Why are exes so cruel to their ex especially if the dumper was really in love with the dumpee?

Answer 1

If the person is truly in love with the other one, he/she wouldn't have dumped them in the first place to be honest with you. However, it's something that just happens. When a relationship ends, many people have hurt feelings. They are hurt that the relationship is over and they are angry at things didn't work out the way that they wanted it to. Many people that desire for forever and don't get that are very angry and bitter. They end up working out their feelings of aggression and bitterness through cruelty sometimes. It's not a healthy thing, but it's what happens sometimes. Some people are more apt to be angry than they are to be hurt. They will admit to being angry, but they would consider themselves weak if they admitted they were hurt.

Answer 2

i think ESPECIALLY if the dumper was inlove with the dumpee... bc the dumper loved so much, so therefore now he cares so much and the meanness is a way of either "getting back" at the dumpee for taking the love but not returning it. or to try make the dumpee to care and to show it, in which case the dumper will take the dumpee back......

Answer 3

The answer is easier and simpler than you might think:
The person who "dumped" you wants to push you farther away, "especially" if they still have some feelings for you, because they don't want you around to remind them or make them doubt their decision. The easiest course of action is to be mean so you'll try to avoid them as much as they're trying to avoid you. It makes for a cleaner break for those who aren't mature enough to still be friends with an ex-lover or ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. The best thing you can do is to stay away from them and do NOT try to get back with them, or just be their "friend", because it will be an awkward friendship with someone who has already shown a lack of maturity and even if you got back together wtih them, it would never be the same. Also, avoiding them will actually help you meet other people with whom you can start a new relationship.

Answer 4

Noone, and I mean NOONE knows what goes on within a marriage or relationship. Each tells his/her own version of the issue, and people tend to side with one or the other regardless. Depending upon the nature of the breakup, there can be extreme anger, extreme sadness, or extreme disbelief. Everyone thinks the grass is greener elsewhere (which rarely turns out to be true), but just the same...when it happens, noone can predict the outcome. So dont ask why or how an ex can feel any way until you are walking in the same shoes!

Answer 5

It sucks when the dumper dumps the dumpee since being dumped feels pretty dumpy when you are dumped by the dumper and are considered the dumpee......

Answer 6

they're hurting still and don't know how else to be...if they were truely in love....something must have happend for the dumper to dump the dumpee...but the dumper still hasn't gotten over the dumpee*

Answer 7

At the end of my relationship, my ex became really indifferent towards me. I couldn't believe that he was the same person I had fallen in love with a year ago. His actions towards me really hurt; Ouch! He was a coward and didn't have the guts to break up with me, so I had to be the "dumper" after a lot of thought and exhaustion of how he basically started to neglect me. Although I was civil to him in the end, he was very mean to me.

Answer 8

Sometimes they do it cause its what others expect. They think they should be mean, so they are. Others don't know how to handle it like a grown up so they regress and act like a two year old. Still others really didn't want to break up in the first place and are hurt by something that happened during the relationship.

Answer 9

Its only their way of thinking,nothing to do with cruelty.

Answer 10

their hurt