Hi Friends, I am from India, 31 years female and still single. When I was 16 I was fooled by a guy who later went on to marry his ex. After I got over him, another guy came into my life when I was 25 and he too cheated me, used me to forget his ex. Later he dumped me saying that I could not help him forget his ex. He married a girl of his parent's choice. There was another guy who was 5 years younger to me who tried persuading me to marry him. I did not accept it because I was 5 years older to him. Finally when I agreed, he refused saying that the 5 years of age difference will be a problem. I believe in marriage and love, but they dont seem to come to me. I dont believe in physical relationship before marriage with anyone still as I consider marriage to be important. I am educated, though I do not look very beautiful, I am good looking, I have the qualities that the guys say they want, but then I do not understand that why does anyone not love me enough to marry me.
2007-07-01 03:29:54 · 15 answers · asked by A P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just hang in there someone is looking for you too!!
2007-07-01 03:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by kim t 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Before I got married, I went through a similar thing. I had been with a boyfriend of 2years and we were considering marriage, but thankfully for me we split. After that I went through a stage were I felt really lonely and could not seem to attract anyone. I came to the conclusion that, if you are not happy with yourself, you don't portray yourself as attractive (if that makes sense!). When you see a person that is happy and full of confidence you are naturally attracted to that person because you like what you see and how that person makes you feel.
2007-07-01 03:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Elia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-23 03:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, it's lovely to hear you want to wait for anything physical until after your married, because that way causes less hurt for everyone. i'm sorry about what these guys have done to you but don't let it get you down, as you said you have good qualities - don't worry about your looks they shouldn't be so important. maybe you could ask your friends if they know of anyone who is in the same position as you, or ask your parents that way your chances will increase. i don't know whether you are only looking to marry an indian guy or if your willing to marry from any country but there are plenty of dating sites on the net, some are specifically made for indian people. there is one for people of all culture and backgrounds called girls date for free, as you can tell from the name of it girls get full membership for free. just an idea
whatever you choose to do, there is someone out there for you, you are still very young, keep smiling.
2007-07-01 03:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that, hun. You have had some bad luck. Have you thought about dating agencies? Do you look outside of your own race? Just that you do come from a culture that still appears to make human relationships overly complicated. I'm sure that if you didn't have all the hangups of your traditions, you would easily find what you are looking for.
2007-07-01 03:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First at thirty-one you should be having sex and lots of. From that you learn how to attract guys. At age 22 and below, virginity is an asset. After age 25, virginity is a liability.
Second, if you are not getting marriage proposals you are probably only dating guys that are out of your league. You are setting your sights too high. They are willing to have sex, but they are not willing to marry you because they know or believe they can get someone more desirable.
Date and be willing to marry guys that think they are lucky to have you and you will get married. Keep trying for the unobtainable and you will never get married or finally you will have to settle for guys that earlier you would have thrown rocks at.
2007-07-01 03:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe you are making yourself look to keen and possible desperate, if they can tell you are looking for marriage they will take advantage of that. the best thing you can do is be away from all men for a while, find yourself and who you are and develop as a person. enjoy your life and have fun, marriage isnt everything. eventually one day you will find someone you will fall in love with and marry, it will be worth the wait trust me. dont go with anyone for the sake of it, as you will only regret it.
2007-07-01 03:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep dating, keep trying. youve talked about 5 guys here that youve dated ...it sometimes takes alot more to find the one that is right for you. Im 34 male, still single, i try to date as often as i can. there are many people out there Even your age that are still single ..so dont get depressed about it. Move on and find the one your waiting for. goodluck
2007-07-01 03:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Will you marry me? Seriously, people are getting married in their late 20's and early 30's now a days so I wouldn't worry too much.
2007-07-01 03:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know you, but is it because you make yourself a little too available to them. Guys have openly admitted that they will only treasure girls who needed a little challenge. I'm not asking you to play games with them, who has time and energy for that... just slow things right now, keep yourself busy and let them wait a little...
2007-07-01 04:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kerrie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
may be u didnt get the right partner yet.. i guess u just need to buy time and leave it to fate sometimes it helps and be positive..just concentrate on ur work and make urself important to the world and then see ppl would follow u.. i am indian too..and i guess my experience says that u just need to work on ur life to be enthusiastic and rest leave it to ganesha he will surely help u
2007-07-01 03:40:00 · answer #11 · answered by raxius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋