So I just had one of my good girlfriends decline to be one of the host of my babyshower b/c I wanted to have a potluck?!
Is potluck that bad that a suppossed good girlfriend wanted "out" on being a host? Are people that miserable to not want to bring in $5 worth of potluck appetizer just b/c they're bringing a lousy gift?
How selfish can people be? Please don't answer this if you've never had a babyshower or children.
2007-06-29 15:43:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
Wow, are you kidding!!! yeah that's pretty bad, I did have a thought though.....do you think that she is planning a shower for you, a surprise shower, and maybe just backed out of your shower because of this?? I mean, it's a thought right. I understand how upset you must be. Did you happen to ask her why she backed out, maybe you should talk to her and find out what's up.
2007-06-29 15:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by depp_lover 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Am I reading your post right? Are you planning your own baby shower? Usually, a shower is thrown for you by a friend or group of friends. The mother-to-be is typically not involved in the planning of the event. Am I missing something?
What we have here, I believe, is a communication issue. Did you talk to the girlfriend who no longer wants to co-host? Maybe the potluck issue is not the real reason she wants to drop out. It sounds like there's probably more to it. It doesn't make sense to me that you think your guests are "miserable" and "selfish" and that they don't want to bring an appetizer and a "lousy gift" - - all because one friend objected to a potluck. What gives?
I agree with some of the other posters - - I think potlucks are wonderful for most occasions, but for a baby shower, not so much. Guests are being asked to come and shower the mother-to-be with gifts and good wishes, the least the hostess can do is to make some good food. Right? If you want to have a potluck, just ask a few girlfriends who like to cook and bake to bring something, not all of your guests.
That's just my two cents. I hope that you're able to work this out with your girlfriend and that you have a wonderful, memorable, happy baby shower!
2007-07-02 11:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've had baby showers and children! And I think a potluck shower is tacky. MAYBE if it is at work on the lunch hour, but otherwise? No way!
1. YOU should have nothing to do w/ your own baby shower except provide names/addresses for invitations (to be written by someone else!) and show up on time!
2. The whole idea of a shower is to bring gifts for the guest of honor. They do not want to have to lug their own food as well. Plus, if everyone brings something, you will ahve WAAAAY too much food.
3. Selfish has nothing to do w/ it. I think your friend was right to decline being a hostess. What's the point of being a hostess if the food/drink is already provided?!
4. In general, I LOVE potlucks. But not for a shower of any sort when guests are basically asked to show up bringing a gift!
2007-06-29 23:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar Pie 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well sorry, I've never had a baby shower or children. But I've had potlucks. And went to potlucks. And organized potlucks. And brought things to potlucks. There's not a thing in the world wrong with a potluck and it bothers me, too, that your friend wouldn't want to come for that reason.
Are you sure it doesn't go deeper? Is she having financial problems? Personal problems? Maybe something's going on and she was looking for an excuse to skip out anyway? To decline on such a superficial reason makes me think there was something else behind it ...
2007-06-30 00:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by Stina 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's not a thing wrong with potluck unless maybe the hostess is a snob or a control freak and is afraid of what a guest might bring. How can she complain? Look at the work and expense it saves her! She is being selfish, and I hope you can have a shower with the Potluck idea. Best of luck to you and baby!!
2007-06-29 23:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She probably can not cook a thing herself or is mortified to eat other peoples cooking.
Pot luck offends some people as some are offended by buffets. Potluck food can be awful. I never host "pot luck" rather if people ask to bring something I have them bring the "fill in" food - green salad, bottle of organic wine, dessert, etc. and the host/hostess should take care of the food. If you are young though and have a large number of people attending, it's not unusual for everyone to bring something.
2007-06-29 22:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to agree with Sugar Pie. I think it would be in much better taste to just have cake and an inexpensive punch. When you (or the hostess) ask someone to bring you a gift, which is what a shower is, you should not also ask them to bring food. The point isn't whether they would mind or not; it is a matter of doing the proper thing.
Who knows why your friend wanted out. It seems like she would have told you if she thought it was improper. Of course, she may feel like you wouldn't appreciate her efforts since all you are getting is some "lousy" gifts.
And yes, I have kids, grandkids and have given and been to more than my share of baby showers.
2007-06-30 00:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Linday B 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think potluck is a wonderful idea! That way you know that you have enough food, and you know that everyone will have at least one thing they like, the dish they brought, and it gives people a chance to get creative food ideas from one another. I hope have a good party! And if I were you, I'd potluck it anyway!
2007-06-29 22:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by stargazer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think a potluck is a neat idea, but most baby showers I've ever been to, we just had cake, punch, nuts and maybe mints. If you two are good friends, then surely you can discuss the party plans and come to a compromise.
2007-06-29 22:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by sunflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a huge fan of potluck. I'm from the south AND I'm Baptist. We are practically born during potlucks BUT I have to say I feel uncomfortable asking guests to bring a dish for a baby shower. I realize I'm in the minority but it just doesn't feel right.
Of course it's your shower but the etiquette of the situation just doesn't feel right to me.
2007-06-29 23:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hosting a potluck babyshower is Ghetto!!!! I wouldn't host it either...if you asked her to be a host and she declined then she has that right...you can't judge her! did it even occur to you that it is not that she won't spend $5 for a dish...it may be because she would be embarrassed to even have her name associated with a ghetto shower like that...you are asking people to bring food to eat AND to bring you presents for the baby??????????!!!!!!!!!!! what kind of ballsy crap is that? you ask about people being selfish but you fail to LOOK IN THE MIRROR. if you want people to bring gifts for your baby and for you then the least you could do is put out a small spread of appetizers FOR them...you are the selfish one...you want it all given to you and you don't want to say thank you with a little bit of food...
2007-06-30 00:07:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋