I've known my bf for 6 years and we've dating almost 9 months. He's always been a sweetheart and while we have our arguments, everything always works out. Or so I thought.
Yesterday my friend went through his email (dont ask me how she got his pw), and she found a convo between him and his ex who moved across the US. He was telling her how he wanted to marry her, make her the happiest woman, and he had a "licking" surprise for her. And I honestly couldn't blame her for egging him on, it was all him. This email is from Feb. and they haven't talked since.
When I asked him about it, he says that he knows he made a mistake, and he's telling me how much I mean to him, and he says that if he was really into her, he would've kept in touch. We had been dating for about 4 months at that point, so another excuse he threw out was that we weren't "serious" and so since I was emotionally distant (true), he wasn't sure where we were going.
If you were in my shoes, what would you think?
2007-06-21 20:36:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While he was upset when I told him what my friend did, he say he thought it was nice that she'd to a backkground check for me, and he won't change his passwords because he has nothing to hide. He says he's willing to do anything to make this work. But it still happened, you know?
He does tend to talk in a very flirty manner with girls and while I'm usually fine with it, the whole "licking" surprise is a little over the line.
2007-06-21 20:37:23 · update #1
UM,NO !! He does NOT deserve a 2nd chance,he's been playing you for awhile it seems like and when you think you have all your problems worked out,he pulls the same **** again. It's not worth it for you to continue to go through that every single time. It also sounds like he still has plans to go see the other girl too. You deserve some-one that will be 100% committed to you and you only.
2007-06-21 20:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I wonder is, why you never dated before.. if you've known each other for six years. ?!!
Do you think he would say those things to you too "wanting to marry you.." Also, would you want him to say them to you. And if so, give the guy another chance.. but just be careful.
It's hard though, cause 4 months into a relationship is usually the strongest (not always) .. but it's typically the "lovey dovey" stage. And for him to be thinking of an ex at that time.. would hurt.
It would make me wonder.. whether you're really meant for each other, or maybe you guys would be better off as friends.. maybe like you were before.
Another thought, You say they haven't contacted since feb. But do you think maybe she had moved on already, and therefore hasn't contacted him.
Sorry, it's alot of things.. Just giving my thoughts.. Hope it helps you to think this thing through :)
2007-06-21 20:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 08:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by coriolan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sorry, no second chances..he blew it. The fact that you're long distance makes it even worse. Move on, as he'll always have 'excuses' if he gets caught again. He has a new password, a new account..that's why he's not worried about changing it and the fact there's been no 'contact', that you're aware of anyway. hmmmmmm
2007-06-21 20:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wonder if the two of you would even be together anymore if she had warmed to his advances. It sounds like he was rejected and hasn't contacted her further for fear of making a fool of himself. Think back to how you were feeling about the relationship at the 4 mth point when this all happened. How would it have affected you then, if you would have dumped him then for it, then I say you should dump him now. Don't let it slide just cos it happened 5 mths ago.
2007-06-21 20:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by j81s79j06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him whats the licking surprise. i think of a letter hehe. well since he isnt changing his email pw maybe theres nothing to hide. or he can be the type who think it over, if he is that smart, then he basically let u no he has nothing to hide purposely...slick huh...well, these things happen in movies only hehe. well, give him a chance.
2007-06-21 20:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by pd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly suggest you leave him.
Seems like he doesn't know what he wants and he has got no sense of responsibility.
Also, I think your friend has done something very very wrong. Should not have gone thru his emails without his permission.
2007-06-21 20:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not gonna stop from getting an alternate email...don't do it sweet heart he's a guy I would know...if he flirts..he WILL act and is not worth it...find yourself a RESPECTFUL guy!
2007-06-21 20:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advise to you is have fun while he is with you but once he leave break all ties with him, coz believe me long distancet dnt ever work. you just end up falling more in love with him and you get your heart broken. so enjoy FOR NOW!!!!!! good my friend. p.s. how can you stand him talking to girls like that in front of you. wake up girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-21 20:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by sugarsweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt deserve a second chance. Trust me, Im a guy.
2007-06-21 20:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by rhkenji 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋