I have been single all my life. How can I make myself more approachable?

Question

Growing up from middle school to college.. I've never been in a bf/gf relationship. I am now 22 years old, pursuing a bachelor's degree.. My singleness has gotten to me for the past 6 years. There have been many girls that I liked, but could not approach back then. But now I am beginning to approach, but with failure after I ask. I have made a few female friends, but my feelings grew more than just that, while my female friends' did not. What am I doing wrong?? Why could I not get a girlfriend when I was in High School? I'll admit I was a little nerdy in Middle and High School, but it is nerve recking for me. I feel like the "40 Year Old Virgin..." -__-U I've tried to rid my feelings of loneliness and heartbreak of girls' playing with my emotions, but they just won't go away. I was comfortable with my singleness after 9th grade.. now I've gone "love crazy" or something..

Answer 1

you seem like you have low self asteem and low confidence, once you have that you'll most likely get a girl...

Answer 2

Take a deep breath and relax! I cannot speak for all men of course, while looks are important to men and women alike, I find that I am attracted to the way a woman carries herself. With self assurance and dignity, a general comfortable-with-who-she-is kind of thing. You sound as if you have this going for you for the most part. You just need to fine tune it a little. Instead of viewing relationships that tend to be temporary therefore you dismiss them, think of it as people who pass through your life and leave something for you that you might not necessarily get in a long term relationship. Everyone has something for everyone. Like waves that hit a shore and when they retreat they leave it different every time. You may have only a few long term relationships in your life, but you are missing out on a virtualcornucopiaa wonderful experiences and growth opportunities if you don't stop and smell the roses of those short term connections. People come and go through your life in various seasons of your life for a reason they are bringing you something you need.If you just automatically close the door on these encounters, you will get old and unattractive in more ways than just the outer beauty. Don't veiw every encounter as a life and death scenario, enjoy people for just who and what they are. Don't read so deeply into everything. Because while you are doing that your hiding your own inner beauty and gifts under a buschel basket and depriving other of the essence and beauty of you.

Answer 3

First watch these sequences:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=9DYn4-h3Cnk&mode=related&search=

Second, pick up a copy of "The Game" by Neil Strauss.

Lastly, spend a lot of time coming to grips with yourself and realizing who you are. Perfect your art of flirtation with women until you have it honed into a skill. I think you obviously sound like an intelligent guy who has a lot going for him and your biggest drawback is your lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. So you've been single for a-while, wouldn't it sound better to say that you are holding out for Miss Right instead of Miss Everything Inbetween?

You have to roll with the punches and hone your speach to not come off sounding needy, desperate, and not having a backbone. I am picking up on the fact that at some point you are looking at becomming very successful so what's to stop you from applying your mindset for schooling toward dating women? Take the experience(s) you will have and learn from every one of them. If something doesn't work, you try something else, until you find something that will work for you.

Answer 4

It sounds like you have been a guy who was focused on other things. That's ok. That means that you have other plans besides just sex. No girl wants to be wanted just for sex... at least none I know. So, just keep working at it. Try a little small talk before dropping the question. See how that works. Just be you. And, if you have to wait a while for her to come around, then you'll just have to be patient. I know... you don't want to hear that, but it's true. A little practice wouldn't hurt. Chat with some of your girl friends... see what they say. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 5

First build a giant death ray, everyone loves death rays, then get three chickens and a swedish goat, make sure your milk isn't spoiled the put the combonation down your pants and you'll be thelife of a the party, and if not hey whos got the giant death ray? Exactly.

Answer 6

Get over yourself. Yes, your heart will get broken. Women are cruel. But your heart is already broken without a woman. Think of it like this. When you learned to walk, you fell. Heck you fell many times. Still, to this day, you sometimes fall. You are grasping too much at perfection. Perfection dose not exist.

Answer 7

Try to change up your looks, and you must boost up your self confidence, show some killer points to girls so you could attract girls, ^_^

Answer 8

chill my friend ;you are just ;what i call a late bloomer .all you have to do is ;change your image .1st change your hair; style . and then t he way you dress .ever time you see ; a girl .just ask her for her ;her telephone number . you have to get ;lucky sometime .