please please please please help me?

Question

okay so look When I was about 3yrs old My dad died my mom obviously used to sleep with my dad but after he died I started sleeping with my momrather than my sister since we lived in a small house 3 other people I never had an option to wether I wanted a room or not I am now 14 and I just got my own room we bought a way bigger house 2 yrs ago but now I cant sleep without my mom ! I just lay in bed for an hour or so until I finally go sleep with my mom again as soon as I do I fall right asleep what can I do to break the habit please help me

Answer 1

do what Kid Jt says.when i had nightmares (ages ago) i used to really want my mum but she'd be at work. so i snuck into her room and took her perfume bottle (the one she wore every day), then i'd spray my pillow or teddy. i soon went back to sleep. x x x loads of luck

Answer 2

What you need to do is slow down. Take a deep breath because the way you were talking was as if your were anxious and sleep deprieved. Not saying that you are I'm just saying that what you should do is relax and forget that your mom was sleeping with you. When you sleep your supposed to think of happy things (or nothing) while laying in bed. When school is around I sometimes cannot fall asleep on Sundays because there is so much on my mind; so what I do now is just think of nothing. Soon I broke the habit. I would try this for about a week until you feel confident about going to sleep alone. If this isn't helpful you may want to ask your sister for company before you go to sleep.

Answer 3

The only way to stop a habit is to just do it. They say it takes 3 weeks to break a habit for good. Your mom created this situation, she had no business letting you sleep with her when you were young and if space was a premium she should have made you your own bed at least. So ask her to help you now. Tell her that you are too old to be sleeping with her, and you want to sleep in your own bed. Ask her to not let you get into bed with her, and to send you back to your room. Also you might want to ask her to lay down with you until you fall asleep. That might get you over the hump and then you will be fine.

Answer 4

Would it help by starting to sleep on a matress on the floor in your mom's room, then get used to that then try sleeping in your room? Have heard that suggested for other questions asked like that (might be worth looking them up). What about going to sleep listening to music or a tv - could put it on snooze mode to turn off after you have drifted off? Maybe a cat for a pet, that could sleep in with you? Or maybe you could try sleeping with your sister if she is still there too, then when you are used to that, try going back to your own room. Good luck.

Answer 5

You can do this. You may have to suffer through an adjustment period. Married people go through this when their partner has to go away, too. When you are used to sleeping with someone, it is an obvious adjustment to sleep alone.

Your mom should make this easy for you by supporting you in this and not letting you in her bed.

If you feel you need to speak with a professional about this, ask your mom to get you counseling.

Good luck! It will get easier soon!

Answer 6

Don't sleep in the same bed, no matter what.
Once you get tired enough, you will sleep.
It will take getting used to, but running back to you mom's bed won't help you break the habit.
Break yourself of the habit now before you get any older.

Answer 7

Try taking something to bed with you that has her scent on it, like the pillowcase she used the night before or a piece of clothing. Lay it close to your head and imagine shes there with you.

Answer 8

let me ask you something..Why is it so important to you to stop sleeping with your mom? I mean you lost your dad so I can understand you being close to mom. My boys both slept with me till they were about your age.I would chill out girl and stop worrying about this so much..its o.k. Why don't you try this..during the day go lay down in your room and just lay their and relax..don't try and go to sleep just relax.You will grow out of this..i promise..my boys did. But stop worrying about this so much..its not a big deal.YOU will grow outta this

Answer 9

you could ask your mom to come in and lie down with you until you fall asleep. THen she can leave and slowly you'll get used to sleeping in your new room and by yourself.

Answer 10

This might sound extreme, but I'm just giving a suggestion. Try to masturbate. Satisfy yourself sexually in your own room, so you will be attached to it (the room, i mean).