He is perfect in my eyes but to the world he is far from it. I love him so much. My best friend use to be really close with him then he moved away. Julie[my best friend] introduced me to him. I always talk to him everyday for HOURS AND HOURS. But I have never met him. I tell him EVERYTHING. Things no one else knows. and he tells me things back. He says he loves me back and I can tell he does.VERY much. He would die for me but that brings up more problems. Hes very suicidal and depressed and Im truely the best thing in his life. I have stopped him from killing himself many times. A lot of this is because of all the stress he has. His dad is really abusive and that makes me sad. He is HIGHLY addictive to drugs and he is really tied up in them. He is also a HUGE dealer which I hate. He has tried to stop many times for me but each time he fails. Idk what I would do if I lost him. He means so much to me. He makes me feel a way no one else has even gotten close to. I love him.idk what to do!
2007-07-01 02:41:58 · 8 answers · asked by emma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is in such a dangerous situation too. see...this is all happening in Atlanta so you know theres guns being pulled on him all the time. He gets threats and stuff almost everyday. and this all scares me to death. He knows that he isn't good for me too. He tells me everyday that I need to find a really good guy that will always be there for me and take care of me. He says that he KNOWS that he is going to go to jail sooner or later..and he has accepted that. Which I just don't get how he can just say oh well to this. I know deep inside that it hurts him. and it hurts me alot too. I just wish that he could get better. what am I suppose to do? should I just tell him he can't be with me untill he gets his life together? If I do that Im afraid he will kill himself...Im the only thing keeping him alive. the only thing that he can trust and love in his life. and Im just scared to death about that.
2007-07-01 02:42:13 · update #1
I have tried many times to let him go...I just can't he always seems to come to my mind. we have dated for about 8 months now...and I have tried to let him go a number of times...telling him to get his life together. but it never helps.
2007-07-01 12:13:13 · update #2
Are you ready to embrace a life that would make you and the people you love live dangerously?
Think of the consequences.
Heed his advise to find a really good guy that will always be there for you and take care of you.
He has accepted his fate. Now, make a choice which kind of life to live. Either you follow your rational mind or your foolish heart.
2007-07-08 23:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by shirley g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being emotionally abused if he is honestly telling you that you are the only think keeping him alive...that isn't fair at all on you to be told such an awful thing.
I know and I totally understand that you love him but there is a saying.... If you love something then let it go, if it was yours to have then it will come back.
The way things stand at the moment you can't continue a relationship with this guy, you will eventually meet and your own life could be put into jeopardy because of the life he leads himself. I am sure you have seen enough films to see how these things happen.
You need to take a step back and let him flourish into a person who isn't addicted to drugs and seriously depressed. He needs his own time to grow and emerge as the person he truly is and I personally think you need to step back while this happens. If afterwards you still want to be with this new person (which I am sure you will) then let it be. Do not let him emotionally blackmail you anymore though with the suicide stuff. You don't actually need or deserve to be the person who has to deal with this!
Good luck my heart goes out to you
In love and light
YW
2007-07-01 02:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Yoga Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that for you, love is important and not the profession he is in. He is into drugs himself and also ensuring that little children start doing the same. Infact, he might be responsible by now for many deaths. This is not the time to get emotional. You hate drugs but you love a drug dealer whom you have never seen? He has just been there playing with your emotions. He gets threatened and he has tried to kill himself so many times..... I tell you if someone really wants to end his life, it wont take more than one try, the only feeling of living makes you a little loose on the top and you slip..... Forget about this man Lady.. I know you like him but the feeling shall die someday only when you try. Dont get involved and give your life what it doesnt deserve!!!!!!
2007-07-08 21:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My take on the whole thing is that he doesn't really want to let you go so he uses the whole killing himself thing as a way to control you and make you feel like you are his only hope. I'm sorry to say it, but he doesn't really care about you. If he did he wouldn't be trying to mess with you like he is. If hes so into you why doesn't he move to where you are? He could totally change his life if he really wanted to. I think he just likes stringing you along. Keeping you there on the side to manipulate whenever he feels the urge. Dump him and find a real man.
2007-07-08 15:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Becca24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is putting WAY too much pressure on you.
Where is your self respect?? He's addicted to drugs, he's a dealer, and you said you hate that. Why would you want to be involved with this person? If it was someone at your school, would you be friends with him? Probably not. What will be next, him asking you for bail money? Come on, wake up!!
You cannot keep this person alive, no matter how hard you try. He has made his choices in life, let him live with them.
2007-07-01 02:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of the state and do not tell him where you are and don't even tell him you are leaving. You are addicted to him and his problems. Get counseling ASAP. This is wrong on so many levels. You need to become an individual and in this case you need to be on your own and away from temptation. This will mean being alone for several years. You need to regain your own identity now. Good luck.
2007-07-08 20:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by Alea S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away from him. He has some very seroius problems. He needs to seek professional help,, addicted to drugs,, suicidal.. He needs help and it is great that you have feelings for him so you need to get him help. But he has admit first that he has problems and he has to make up his mind that in fact he needs help. It is really up to him if he will improve his ways and it is up to you to figure out if you will stick around to see the results but you both have to make some decisions. Don't wait tooooo long to make your decision and act on it. Things can get worse from what you have mentioned up to this point.
2007-07-09 00:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by jorge e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg i have this same problem
2007-07-08 15:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by cutiez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋