my bf wants to try it but i'm scared it will hurt or feel weird. he says the guy should only put the head and a little bit of the penis in thats why my friends told me it hurts and you lose control. please help i want to know if i should try it . hes into it but i know he will pull out if i don't want to do it. what are the problems with it? how does it feel? what do i need to know about it? also is it ok to use flavored condoms for sex?
2007-06-30 08:38:46 · 21 answers · asked by ? 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
It can be very enjoyable if done right with a loving,understanding partner,Use a good quality water based lubricant and be sure your partner is being extra gentle and willing to stop if you experience any pain. It will take a few sessions before you are used to it but it is very pleasurable when done properly. There maybe a little pain at first while the anus is being stretched but it is temporary and you will not lose control of your bowels. There are really not any problems that result that are major just slight bleeding but nothing you can't handle and a bit of pain from the initial anal stretch. Just remember to use a good water based lubricant I recommend K-Y warming gel or astroglide. and of course the more relaxed you are the more pleasurable of an experience
2007-06-30 08:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time I did anal sex, it hurt and I had him pull out (he was pretty large and I still bled a little). But with patience, experience, and lots and lots of lube it feels good (favorite is KY and DO NOT use "anal lube" because it contains a desensitizer and you may not know you are hurting). Also, use a condom, preferably one that is lubricated too. Try it one night and have him only penetrate a little bit; if it starts to hurt have him pull out. Try it again the next night and have him go a little bit further in. Eventually, he will be able to put it all in. Make sure you aren't having any bathroom problems and are "clear" because you don't want it to get too messy. I suppose you could use flavored condoms for sex as long as you realize that you can perform oral before but once he touches your butt, no more oral. Also, he cannot transfer from one hole to the next because he can transfer intestinal bacterial (example e.coli) which can cause a urinary tract infection or worse.
2007-07-07 13:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by kitti_kats_83 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A generously lubed finger is just as good if not better than a penis. In fact you can do this yourself. If you like the way it feels, you decide if you want to proceed.
Include anal play with your regular sexual encounters. Get used to the feeling of being entered, contract your muscles around his finger. Have him agree that there will be NO penis penetration, just familiarizing.
If you do decide to take his penis anally don't go in and out. A slow steady insertion is the way to go. You should be well lubed and primed by his finger, his condom sheathed penis should be lubed too. YOU control the depth and speed NOT him and let him know that.
Start out by both of you laying on your sides. This position is very comfortable for a beginner.
In my opinion anal sex is superior to vaginal. The anus is more sensitive and the orgasms are easier.
But what it comes down to is you, if the idea doesn't appeal to you or you are really afraid don't do it.
I think flavored condoms are fine for sex.
2007-07-03 03:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Equinoxical ™ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flavored condoms are okay. Anal sex... Just thinking about it grosses me out. It's getting more popular, more people are doing it. But if everyone starts jumping off a bridge, I wouldn't do that.
2007-07-06 05:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by msshan2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anal sex is something that could be fun. I think that it is personally degrading to a woman. I am not sure that he cares about you enough just yet. If the man loves you he will be willing to wait until YOU are ready. Be a big girl and stand up to him. Anal sex can be fun, but it is not all cracked up to be what people say. It can hurt you and tear your rectal lining. Then you will be in TROUBLE................ Use TONS of lubricant if you do try, but I would wait............
2007-06-30 13:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Promoqueen in CA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are doing this to preserve your virginity, you should not do it until he has given you an engagement ring and announced the engagement.
I think that you should do i for him, with gusto. You need to do it properly. Purchase The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, 2nd Edition (Paperback) by Tristan Taormino (Author).
Basically, you have to work up to the penis. You start out with your pinky. Always covered up.
2007-07-04 06:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy that it's customary and good manners to allow ladies to have a go first. Buy The Bend Over Beginner Strap-on Harness Kit. Let him feel worried and wonder how it feels.
2007-07-05 04:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by Christopher P 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should be scared...it does hurt. Use lots of lube and try to relax. Once your into it you might actually like it and yes, it is ok to use flavored comdoms.
2007-06-30 10:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by lo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All those answers are good. I recommend you have him start with one finger slowly to lubricate once it can be inserted nicely and all is slippery go on to two fingers and more lube then you can try the real thing you will be ready and willing.
2007-06-30 09:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by gassniffer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just make sure you and your bf use lots of lubricant as if he goes in dry it will really hurt. also have him insert it slowly so your anus can stretch and become accustom to it. if he just jams it in that also will really hurt and turn you off. and of course it will hurt a little anyway because it is the first time. as you do it more frequently your anus will get accustom to it and i bet both you and he will enjoy it. have fun!!!
2007-06-30 08:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋