel in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is obviously something bigger going on here, and unfortunately there is really nothing you can do about it. It is up to her husband and her to solve this issue. Tell her to voice her concerns to her father.
2007-07-01 10:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is going through menapause just tell them to start planning stuff like movie nite or game nite etc.
2007-07-01 10:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by marfanman00000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They have to adjust and this is for a councellor not you. Let them do the job coz its easier for them to speak to a therapist
2007-07-01 10:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Family ALWAYS comes first!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-01 11:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋