Do you know the AIM robots? Well I was talking to one and its not like I'm saying where i live I mean that just retarded to do that. My mom comes and she is like "How do you know its not a stranger or a killer?" she always does this it is like she has been raped or something just ruined her life forever!!!!!!!! This has been going on since i guess I was 8 when my sister was getting her black belt in karate. My family went to the ceremony and my mom was just mean as hell ever since. The other day I finally figured it out. She was harrased(I don't know the spelling sorry). I finally found the answer to my mom. She is just scared and always have a negative thought to everything. I wish she would stop!! She is so scared something is going to happen and she doesn't let me get out of her arms and I'm 12!!!!!!! I mean give me a break I am growing up and I never had a sleepover!! I can't go over my friends house for more then 3 hours and it SUCKS. My mom doesn't like when others drive me to
2007-07-01 02:21:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
places. She needs help! Everyone agrees. What can I say to her??
2007-07-01 02:22:34 · update #1
Your mom must be my moms sister because i feel like you just described my mom.
2007-07-01 02:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Gengis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same kinda space you are in. except my parents would sit me down and yell at me for an hour at a time, still can't tell you what about. I had to get my mom, dad, and grandmom to say it was okay for me to go anywhere. But relax, your only 12, I'm 50 now, (18 in my heart). show responsibility, concern for her thoughts and feelings, do chores without being asked. From my view back, that would have helped. I hated being a teenager it was so hard to do what I wanted.
I think she is over-worried. Does she drink?
As a former teenager I know it sucks the big one. As a mother with a 23 yr old and a 25 yr old. Not knowing where they are, them not needing me, etc sucks too. Try to see it from her point of view, you know walk a mile in another's shoes, and all that? Try counseling, yes for you, to help you deal.
I can see both sides, and I feel for you, but really, you aren't even a teenager. Close, but not yet. Talk to your mom with love and understanding. I know this has been long, but.....
Peace
2007-07-01 02:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Linda B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will not understand your mom fully until you reach about 25, and have a child of your own. You will then understand just how much your mother loves you, and wants to protect you. Believe me, nobody understands this until the have children. I would suggest that you and your mom have a sit down adult discussion about this, not five minutes, but an hour or so. Let her explain in detail what she is worried about. Then you discuss your feelings. Try to find some common ground and negotiate a situation you both can live with. Remember, If she didn't love you,she wouldn't be concerned about what you did or who you saw, or what time you ever get home!
2007-07-01 02:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by sporty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are super strict and there really isn't much you can do to change that. Try talking to her about it. Let her know how it feels to not be able to do anything. I had a strict mom and now raising my daughter I'm not strict at all because I know what it's like. Maybe all your mom knows is strict rules or maybe she got into trouble at your age and she is trying to protect you. Talk to her calmly. When my daughter and I don't agree we write letters (ok emails) to each other, even though we live in the same house. This way we get our point across without the emotion...then we write back,and one of us gives in. Good luck
2007-07-01 02:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there! yeah, it may seem like your mom is out of control, but trust me and everybody else on here...she's just looking out for your well being. i know when i was 12, i wanted to do everything, and i wanted to let my mom know i was responsible enough to handle certian things on my own. but to a parent, a 12 year old is still a kid who isnt capable of handling much. parents get scared when thier "little babies" are ready to become teenagers. just talk to her and tell her how you feel, without getting upset with her. take a certain situation, and ask her if mabye you can sleep over at a friends house one night. if she says NO, dont get bent out of shape, and think she's never going to let you do anything. just keep calm about it, and keep asking! eventually she'll see how mature you are, and wont be so afraid to let you do the things you want to do. she does sound overprotective, which means it will take a lot of patitence with her. and try to look at things from your mom's point of view too. this world isnt what it used to be, and she just wants what's best for you and your sister. hang in there, she wont keep you on lock down forever! take care, and enjoy the time she does let you out with your friends untill she lightens up a little bit!
2007-07-01 02:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only help your mother needs is something to help her survive a kid like you.
12yr olds get kidnapped, raped, tortured and murdered. In this area in just the last two years, a 13yr old was snatched while walking on the street in front of her house. She has never been found. A 12yr old boy was kidnapped right off the street in front of his friends. He was found by accident, kidnapped by a pedophile who had kidnapped another 12yr old years before, and they were both recovered but not before he was raped repeatedly. When my daughters were little there were 3 young girls kidnapped, one was duct taped to a tree in a forest, raped, tortured and left to die. She was 12, and kidnapped walking home from school. I've known two young girls who met men off the internet who were so brutally attacked that they needed surgery and will most like never have children of their own.
Your mom is scared to death that you aren't smart enough to not get yourself killed. She is scared that even if she puts you to bed at night, you will be kidnapped out of your bed and murdered, which happened to two girls last year one was recovered but not before she was made a sex slave for a 45yr old guy and his wife. Several years ago Polly Klaus was at a sleep over and she was attacked and kidnapped by a man who came into the house and took her, raped and murdered her.
Nothing happened to your mom in her past most likely. In my childhood, we never locked doors, and for most of the day, we kids were out playing and just checked in for meals. But those days are over, and all it takes is one mistake on your part or just the bad luck of being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Your mom is scared because she loves you. She cannot imagine the horror of losing you or having you hurt. My guess is that she still checks that you are breathing at night when you are asleep.
Instead of giving your mom a hard time why don't you take a moment to think about the fact that you are so important to your mother that she IS worried about you. In a few short years, you can do what you want and go where you want. You can have children, and you can let them do whatever they want and you don't have to worry about them or care enough to ask how they know the person they are talking to on the internet is not someone who is going to harm them.
My guess is, you will be just like your mom.
2007-07-01 03:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is doing her job... and that is to protect you. It seems you have an attitude towards all of this like it's not big deal but it is. Don't you read the news or watch it? Maybe you should. All the children who are killed, abducted, raped, hurt. These are all real issues your mom is aware of but you seem so trivial about.
I applaud her for being there and for doing her job to protect you. You should be thankful.... too many kids have parents who don't give a crap what they do.
Hug your mom and thank her for being so wonderful and caring. You are blessed... wake up and see it!
2007-07-01 02:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only doing this because she fears so much that she will lose you to something bad. A killer or molester on the internet...which yes, it does happen. A car wreck in your friends car. But you have to comprimise on the sleepovers and visitations. Tell her ..in a mature way...I understand your concerns about the internet. I thought about it and you are right. I will not talk to strangers anymore. But I would like to talk to my friends, classmates. I know your afraid of me riding in cars with others. But you have to give me some slack on that. If you let me I will call you as soon as I arrive to my destination safely, and call you before we leave to let you know I am on my way home. I know this sounds bad in your eyes, but if you do this, over time she will start to build trust and everntually it will go away, and you wont have to call anymore. But do this to build HER trust! The sleep overs. Your going to have to have the mother of the person you want to spend the night with call her and talk to their mom and let her know you will have an adult there watching over you kids. Then before you come home, call to let her know your on your way. Then talk to her. Tell her what you did and how you really enjoyed it. Introduce her to your friends and ask if they can stay with you. Have HER call thier moms to let her know SHE will be responsible for watch ing their children. This is all for a purpose. It puts her in the positoin of knowing how it feels and makes someone lese trust HER. And you are building trust by having her talk to other parents. As time goes by, you get older and trust has been built.
2007-07-01 02:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is protective, like a mom should be, but that sounds ridiculous! No sleepovers? 12 years old!? You GOTTA tell her that this isn't right! It's not fair to you either! Just tell her how you feel. I mean, she was this age once. Hopefully, she'll understand what you mean. Good luck and I hope this works for you!
2007-07-01 02:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your frustration is coming through loud and clear.
Try to get some counselling together in regards to her issues. With support and guidance she may learn to let go, even if it is not her first personal choice.
If she won't go together with you, go on your own, so you can learn the basics of coping and get support for the trama she is laying on you. And let her know what you are doing in the nicest and most respectful way possible. Gradually your dedication to your relationship with your Mom will shine through and she may be moved to take responsibility for her issues. If not, you will come out wiser and stronger for your efforts.
I had a similar experience with my daughter - sort of reversed from this situation. My advice for you comes from that experience in my life.
You are a great daughter to be able to see and understand as much as you already do. Good Luck and Lots of Love to You.
2007-07-01 02:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well dont forget your only twelve, It sounds like your mom really loves you guys, shes watching for your safety. You should just wait till shes in a good mood, then just tell her how you feel.or one weekend just ask her nisely if your friend can sleep over, Shes just doing what she thinks best, their are a lot of weird people out their, Well good luck. mailbox_5
2007-07-01 02:30:15 · answer #11 · answered by mailbox_5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋