why does sex with my man suck?

Question

it used to be so passionate in the beginning... now it's just repetitive and boring. what gives?

Answer 1

To those who say try ANOTHER guy!
With all the respect: Shut Your Pie Holes!!!

If your partner is a good dude in most of the aspects and is just boring in bed, then you should not dump him just for that.

You don't dump a Porsche just because the ashtray is full and dirty!

Listen Kim, what has happened to you is something that happens to 95% of the couples in long term relationships.

If you feel you don't really like the guy by whole, then you have the right to look for another guy.
But if the dude in general worth staying with, then it is crazy to dump him for being bad in bed.
Specially you know he has been good in bed, but he just has forgotten it!
Which one you'll chose?
A jerk who treats you like a piece of crap who rocks in bed, or a nice guy who is worth a longterm relationship and treats you like a queen but sucks in bed?

If you choose the jerk, then you are a whore!Do not read the rest of this answer.I don't care what happens to you.

But If you choose the second one, then I believe you worth the time I'm spending on this answer Just to help you!

Listen sweetheart!
I feel your guy has sex with you just to make sure he has done it!
He's looking at it as a weekly routine.
Like a duty!
A responsibility!
He's not feeling much fun anymore!

So you need to strart doing SOMETHING about it.
But WHAT?

Ah huh!

Kim, If you talk to him about it, I assure you it will not have any use!
Cause the effects(if the talks have any) won't be long lasting and it'll come back to the current situation very soon!
From my professional point of view and based on experience, I tell you TAKE ACTION rather than just talk.
Slowly but Noticeably start changing your the bed life routine.
Let me ask you soem questions.
Compare your current self with the Kim in the begining of the relationship.
Are you taking care of yourself as much?
For example are you passionate about keeping downstairs as well trimmed as you were in the begining of the relationships?
Are you paying as much attention to him as you were paying at the begining?
Are you doing your part in bed just like you were doing at the begining?
If the answer to all these questions are YES, Then you guy has become lazy! you need to push him a bit.
Or he might just be not that hot in nature!
In these cases, a talk can be beneficial!
If he accepts and tries to satisfy you in bed, then he is THE nice guy that you should be proud of being with!
If he does not accept your points and says "I'm comfortable this way", then he's not caring about your needs.
That makes him the jerk that deserves to be dumped!

But if the answer to the questions are NO, then you see that you are also expecting a bit too much from him.
You are not doing your part neither!
So you can start changing your bed life routine!
Start getting passionate again as you were in the begining!
Pay more attention to him!
See if he's into trying new stuff and check what he is exactly into!
Check the new stuff on the internet.
The guy suggesting a Kama Sutra, also is not saying crap!
There is no harm in checking thses stuff!
You just need to put some effort and see what can bring the passion back!

One important thing!
Do not expect him to be able to read your mind!
When In bed, tell him what makes you feel better!
What exactly you like!
If you don't feel like talking about it, guid him.
Take his hand and put it where you want downstairs or up there.
I've met some girls that like their shoulders be slightly bitten while I'm rubbing both nipples and thrusting downstairs!!
It is not true about every girl but not all men also know this.
So ask him what you exactly want!
Notice:If you say that in a husky voice, it would be a turn on for him too!

So the best way is just to start!
Let's say your effort will 95% fail!
But do you know that you'll fail 100% if you even do not start?

So even if you have a small chance of success, take it.

Hope you be able to manage to change the sex routine into passionate love making again!

Good Luck Sweetie!

Answer 2

There could be two main reasons why sex with your guy is lacking these days:

1) Either you or both of you are not attracted to each other as you once were or

2) You two need to indroduce a new technique, foreplay, or some other wrinkle to spice things up in the bedroom.

There are good reasons to believe that he, or maybe even you too have forgotten how to foreplay properly. You two are doing the same things over and over again.

Answer 3

The initial thrill of sex wears off as any relationship gets older. Also realize that (over the long term) the sex will not surpass the quality of the relationship itself. If you are having problems in other areas, expect the issues to eventually transfer over into the bedroom as well.

Answer 4

You need to keep it alive. Try different fourplay, maybe buy some toys, bring favourite foods into it etc. Massage is very good for getting the passion going.
Try doing it on the spur of the moment, maybe in risky places etc.

Answer 5

maybe the both of you need to do something different. you are used to a routine and now that you are used to it, you are no longer excited. role play, discover different ways of giving oral, more foreplay. maybe even substaining sex for a little while and when it's time, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT! if you don't keep the sex in the relationship tantalizing, then the relationship will turn sour. sex does have much to do with the relationship if one wants to admit it or not. act now!!

Answer 6

Simple, guys give love to get the sex and girls give the sex so they can receive the love. Try reading a book on Kama Sutra, thats a good place to start for answers.

Answer 7

It sucks, at least in part, because you aren't making it fun.

It takes two to make good sex, so what are you doing to spice it up?

Answer 8

In the beginning, he still felt the need to woo and win you. Now that he's got you, why should he expend the energy?

Answer 9

Just train him in your very own boot camp. Switch things up and get your classroom open. Good Luck!

Answer 10

You need to spice things up.. You could be a Filet Mignon.. but who wants steak every night?