Is my mom a case of Mental illness? What do you think? Any doctors in the house?

Question

we feel our mother is a mental case for the following reasons:
1. Prefers "boyfriend" over her children, because she has said when her children grow up, they will leave her alone and atleast she has the "warmth of a man" next to her. (every guy she has been with has left her)
2. Constantly repheats herself over and over. She is at work and will call every 2 minutes asking if we did what she wanted and after we said yes.
3. COMPLETELY denies that something is wrong with her, & says she is perfectly normal, also says "we" are the crazy ones for pointing it out to her. She always feels she is correct, and never is wrong.
4. Emotionally abuses family members [i.e. i should have aborted you]
6. has so many clothes in her room she can't even sleep in it. everything is piled up to the point she cannot open her room door
7. constantly has her room door locked because she thinks someone is going to steal something
8. prefers to spend $$ on clothes instead of putting food on the table.

What can I do? I want to take her to a mental institute to have them check her out. My father took her about 15-20 years ago when i was a baby to have her checked out and they had said she did have some sort of chemical imbalance. I need help for her desperately. It has definetely affected our lives. please someone. thanks!

Answer 1

Think she needs help, but people with problems never see that they have problems it's always everyone else. They cannot see to forest for the trees. My feelings is she may never see her problems and all you can do is bear with her.

Answer 2

i'm no dr. but i know more than an average person about mental illness for my own family and me , i've had no choice i had to go through it . yes she has mental disorders. she has very low self esteem and very little confidence in herself or others . i'm answerring as though this is unbiased and it has to be to some extent . it's ok to resent it. if you really want to help her find out how to change , go to web sites there are tons. you do not have to let her know how bad you feel she is ,disssapointed and hurt at this time if you can , she has probably hurt you deeply , she's hurt , scared lashing out at just anyone IF SHE KNEW SHE COULD SToP BAD BEHAVIOR AND START A NORMAL WHLOESOME WAY OF LIFE SHE wOULD DO IT try to hold on until you find out if she has something she really can't help . don't juge to hard {easy to say hardest thing ever to do} it will add to her guilt , low selfesteem and she will becone worse. think about how you would feel if you were in her place . she doesn't have needed tools to help her cope. her past has done domething and sometimes there are chemical imblances /she thinks she's just a big screw up wheter she admits ir not , if she only found out that lots of the stuff she does and even she doesnt understand why, just the first step of knowing why helps . then if she sees some ,or all (,even a little, can stop is ahuge relief,) it willl take100 lbs off her load . she'll have setbacks, not do what she should ,all kinds of stuff . but it takes time , are you really willing to be what you should not have to be and help her unconditionally?it's huge ,a big job you need support ' if she's using drugs or drinking or both it has to somehow be dealt with . think how you might feel when you say or do or do not do whatever , even small comments. she may deserve them , but if a mental disorder is the reson , she can't stop; she probably needs medication , but i hate it . it ends up causing lot of problems if abused , others in home steal an get addicted ,it kills our precious children .i'm so glad i was way out in the country , riding horses and workiong hard but alot of good some very real abuse . but i had animals and gardens a aabeautiful purple room with every sort of purple stuffed anything. a long purple snake with a pink bow (makes me smile still) saying or doing or not doing to i need help with how to stop getting sidetracked . now think how the way u do andsay and act make her feel if she was blind you could not be real mad for her bumping into your vanity and breaking a bottle of georgio. same thing . just can't see why she does stuff . she thinks of it alll the time or tries to numb it. she probalby feels she doesn't deserve one moment of peace after the way she did . much less true happiness .noway she's hurt people she loves. lots . she hates herself most.if she decides to try be happy simply to be bearable to be around , someone shoots her down . sith body language , dirty looks or words or no words . one of the most painful things for some is knowing noone cares . it hurts just like a stab . has to heal . bust opens . i'm nuts you know. don't do anything i say . but look up good stuff and do what the experts say . love terry ps i probably am exactly wrong . look up opposite of everything and youvegot it . i''m not making light , i know this is a real need and i h\ope you get help. dhr may be using and saying she pays for high priced clothes to make up where it went ( just a hunch ) probably not correct look up drug addiction too see if she has the digns , if she id she wil. pay attention to small things and actions.honey get help for her so you can be fullfilled adn have a loving moither you need , deserve, and want AND YOUR NOT AT FAULT later gator

Answer 3

Hon,
it sounds to me like your mama has bi-polar disorder.
Frequent outbursts of rage, the clothes and shopping?
Her 'mania' is mostly rage(not the happy mania you'll read about)
Look up Bi-Polar disorder.
I'll bet you'll feel better just reading a little bit!
Good luck to you,
D

Answer 4

Did ur mum ever suffer from anything that is shock in her entire life?

there is another illness other den mental illness that is depression.

Answer 5

Yes, from what you write, she needs treatment but I doubt she will see a doctor. Unless she becomes violent, you cannot get her committed against her will.

Answer 6

Sound almost just like my mom.

Answer 7

Yep!
She's a looney, I'm sorry to say.

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Answer 8

sorry, but i think she has mental illness.