my bf of 2 years works nights and i work days so i dont see that much of him.he has made friends with a woman from the czech republic with whom he works with. my bf tells me he loves me and nothing is going on between them... i have text her too and she says that she only thinks of him as a brother... she comes round our house 2-3 times per week when im not there and apparently watch films?... yesterday they had a bottle of wine between them and watched a film... this i was told about.... obviously i wasnt happy about it, i had a feeling something else had happened so after my bf went to work i looked on his computer at emails etc... they email nearly every day... then i found a video of them sat on the sofa, my bf with his arm around her, legs entwined, rubbing her thighs and arms and obviosly looking straight down her top... both still deny anything is going on.... he tells me he loves me... i just dont know what to think any more???
2007-07-01 03:05:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i should add this girl has got her own boyfriend of 5 years too... i have asked them both they say nothing more than friends.... also no need for horrible answers please.
2007-07-01 03:13:26 · update #1
Rubbing her legs.........well, what do you think?
2007-07-01 03:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand he's been honest about their relationship cause he could have said nothing if u were out anyway. If it wasnt for the video and him been cuddly with her then i would have said dont worry, guys and girls can be friends and thats all. But the vid makes me wonder if there is more to it, maybe they both say nothings going on cause they have bf/gf. I know its a bit sneaky but u could come home early from work one night, saying ur unwell, a night u know she is there and just see what they're doing when u come in. U dont want to lose him by obsessing with it if nothing is going on. Are the emails dodgy or just like friends?
2007-07-01 10:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not friends kiddo. Even if there wasn't a video clearly this is an odd situation. If my wife were to start having a guy friend come over all the time I would be very suspicious as well. I'd let her know how uncomfortable I was with it and tell her it needs to stop.
Reading through your post again I see you saying you don't know what to think. You want so desperately for what they are telling you to be true that you are letting that desperation cloud your common sense.
I'm not going to tell you to cut and run. I'm not there and I don't know everything going on, but I am going to tell you you do need to deal with this situation for your own peace of mind. You can't continue with the stress and anxiety this is bringing to you. You are letting this become a torture for you.
2007-07-01 10:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by todd s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way that I could tell you or anyone else for that matter that your boyfriend is cheating on you. But, if you are having these kinds of doubts and are obviously feeling extremely uncomfortable with them spending this much time together, you should and probably have told him this. However, if your boyfriend isn't listening and hearing what you are feeling, he obviously don't respect you like he should. Try again and make it clear (completely clear!!) That you are not happy with this. You also need to be aware that once doubt has entered into the relationship, it's very hard to regain the trust.
2007-07-01 10:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Elia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does sound suspicious! When I went through this situation, I would set traps. Use your imagination. I have found in life (my own anyway), that it's nearly impossible for a male and female to be "friends," without at least one encounter of sexual activity. I'm not sure of your age but when you get to be mine you become very wise about such things. It sounds like you have a player on your hands.
Go with your gut and good luck!
2007-07-01 10:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheater. No doubt about it. Leave him or try to catch him in the act. Take off work one day and don't tell him. Whatever you do don't believe them if you saw a video like that.
2007-07-01 10:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by donna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that there is something between then to because she should not be at your house when you are not there and having her legs anywhere near your man... i dont know if he had done anything yet but i think that something is going to happen and you need to tell him that he needs to see her less because it is starting to bug you... if the table was turned i know that he would be feeling the same way you feel...something is going on and you need to find out...
2007-07-01 10:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All signs point to yes. If he hasn't already, it seems as if it is only a matter of time until something does happen. Seriously, I think you deserve someone who will respect you and treat you well.
2007-07-01 10:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lexicat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems likely that at the very least theres a strong attraction between them and that something might happen if it isnt already. I advise you to tell him that you are not happy with her coming to your house when you are not in.
2007-07-01 10:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by purpleandroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds you like you dont trust him anyway, else you wouldnt have been looking through his emails etc. so you have pretty much decided he is already. life is too short, if you arent prepared to wait about or let him be like this with another woman (which i definately wouldnt!) then id say its time to move on, whether he is cheating or not.
2007-07-01 10:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be living with him when the two of you are not married in the first place. He is not your husband, therefore he is not committed to you. You already know the truth about this other woman. Why are you still with him? Move out or kick him to the curb and don't live with any one who is not your husband.
2007-07-01 10:11:00 · answer #11 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋