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awful nightmare. I have 3 children, aged 13, 10 and 4, I keep having this terrible nighmare that I'm really hittng them hard, I don't mean a smack, I mean like fighting with them, like punching my 4 year old. It's making me so scared when I wake up in the night and it's had me in tears. I absolutely adore all 3 of my kids so why this sickening nightmare? It's having a really bad effect on me and I feel really bad that these thoughts could even be in my head. Can any1 explain why I'm having these nightmares?

2007-06-21 22:01:39 · 17 answers · asked by Jane H 4 in Health Mental Health

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We all wish we had the answer to that question and even to our own questions on dream. But check out this website:
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/f.htm
You can choose to believe. It is only a matter of belief, not truth.

2007-06-21 22:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Whilst we are asleep our subconscious sometimes acts out stuff in dreams we would never consider doing whilst awake. The most worrying aspect is the effect your nightmares are having on you. You are not responsible for the content of your nightmares, if we could influence what we dreamt about we wouldn't have nightmares. The thoughts are not necessarily in your conscious mind and therefore pose no real threat to your children. Give yourself a break, you are obviously a good Mother or these nightmares wouldn't upset you so much. If you are still worried, speak to your G.P or a Counsellor who should quickly be able to put your mind at rest.

I used to have a recurring nightmare my daughters and I were in a plane crash into the ocean and were being circled by sharks. My dilemma was whether I should kill them before the sharks attacked, and which should I kill first? Although I would wake up from this nightmare crying I never believed I subconsciously or consciously ever wanted to be in this situation.
I wish you better sleep and peace of mind.

2007-06-22 05:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Hi there,

According to psychological theory influenced by Sigmund Freud the desires of the ID (wishes, fantasies, fears, conflicts impulses, pleasures) do manifest in the subconscious mind and can enter the imagination during sleep. This is a normal coping mechanism. Threatening ID impulses however generally never enter wakeful consciousness because they are threatening to the psyche and so are suppressed.

Your psyche may be suggesting conflict issues or fears you have regarding your kids, or some aspects of your life. This is normal unless of course it recurs often or develops into an obsession. Of course several of these aspects of Dr. Sigmund Freud's theory of Personality still today remain controversial.

It is obvious that you love your kids tremendously. Don't feel guilty, it appears that you are trying to be a good mother. You didn't say if you have a significant male figure/support in your or your kids lives. Dealing successfully with kids is for a parent(s) a very important objective and obviously requires a lot of emotional/psychological energy. In dealing with stressors of whatever kind the ego defence normally puts up resistance, but can begin to feel overwhelmed. You may be entering the alarm stage of distress. You can attenuate the distress before entering the exhaustion stage by seeking help quickly. You may simply require several sessions of talk therapy and strategizing to help and without medication.

Therapy I strongly recommend as an aid in order to help regain control of situations we face as human beings in this sometimes very stressful world we live in.

Trust me, you've made a start . Please choose carefully when consulting a specialist.

Love, regards and God's richest healing for you.

Barry H

2007-06-22 08:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Here is my opinion.

This nightmare is a dream manifestation of your guilt. You feel deep down inside that you are wronging your children in some way. You feel inadequate as a mother because of this. I'm not saying you are abusing your kids directly but you must feel badly about something to that effect. I dont know how else to put it.

Think about this for a couple days and then try to spend some more "quality" time with them doing things that they like to do and you may feel better. What could it hurt?

2007-06-22 05:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jo D 2 · 0 1

Firstly do not worry about it. Dreams are just from the unconscience mind. It may be that you are worried you'll do something that might hurt the kinds in any way? Like even little things like telling them off that may make them feel bad..then that thing could reflect back at you. Or it might be that you're scared someone else will hurt your kids. Whichever way try to forget it. You know you love your kids and thats all that matter. Take care!

2007-06-22 05:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by $J =) 2 · 0 0

My partner suffers form this quite often, he will have horrendous nightmares and wake up saturated in sweat. His dreams always involve the kids in some kind of danger, but he doesn't ever go into details. They must be really bad dreams as he's a real "manly man" and doesn't usually show much emotion. Personally, I think dreams like this are ways of keeping us on our toes as parents. I consider it the subconcious' way of making sure that we are always aware of what NOT to do. If they are really worrying you then ask your Dr to refer you to a Counsellor or Psychologist, but I would not be too concerned, if you had "fantasies" of doing this to your kids then I think it would be a problem, but you are not able to dictate what you dream, are you? Don't feel guilty, ok?

2007-06-22 05:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by lululaluau 5 · 1 0

It isn't nessecarily a bad thing, It could be put down to you being a very protective mother. Its good that you feel bad after the nightmare, which means you realise what was happening in it was wrong.
The fact that you keep having it is interesting. Were you hit as a child? Do you know parents who hit their children? It could be put down to any of these things but rest assured you are a good parent.

2007-06-22 05:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by bruvvamoff 5 · 0 0

I don't think you really want to cause harm to your children, it's just that sometimes dreams manifest themselves in metaphorical ways. Maybe you are simply frustrated, and your dreams are showing this in an exagerrated way? Maybe you are dealing with your own childhood problems?

There's really no definitive answer I can give you. If they really bother you, you can always talk to a therapist about them to get to the underlying issue. As long as you don't actually cause harm to them in real life though, I don't think you should feel so bad.

2007-06-22 05:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by bobo 2 · 0 0

Dreams are dreams.

Having such a dream doesn't mean that you're somehow "secretly" filled with hatred toward(s) your kids.

Nobody at yahoo answers can answer why you're having this dream. We don't know enough. Maybe =you= can answer.

I'll make a guess...

Maybe you put an idea aside (Maybe a crazy idea) - like you wanted to become an artist - something "unrealistic". You had the idea years ago before you had your kids - and now - for whatever reason - you're thinking about it again - but not consciously.

Your subconscious starts to tell you "Hey! My kids stopped me from becoming an artist!"

Voila! You have such a dream.

2007-06-22 05:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by ekbworldwide 3 · 0 2

Hello,

(ANS) Dreams & dreaming often reveal truths which can be shocking or disturbing. But dreams often show us our opposite self, meaning our shadow self. The shadow self (the image I have is abit like father Xmas dragging a big bag behind him) we all have a shadow self, a shadow bag, so as the sun shines its light casts a shadow & so we all without question have a shadow that we take with us ever where we go.

Everything about ourselves we don't like or appears unacceptable to others goes in our shadow bag. All our rage, our anger, our bad words, the things we would have liked to have said to others including your kids goes into the shadow bag.

**The shadow or shadow bag is a metaphor for our unconscious self, this is the part of ourselves which is hidden from us, its hidden from us normally but dreams often reveal whats in the shadow self. The shadow is below our every day waking awareness.

YOUR DREAM,
Your dream shows that you have much unexpressed anger towards your children (thats completely normal for any parents) and the dream is showing you this, but you are horrified or disturbed by this as dream is it seems contrary to how you see yourself. i.e. I'm NOT an angry or unloving person.

**The dream shows that you have anger deep down & your anger is coming out through the dreaming process.

I hope what I've said here makes sense to you, I don't have any answers as such to offer but dreams & dreaming are powerful and can tell us alot about ourselves if we are prepared to listen to them.

CONCLUSION,
Your dream is telling you that your NOT dealing with your real deep down anger, not dealing with how unfair things are for you. Try to allow yourself to feel or be angry I know that sounds weird but holding back your anger is not good for you. Try not to bottle up your real feelings. Easy for me to say hard to brake a life times habits though?

Kind Regards Ivan

2007-06-22 05:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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