I have a 7 year old baby cousin.....?

Question

I basically take care of him and I'm only 11 years old. I love him to death and I'm very close to him and would never let anything happen to him. The other day out family (my auntie and my cousin) got into a huge fight and saw what had happended along with his 3 year old sister (I take care of her faily also). My cousin and auntie were really mad at each other and started fighting. My auntie is his grandma and my cousin is his uncle. He was yelling and kicking and screaming to get out of my grip cause he wanted to save his mom (which was in the middle of the fight). My older brother had to hold him on the ground. He doesn't have a anger issue but it's his mom I would yell and kick and scream as well. But every since then he has had a very bad attitude problem. He has been getting in fights with kids at the park and stuff. He has been cussing and hitting and kicking other kids his age. I don't know what to do anymore with him cause he is starting to not listen to me anymore and I used..

to be the only one he would listen to. Our whole family as had problems since then. I can't even control my anger when I see my cousin anymore cause I just wanna get in his face about what he did. I love him lots but he shouldn't of done that with me and my two baby cousins around. I don't know what to say to Donnie to get him under control anymore. Any advice?

We also live in a very bad neighborhood. There are gang bangers walking around every minute of the day and we have a few cop cars here every day. He is being pulled into the gang activity and I need to get him out of it before he gets in huge trouble. His older cousin (that got in the fight) is in a gang and Donnie's(the seven year old) father in a gang before he had Donnie. I'm trying to get him out of the gang activity before his father finds out. I'm involved it but everyday I'm trying to get out. Once you get older and been in it for a while you can't get out so I wanna help him before he get's sucked into it to much.

Answer 1

let him knw the stress and heartache he is causing-also tell him how much u care for him-and want him to be how he used to be

Answer 2

Wow, this is a really tough question. First, what is the boy's mother doing to control this? You really need to speak with a responsible adult about your concerns. Do you have a teacher that you could go to? You shouldn't have to be worried about this at your age. Also, you need to set a good example for him by getting out of gang activity yourself. There are other choices out there and if you study hard and try to be a good person you can accomplish anything in this world. I know that doing the right thing is sometimes very hard, but it is what makes us stronger and better people. Hopefully if he sees that you are not involved in criminal activity and you treat people with respect and not violence, he will start to act the same. Also, keep talking to him. Don't yell or scream, just talk. Talk all the time, especially when it's quiet and not just after an outburst.

I'm sorry that you have to live in this type of situation, but remember you can get out and live a better life, but you can't do that with the gangs.

Answer 3

You're a very brave young lady to be concerned about so many of your family members.

Unfortunately, your cousin doesn't have good role models...neither do you. He's going to grow up just like them unless something happens or someone interferes.

In the best world, we could take you and your young family and move you to a better neighborhood and give you better parents and aunties. Unfortunately, we can't.

All you can do is to find programs, like after-school programs, like basketball leagues, like churches where good people could spend time with your cousin.

As for you, honey, I know it's hard to get a good education where you are, but you've got to try because that is your only highway out of there. You don't want to spend the rest of your life there, so study, make good grades and go to college.

My nephew was 3 the first time he told me he was going to stab me with a knife and drill it in real good, he hated me and was going to kill me. I had real questions how that kid was going to turn out (even though he had good parents).

Last year I saw him, and he was 15. He had a bad mouth on him, dissin his grampa. I was about to whack him on the head and say, "don't you have any manners?"

I saw him a few days ago. He let his hair grow, it's kinda curly and cute. He's helpful, kind, he carries on great conversations without getting into fights. I asked his mom what happened...he joined the church. It turned him around.

I hope you can find help, sweetie.

Answer 4

Wow!!! You sound very grown-up for an 11 year old. Your grammar and ability to express yourself is far better than most adults on yahoo.

Honey, you need to talk to your Aunt about it. Tell her the change you've seen in your cousin and how you feel the fight is affecting your lives. Have an open heart to heart with whoever will listen to you. Then see if they will change on their own, if not be strong and try to focus on keeping your life straight and get a good education. Go to church because they can be a help to you when times get really tough. Take your cousin with you and try to help him see that there is a way out of a bad situation. Maybe he just feels hopeless and frustrated with how life is for him. Just try to love him no matter how naughty he acts. Hope fully one day he will see that being violent is wrong.

Answer 5

If your little cousin is still angry about hat happened then he will let this anger out in the way you explain. like fighting other kids etc. Get him to talk to you about how he feels, sit him down and tell him you are worried about his attitude and that you want to know if he is ok. Ask if what he saw frightened him and let him talk about it. Explain to him that he has a choice, he doesn't have to be angry like that. He perhaps thinks that this is the way he is supposed to be after seeing adults doing it. Tell him people prefer those who control there anger and explain its not a nice way to behave, that the adults were wrong to fight like that. Sometimes adults don't always get it right but he can decide for himself if he is going to be nice and have people like him or not. Good luck x

Answer 6

He was so wrong for doing that in front of his mother. and yea, gangs are not something to mess around with, I guess. Explain to him that the kids at school or at the park don't know his ma, but if they did they'd be on his side. and not to pick fights over the small things. He's 7 so you'll have to remind him every time til he starts remembering on his own.