I actually feel physically sick...?

Question

I've bought my wedding dress for my wedding next year (it's a Maggie Sottero 'Grace') and now I've just seen three Alvina Valenta dresses that just took my breath away!!! What do I do!? Do I sell my Maggie and choose the AV one or what!??!

'naughtybecksyk'; I don't care about the fashion, it's my wedding dress! It was in the old collection so why would I care exactly??!

Ok, why are there so many men answering my question? I really appreciate your lovely answers and they're very considerate but I'm a WOMAN! I need women answering too cos they understand! I'm freaking out!

Answer 1

If you love this other one you saw GO for it!! sell the Maggie one and get the one you really want ... it is your BIG day and if you think this AV dress is better then get it!!! my mom's BEST friend just got married last september and she went through THREE dresses she bought one online and when she saw it in person she hated it!! and then she found another one that she loved but after the alterations she hated it!! then she found her third one (which was actually the first one she tried on) bought it and loved it!! so she ended up with Three wedding dresses one she kept and two she is selling. GOOD LUCK!! and I say GO for it!!

Answer 2

The thing is, you have a LONG time between now and your wedding. Say you get rid of the Maggie Sottero and get one of the Valentas. Then maybe this October, you see a Vera Wang that you like more than all of them. This could go on forever.

Think about it hard. You will sell the dress you have at a loss, no way you'll get what you paid for it. If you're ok with that, and you're positive you'd be happier with one of these others, then do it. Otherwise, just stick with what you have.

I know what you're going through, btw. I have flip flopped between no less than 10 different dresses over the past few months and the minute I think I've found "The ONE", I find another I like even more. But, at some point, you have to make a decision and quit looking. Otherwise, you'll find yourself changing your mind up until the day of the wedding. There's just too many choices out there!

Answer 3

Ok, not a huge problem. Go try on your dress either at the shop you ordered it or from your closet if you already have it at home and then on the same day go try on the other three dresses that you like.

Promise yourself you are going to make one last decision and that from this moment on you will not look at any more dresses. If the Maggie is not the winner then simply put it up on ebay. If the size you ordered is pretty standard 10-12 then most women can have it altered to fit. You may take a slight hit on what you get for it from what you paid but if the new dress makes you happier then it is worth it. Maggie dresses are very popular so you should not have too much trouble selling it. Once you order the new dress STAY AWAY from wedding magazines, dress websites etc..

Good luck!

Answer 4

Well, I assume the Maggie Sottero has already come in and everything so it can't be returned? If so, I would get someone's honest opinion about what looked best. Here is the thing, you need to see yourself in every dress to know what is best. I saw many beautiful dresses but when I tried them on they just weren't right for whatever reason. You don't want to keep thinking what could have been about the dresses, but you may actually not like those once you try them on. If you do sell the Maggie, you know you will be losing money. If that is not an issue, then it doesn't hurt to at least try and get the opinion of your mother, sister, etc.
At least you know the Maggie Sottero dress looks good on you. I just looked at "Grace" and it is absolutely gorgeous.
It is going to be really hard to beat that one, and it isn't exactly cheap either. I have a sneaking suspicion that when you try on any other dresses you will you have already made a wonderful choice. But like I said, to put your mind at ease, go try them on.

Answer 5

Try on the other three dresses and come to a decision. Also go by yourself. You don't want anyone, even a close friend or family member influencing your decision. Pick out the one you like. I can't explain it, but when you have the dress on "you'll know". You will feel like a princess and not want to take the dress off. Then after you have chosen bring back family and/or friends and ask their opinion. (Save the best for last of course) They will probably agree because there is something in a brides face that changes when she has found her dress. Her smile is a little brighter, she stands up straighter. You may end up with the one you bought or with a new one. I would wait if you pick a new one though to order it. Just in case you change your mind in a few weeks.

Answer 6

Your wedding day, you want to look beautiful - and I'm sure you will. I'm getting married in November and still haven't picked out a dress - so I do applaud your being able to choose a year in advance.

If you really prefer the AV dresses though, why not sell (or check to see if you can return) the Maggie? The most important things in your wedding, will be what you think and what your groom thinks. If the AV dress will make you feel more confident, will calm any butterflies (even one), make you feel gorgeous - go for it!

Answer 7

Don't worry about naughtwotsit, wedding dresses stay on the racks for a couple of years at least (I know fashion isn't actually your concern though) After I bought my perfect dress, I saw many that made me think wow! wot have I done? But when you think about it, wedding dresses have to be tried on. Just cause it looks good on someone else, doesn't mean it will on you. I'm not trying to be offensive, but wedding dresses are weird, they aint like normal dresses! My dress looks rubbish on the net (on the model),purely because she is flat chested. I'm a ten but with a bust, and I'm certainly no model, but it looks better on me. How odd is that?

Don't worry. I think keep the Maggie, but the choice is entirely yours. Good luck :)

Answer 8

i think you should stick with the dress that you have bought, you bought it way in advance, so you obviously fell in love with it, or you would have waited; when i bought mine, i was worried that i would see one i preferred more, i even tried on a few!! but they didn't feel the same as MY dress, as i had fallen in love with it, and i went back regularly to look at it, and try it on. don't wait for 1-2 months before your wedding as they take longer than that to come in once ordered unless you buy off the rail, and you need time for fittings too. I really think you should stick with the one you have, you might regret it later if you sell it, buy another, and are then unhappy with the new one after all. just think about why you bought yours in the first place! it must be special! Good luck!

Answer 9

Hi this is always a problem but if you like the other dresses and you have tried them on and they look better than the one you have already bought then sell your other dress and get one of the others.

I would say try them on first as Im getting married this year I have tried loads of dresses on and some are absolubtly stunning but when I tried them on they didnt look how I imagined and I didnt really like them after that. My dress I picked it totally the opposite to what I had been looking at and I didnt really like how the one I imagine would look fantastic just didnt suit my bbody shape.

So by all means I would book an appointment to try these dresses on and then see what you think and then make your decision but dont get rid of your first choice in dress yet, until you sure you like the others.

Answer 10

Just try on that dress you bought and seriously think about why you chose it - there are major reasons which drew you to it. It could be the style you just love, that you like the way it accents things about your silhouette, that it makes you feel truly 'bridal' , etc. You bought it for a reason - and only you know that.... I'm sure you didn't choose it 'lightly', since your wedding was far enough away that you didn't choose it in a hurry or anything.
You know, the grass always seems greener.... but it rarely is. Just as you chose your wedding dress for reasons, is the same way we choose the man we want to marry -- and we wouldn't 'switch' just because something we THOUGHT might be better came along. Stick with the dress, just as you would stick with your man....