I broke up with my boyfriend, due to distance, the fact that he's told me numerous times he never wants to get married or have kids, his partying/alcohol-abusive lifestyle, and that he still parties with girls he had adulterous flings with while dating his last girlfriend. I don't trust him, I wasn't happy in a going nowhere relationship, and I am happy and relieved to be single.
My mom is a different story. My ex is a charmer, and after a week spent visiting my whole family loved him. She's not willing to accept my breakup. In the past two days, she has endlessly nagged me to call him and apologize, going on about how much she liked him, talking about how he'd 'never do anything like that' when I tell her why I don't trust him, how he has a drinking problem. The last time she started in on I like him I lost my temper and said I don't. I feel that she of all people should be on my side of a breakup, no matter what. It's kind of hurtful to have her take up his side. What do I do?
2007-07-01 03:45:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
make her sit and tell her you will find someone better. Then dont get forced into calling this loser. You are a smart intelligent woman and have no reason to settle with such losers. Just keep talking to her about his lack of values. I always talk down about people who my family thinks they are nice just coz they dont know their real selves...
2007-07-01 03:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow role reversal. What is wrong with her. Every reason you gave in the break up is valid. You just need more confidence to stand up to her OR stop talking about it with her. She is on the very wrong track and it concerns me about your future. First, from here on I wouldnt discuss with her. Obviously she will meet your future dates, but limit any excess conversation about them . Then, if there is another break up just say ' I am not seeing him any longer' period. I fear she is WAY too involved in your life at this stage. Gee you are very intelligent. Good for you for calling it off.
2007-07-01 04:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre mother doesnt sound very bright. I assume you live at home and so you cant avoid her. Ask her why she would want you to be with someone who has no intentions of every marrying. Then point out that being someones perpetual mistress is not what you wanted in life and that you want children while he didnt. If she cant understand that then you need to realize your mother is retarded.
2007-07-01 03:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that,.... wiser now, the less you tell your parents about the relationships you are in the better, no details you do not have to spill your guts to mom and if she crosses the line with the questions tell her it's none of her business and you do not want to talk about this, no is no.
2007-07-01 04:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be hurt. your mom has NO RIGHT to interfere in your relationships . you do not have to explain to your mother what happened in your relationship or why you ended it. this is entirely up to you, If your mom keeps at it ust tell her politely that it's your life and your decision and if you ever need her advice on guys you will ask. i would also let her know (one time only) that she reallly hurt you because she did not trust your judgement or your decision to dump this loser. you should be proud of yourself for having courage and high self-esteem and ending this relationship way to go!!!!!
2007-07-01 05:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by sali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋